It is comfortable at the friend stage. The dating stage can be scary. The dating stage can be where one leaves their comfort zone. Why would anyone want to leave their comfort zone? It would be uncomfortable to me.

I was always under the impression that if things happen when you least expect it, then relationships tend to click better than planning a meeting.

But then again, I've been told I'm not always the sharpest pencil in the pack. So thats just my analysis of the situation.

MEN,,,on a single's site,,,look at your pic,,,and SPEAK,,well,,MOST men on these sites do that,,TRUST ME<----how many times ya heard that
lol,,IF a dudue is REALLY interrested in you HE won't run from your conversations,,BUT,,if he was hoping you'd say HI SEXY to him and you DIDN'T,,then good for you,,and shame on him..

Your are of Asian culture to a degree,,and your very private and old school in your manners,,,BOTH of these will draw men out from under rocks,,,lol,,so be careful for the BS artist's,,,and know its not you here making the conversations short...

You COULD?? Write some more about what you wanting to find,,or some things more about you just so it DOESN'T look as short as it is,,,because a man who is REALLY looking for one woman,,many look at your words and really READ THEM,,lol...
And some that are very short in words,,won't be thought of as their (YOU) are really seeking what you say?

Just give the guys time,,and one out of ten,,might be real with wanting to know you,,not lay you...

Don't settle for less than who you know you are,,,
and be ready for some players to just act a good part..
Keep on smiling and being real,,and some good dude will come alone who you just know,,,you like...and he will feel that toward you.
lastly let me say,,YOU carry your age well..and Good Luck with all you seek to find....

so many things,,

from being too needy and desperate right off the bat

to being too cautious and untrusting right off the bat

sometimes the gal that speaks like she is ready to meet the guy for the first time in a hotel room is scary

sometimes the gal that speaks like she has to be married first is scary


,,it all depends upon the type of guy,,,,

I think the guy that knows you are what he wants, is gonna stick and not scare so easily though,,,


good luck

I think the guy that knows you are what he wants, is gonna stick and not scare so easily though,,,


^ I like this and it is so true that I think this statement alone answers a lot of the questions on here. If it's meant to be it will happen, it takes 2 tho and a lot ocmmunication, but ya, I'd rather have one man in my inbox who really wants me, than 20 who just wanna talk dirty....so the those latter 20 I do not care if they flake...as that is not what I am looking for anyway


I had a guy today tell me I was too needy and I cracked up....I am sooo independent that THAT is what usually scares them off - he doesn't know anything about me tho as we had only exchanged 1 or 2 messages - he accused me of being too needy because I was not interested in casual sex.....so there are genuine conversations ,adn then there are men making ridiculous accusatios because they have a selfish agenda.

If you have no interest in dating, I can see not wanting to leave your comfort zone. But, if you want to date, you'll have to take chances.

I have made some great male friends on here, Maybe just be yoursefl and have fun, dont bother with the ones who dont want to talk to y ou,
There are heaps out there who are happy to be friends and are great blokes.

The others well there are hundreds of them, its the genuine ones who matter.

so dont worry about what you are doing just relax and be patient

truth be told 98% of men dont like a woman with a mind of her own that speaks it most of my friends are guys and they cant stand it bad thing is they are the ones that taught me to be that way lol they will get over it and one that cant accept it aint worth the time to begin with.

It's not that I'm stressed behind not having a male friend, it's just I can't understand why ever guy I meet has no interest in friendship. My daughter has several guy friends that she just talks to nothing sexual about their relationship a lot. They get a woman's view point on things from her and she get's a male's view on things from them. Just wondering is it me. It would be nice to go out with a male friend and just talk and laugh without being attracted to each other.

Hell I don't need the internet to scare them off I can do it in real life....Hahahah wondering how long the one I got now will hang around But then it could be me that runs them off is why they go

well it is probably just laziness on the part of some of the guys

or maybe they want more than friendship and less than a relationship

both take work either friendship or a relationship if want to be good at them

Id love to be your friend but I have a reputation on here as a Perv!!!

Ok I understand that,
i am the opposite, I dont have women friends, never have, all my friends are males, so maybe i scare women off

Yeh but thats how we like you to be Mikey

usually when i hear i love you the first chat is a good run sign for me lol but usually i wait to see an it usually is the same ending if they say love or long term first chat. lol dont know if that is what you are doing or not just my experiance. with women online.

I can relate!!!!

Dont worry sis, we have the same situation. Those men are just confident in their emails but not looking "real", "serious" relationship. In short, they like having fun XD