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Only live once. I would and am. My feelings are as follows to the issues most have. 1:Family- To me family moves and grows with each new place. I was lucky enough to have my ex willing to work with me about visitation with my son. My siblings are all adults and can take care of themselves or at least have no choice now lol. Friends-are the family i get to choose in this day an age communication is at the push of a button. If i end up living in paradise then they can always come visit and vice versa. My home is wherever i make it. Money is just money and there are ways to make money no matter where you are. So its a no brainer for me.  I like it. Except...now I am just speaking from experience,situations differ but do not under-estimate the impact it has on the child....not saying don't do it...just be alert for breakage and be ready and willing to pick up and put some pieces back together, before the damage is irreparable....sorry, I realize that you did not ask for advice...it's just what came to mind.
Are you referring to children and visitation? What if the child is older and already spent over half their life with you? Plus will spend entire summers and holiday breaks with you? Do you think the effect will still be harmful? Its a hard decision indeed. I think a lot of people like military and many jobs, architects, engineers...they work out a lot and use video chat to communicate with their wives and children is this no different... |
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Only live once. I would and am. My feelings are as follows to the issues most have. 1:Family- To me family moves and grows with each new place. I was lucky enough to have my ex willing to work with me about visitation with my son. My siblings are all adults and can take care of themselves or at least have no choice now lol. Friends-are the family i get to choose in this day an age communication is at the push of a button. If i end up living in paradise then they can always come visit and vice versa. My home is wherever i make it. Money is just money and there are ways to make money no matter where you are. So its a no brainer for me. I like it. Except...now I am just speaking from experience,situations differ but do not under-estimate the impact it has on the child....not saying don't do it...just be alert for breakage and be ready and willing to pick up and put some pieces back together, before the damage is irreparable....sorry, I realize that you did not ask for advice...it's just what came to mind.
Are you referring to children and visitation? What if the child is older and already spent over half their life with you? Plus will spend entire summers and holiday breaks with you? Do you think the effect will still be harmful? Its a hard decision indeed. I think a lot of people like military and many jobs, architects, engineers...they work out a lot and use video chat to communicate with their wives and children is this no different... please don't get me wrong I am not passing judgment or trying to predict doom...I realize we have moved from the hypothetical to your reality and I appreciate and respect your quandary...I am just saying don't underestimate...be alert...be careful to not appease your own feelings of doubt or guilt with adult logic...because in the end it is how the child views it (this will be based on age and current feelings of stability and security etc) that will dictate the affect it has on him or her...and again, I am not saying don't do it...just don't underestimate...be alert..this comes from some experiences I had with my own children and what it came down to was me underestimating the impact..I would not have made a different decision I just might have better seen and handled some of the ramifications a bit differently...as to the last part..I do think it is a little different..... |
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Well, I couldnt move away from my kids, that is for sure. I dont judge anyones decision on here. I know you arent either. I guess the only person who knows their children best are their actual parents. I am sure they would make a decision accordingly.
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Well, I couldnt move away from my kids, that is for sure. I dont judge anyones decision on here. I know you arent either. I guess the only person who knows their children best are their actual parents. I am sure they would make a decision accordingly.
right back at cha sweets.
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Well, I couldnt move away from my kids, that is for sure. I dont judge anyones decision on here. I know you arent either. I guess the only person who knows their children best are their actual parents. I am sure they would make a decision accordingly.
right back at cha sweets.
I can hardly leave my daughter at preschool...  this is her pic-
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Well, I couldnt move away from my kids, that is for sure. I dont judge anyones decision on here. I know you arent either. I guess the only person who knows their children best are their actual parents. I am sure they would make a decision accordingly.
right back at cha sweets.
I can hardly leave my daughter at preschool... this is her pic-
OMG..that was my daughter..she is now 26, so about 23 years ago..geez..she has these big brown eyes and had these perfect locks of coily hair..and would look at me...as I was leaving...my heart broke EVERY morning for about 6 months from that alone....then, I would get the same look when I came to pick her up...she wasn't ready to leave yet... 
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Well, I couldnt move away from my kids, that is for sure. I dont judge anyones decision on here. I know you arent either. I guess the only person who knows their children best are their actual parents. I am sure they would make a decision accordingly.
right back at cha sweets.
I can hardly leave my daughter at preschool... this is her pic-
OMG..that was my daughter..she is now 26, so about 23 years ago..geez..she has these big brown eyes and had these perfect locks of coily hair..and would look at me...as I was leaving...my heart broke EVERY morning for about 6 months from that alone....then, I would get the same look when I came to pick her up...she wasn't ready to leave yet...
Ahhh, she sounds like my girl, except her eyes are blue and she has these huge pouty lips...you know, its her first year going to school. The first two weeks (first day included) she took off and was like, Later Mommas!----My heart was like, oh, okay then...I guess she is fine without me, sheez..   I was the one who more upset and missed her. LOL. Lately though, she has been more clinging to me as i go to leave, and if i come later to pick her up(i have her on full day-in case of work) but I try and get her by 3pm, if i wait till 4pm sometime to run extra errands, she is bawling her eyes out, saying she misses me....So we switched. I was crying and now its her..LOL (she is my last baby though, my tubes are tied and I feel for that weird reason i have bonded to her in a weird, I dont want you to grow up way...
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If you fell in LOVE here would you move to be with your lover...or just ride it for as long as you can??? I guess I am wondering HOW strong is your LOVE and Devotion...Is love REAL without sacrifice??? hmmm, good question... four more days... 
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