but how would u decide?

Well this would be something that would be discussed like everything in a relationship. I would be what is best for both jobs all that, then a decision made.
What I said is what I hope for Don't always work that way.

and sometimes neither can move, so you just wait.. it just depends what works and what commitments you make.

For sure, i am probably more foolish then most

Yeh we all luv you Krupa

I see what you are saying, so OKAY if the LOVE had developed, I would move if it meant staying together. I would not let stubborness destroy us. One of us has to be willing to move and if we are in love, I would think, we (the couple) involved would not think twice about it. Spending your life with the one you love is like gold at the end of the rainbow. If either party is not willing to move-then I would question the validity and depth of their love.

I agree and every relationship starts somewhere. Either online or downtown or at a mutual friends party. Leaving an establishment in person-with a flirty stranger is as dangerous as meeting up with an online stranger. But devoting everyday, for hours on end is developing a relationship. The snare here is even ten year marriages can go sour, so it's like at what point do we REALLy know someone. I can be slaughtered just as easy meeting a man at a resturaunt and agreeing to leave with him and relocate for coffee(per say) as easy i can be kidnapped for meeting up with an online stranger. But say this is not the case, you meet this person and you find you really do love another, I am not against moving to live a life with them. Its a risk as in most things in life.

I prepared this thread, and I except all comments offensive or not. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and controversy is my friend.

If you found love here you will be a damn fool as much as you will be a damn fool for finding love in the church or at a friends birthday party, or a dance club. Love turns everyone into a giddy fool. Thats what makes it so fun.

This thread is about, IF you did find love here, would you be willing to move to be with this person who holds the key to your heart? Or for some, they are comfortable and would risk losing love for the stability of their current situation. POINT IS Love is RISKY business....Are you willing to take risks in LIFE, Andrew?

Fate would decide on which party is more willing or able.

Do either of you planning on moving at some point down the road though?

Dont be scurred!

It's a big mistake when a guy thinks he will definitely end up being with me just because he wants me. I would have to have a special bond with a potential lover, otherwise i just don't end up feeling like we'd get on well with eac other. Also, we both need to have stuff in common. I'm not so sure anymore. I was naive to think it was quite safe. It makes me feel slightly nauses to be honest, as i'd find it odd if i was about to meet a cyber date without feeling at least a tiny bit of doubt. Think it would be a tad unnatural to not be slightly phased by the whole thing. Nerves and caution can be great safety detectors. Also seen a recent incident where a woman went to meet her online date, and the next day he murdered her. So i approach with caution. And i would always take someone i knew along with me. You never know.

tough, i hope it is easier said than done.

I can agree with this. I guess people just weigh all the factors. I guess what I don't get is how can you fall in love with someone who lives that far away that you never get to see in the first place? But that's just me - I lack imagination...

I believe at some point in time you have to make sacrifices in love. Moving to a new location might be one and there are other reasons. I sacrificed 5 years in a long distant relationship.

I made it clear in the very beginning when we met that was not the kind of relationship I wanted, and we should just call it quits, but he convinced me he was moving to start a new life where I lived and wanted us to be together. He was suppose to move but he didn't. Year after year he just made excuses for why he couldn't. So as much in love with him as I was I had to make the sacrifice of letting him go.

I believe that two people have to be on the same page with each other about what they want in a relationship in order for it to work. If you're honest enough with each other and love each other you can bend and make sacrifices that are right for your relationship because in the end you are both reaching for your goal as a couple.

See this is exactly what i would be afraid of...the part where you are lead on, year after year. I bet that must have been hard and frustrating for you....Long distance relationships are very scary and do require a lot of maintenance and sacrifice. Also arguments...time is sparse and precious in LDR.

an some of us have more time than others....I totally agree with much of what u are saying but if I do not get the vibe frm "him" I will not devote

Love is absolutely real without sacrifice...but will it be enough to carry a relationship?...usually not, IMO...at some point...some point down the road...there will be a conflict...and someone will have to give a little to keep that conflict from creating and becoming a rift....if it is the same someone over and over again...plenty of sacrifice was made but nw the balance is off...the love would certainly suffer..I would have to ride it...for awhile...and see what the fates have in store....Despite the strong feelings I may be experiencing, I would be afraid to make a move of any sort too soon.

there definitely has to be a "vibe" and some good intuition involved to get into a LDR first, but if that is solid...I would hope he would move to be with me.

I like it. Except...now I am just speaking from experience,situations differ but do not under-estimate the impact it has on the child....not saying don't do it...just be alert for breakage and be ready and willing to pick up and put some pieces back together, before the damage is irreparable....sorry, I realize that you did not ask for advice...it's just what came to mind.