since it more than likely won't happen......I don't have to worry about it at this time.

You really think military families make it seem simple? You must know different military families than I do. They sacrifice quite a bit.

Since I am not in love with someone at the moment, I could guess at what might happen, but I wouldn't know what I'd actually do until it happens. Right now, I love where I live, so I don't see me going anywhere anytime soon. Then again, I am also staying away from long distance relationships, as I prefer dating someone I can actually see when I want.

Falling in love online could be considered a false emotion. Best to fall in love when you meet in person ^_^

Only live once. I would and am. My feelings are as follows to the issues most have.
1:Family- To me family moves and grows with each new place. I was lucky enough to have my ex willing to work with me about visitation with my son. My siblings are all adults and can take care of themselves or at least have no choice now lol.

Friends-are the family i get to choose in this day an age communication is at the push of a button. If i end up living in paradise then they can always come visit and vice versa.

My home is wherever i make it.

Money is just money and there are ways to make money no matter where you are.

So its a no brainer for me.

I definitely DO NOT think it is easy, however what i said was they make it seem so simple, but i KNOW it must be hard. Based on all the people i have met, who say, they love it, they get to live in other countries for like 4-7 years at a time and then move somewhere else and experience a new culture. as if they love it.

No, I cannot leave my job and moving my children is not an option at this time..
However waiting is not a problem.
My son in law is in the army and he and my duaghter make it work, he often leaves for months at a time and next 7ear he is sent off for a year. They have little comunitcation when he is away but are both commited.

So for me having someone who I love is more inportant then where he is..
I would rather wait years than get mixed up with the wrong bloke again.

I think many people in this thread may have misunderstood my whole question...

What i am meaning to say, is if you fell in LOVE.....I mean of course you would be doing more than chatting in forums here. Meeting, dating, talking on phone, have intimate relationships with someone, the whole "LOVE" package...

I guess what sparked my curiosity is I see a lot of couples on here..who live so far apart and some in separate countries, even tattooing their names on one another and doing different stuff. I am wondering How hard is it to live so far apart and call it love. I dont think I could be in LOVE with someone at all if ONE of US was not willing to move.

I agree, family can be where you go. I have a tight nit group of friends i consider family as well. But I think as a unit a husband a wife and their children are what make up the individual family. The family that raises you often drifts apart and even when we live in the same county we hardly see each other or communicate other than birthdays and holidays so I dont think it is a HUGE ordeal to move out of town...Communication is only a phone call away to our fam.

Ok . thats me, and it is very hard..

It is hard to have someone who you know is wonderful and wants to be there for you living 20 000 ks away,
It is hard when you are missing someone not to be able to just touch them.

But
I have a man who loves me.
I have a man who listens and would do anything within his power to make me feel ok.
I have a man who would move to be with me if he could.

and yep if I could move I would move in a second, however it is not plausable to live in a country that I cannot support myself and my children.

So for me even if I have to wait for 8 or 9 years for him to get here, I would rather do that and know that I am loved.

Now in all that we make sacrifices to make it work.
We have skype and talk for hours each day,
He has come to Australia and stayed with me and I have gone to America to stay with him, all in all we have it worked out that even if he cannot move here we will still spend around 20 weeks a year with each other.

Now if i married a truck driver here, he would only be home two days a week and the other 5 he would be in the truck away the other 5.
If he worked here in the mines he would do 3 weeks away and then one week home..

Since it is pretty normal here for people to have to work away and travel because we are so remote it is pretty normal to have to be apart..


so yep it is hard, but ultimately it is worth it if you both put in the effort and dont have trust issues

There is always a way out. Pick up and go! What's the worse that can happen...you'd end up in a homeless shelter . You are in charge of your own life Lex...no one is going to save you but yourself

No I couldn't keep a long distance thing going.

What about the children? :O

I did fall in love here. Then I moved to Tennessee and then my parole officer violated me for leaving the state without permission

I dont see a reply to your quote, but i am not calling anyone in particular out. I see MANY couples on here falling in love, getting engaged and what not....but yet also keeping the distance between them. I Dont think i can handle being so far from the ONE i love. I see so many couples on here like that.

I got an answer ....

I am deeply in love with a woman I have met here on Mingle. After a year I flew out for our firt date. I fell hard for that gal.I am flying out again next month for our second date.


At the luao in Louisiana, me and TxsGal lay there drunk in bed and talked till about 3a.m. She too asked if we were gonna move.

No.

At this point, we both just gotta be grateful for the precious thing we got.

Her Business and life is in Oregon.

My Mom and Dad live here in Texas. My brother is in Iowa. My sister lives in Dallas.

I stay here because, as my parents age and it's catching up to them, I feel it is my duty as a son to be there for my parents when they just simply need a hand. I love my family beyond all words.

When, in the eventuality of time,my parents pass away....then, I can think about moving. Till then, She is my dream in the garden of Eden that is Oregon sea coast. I bake on the cookie sheet Hell...(Texas)

What is really important is the way I feel. I told my sister as I was explaining Mingle to her......

"I would rather be madly in love with someone half the world away, than to sleep another night in the same bed with someone who just doesn't care anymore"

She agreed completely.


I also explained to my best friend...she said "I want what you got"

Oh bummer I keep quoting and didnt post on it, I had to go back and edit it.

I did not want a long distance relationship, noway do I want to be away from the man I love it suxs.
But I started talking to anaconda arms on in the communities and mucking around in messages and it just happened, not by choice I can assure you.
I even sort of hoped that maybe when we met it wouldnt be as bad but its worse..
So I love a man who is not even in my country,
we are engaged
I have his name and handprint tatoed on my butt.

and I wouldnt swap it for the world

My children love it,
They have someone on the other side of the world who sends them things
They get to laugh at him when he is here with his accent and funny ways
They get to take his son to school with them when he is here and show him off.
They get to travel to the other side of the world every christmas to have a white christmas for there 9 weeks school holidays.
and they know their mum is happy.
They do not mind at all
Plus I guess for the older boys they dont have another man completely invading their territory

I think that is great, I am really happy for you. I am glad you found love. I hope one day, he will move to you. I do not know you to call you out nor would i do that to anyone but i see MANY couples on here who have met and fell in love I am wondering what is next for those people.

There is no such thing as Love without sacrifice. You two are sacrificing your physical touch for your love, but i am sure you make up for it in other ways...

Happy for your children ^_^

For me personally, I just want the children to have mama and papa with them in person, all the time.

There's some things only a mother can give, and some things only a father can give. Real hugs are better, then a kind word on video chat :)

Yep and I think that is what everyone wants, but a father who is there to support any way is better than one who just doesnt care of bashes you , and verbally abuses you.

I guess since my kids had a Dad who took the time to bash, demoralise, steal them away and threaten them with death.
That to them someone who takes time and just shows them they care is worth an awful lot. In someways it has given them time to get to know and trust him without the fear that he may change.
We are a strange family but for us it is working.

I'm sorry to hear that your children went through that.

There's nothing strange about learning to trust, after a horrific ordeal such as that.

My family is not perfect, but I enjoy time to myself, to learn, how not to be like them... and it's tough.