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| Topic: What's Your Take On This Situation? Is This Girl Into Me? | |
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Thanks Troublebug. Yea things so far seem great. Really enjoying getting to be around her. But yea I think I will ask her about being exclusive. Time seems right.
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Wait wait wait. dont tell me you are still beating around the bush on these issue,
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Wait wait wait. dont tell me you are still beating around the bush on these issue, Well Im still beating around the bush in regards to whether or not I should as her if she wants to be exclusive....I mean I want to. But Im getting alot of advice saying "why would you rush it?" But am I rusing things? We've known each other since last year. We talked and texted since July. We've gone out and hungout a few times since the start of school. So I mean how much longer should I really wait?.. |
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i think she is an alien and she is trying to get you close to her so she can steal your intelligence
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i think she is an alien and she is trying to get you close to her so she can steal your intelligence wouldnt be the first time.. not srs maybe srs |
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I've Come To The Conclusion I Messed Things Up
I won't sum it all up. But basically well I just read back over this weeks texts and fukkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk. Ok Monday I went over to her place because she wanted to watch a movie. It was early like 5 30? Anyways it didnt go quite as expected. And all that happened was I had my arm around her part of it and then we literally madeout for like 1 minute before she said it was late and that I should go (srs) her roomate was there and it was a schoolnight. Since that evening she hasnt initated texting at all. Reading back over my texts I I have initiated the last 3 convos on tuesday, wendesday and thursday. And our tentative plans to get together today were dashed by a friend of hers coming into town. She says she wants to hangout saturay but Im not holding my breath. I know shes busy with school and just starting a new job but damn.......Im just getting a bd feeling and I know I dougbt myself alot but having been in a similar situation before I jus feeling like Im losing a chance with a girl I really liked. What do you uy think is it basically over? |
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Wait wait wait. dont tell me you are still beating around the bush on these issue, Well Im still beating around the bush in regards to whether or not I should as her if she wants to be exclusive....I mean I want to. But Im getting alot of advice saying "why would you rush it?" But am I rusing things? We've known each other since last year. We talked and texted since July. We've gone out and hungout a few times since the start of school. So I mean how much longer should I really wait?.. no, you are not rushing things. hey, from your story these girl likes you, so why the waiting? Listen boy you are not the only one admiring her. Delay is dangerous. 
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^^^^^^^Im pretty sure its over anyways unfortunately. We had a movie night on monday. At the end of it I just got kind of a bad vibe for a couple of reasons. Since then I realized I was the one who initated texting everyday since tuesday.Im not going to text text her again unless she does frst. Also she said she wanted to do something saturday possibly but at this point Im feeling kind of low and Im not really holding my breath on it.
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Hi MrDolla,
I'm new and read your post from beginning to end. I can truly relate to what you're going through as I am going through a very simular situation...trust me...it is all too familiar! I'm still not sure why you think it's YOU who messed things up and I'm really not trying to sound negative but could it be that she was not telling you the whole story as to why she targeted you? I mean really, maybe she is/was on the rebound and needed someone to fill the void. Have you two ever discussed this? Maybe, her prior interest has resurfaced. I know that sounds kinda harsh but it happens all the time! What I'm trying to say is don't always assume that it's YOU who did something wrong. I thought your tactics were very sweet and enduring! You really sound like a good guy! Heck, if you were a lesbian I would date you lol! But really, I truly feel what you are going through in your head and heart because as I said, I'm going through something simular, however, I KNOW that I didn't do anything to make her want to put on the brakes. So don't beat yourself up, you were/are great! Blessings! |
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^^^^^^^Im pretty sure its over anyways unfortunately. We had a movie night on monday. At the end of it I just got kind of a bad vibe for a couple of reasons. Since then I realized I was the one who initated texting everyday since tuesday.Im not going to text text her again unless she does frst. Also she said she wanted to do something saturday possibly but at this point Im feeling kind of low and Im not really holding my breath on it. Well, dont be hard on yourself. What is meant to be will be. 
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So on Friday I asked if she would want to go see a movie on Saturday. She seemed pretty excited and really was looking forward to it. Well anyways fast forward and saturday (yesterday) comes around and she texts me in the afternoon saying
"My friend meghan asked if I coul take her to the doctor after shes done work. Im really sorry but I have to bail on our plans :(" I was like "I understand. We will have to do something another day." Anyways at like 9pm I text her saying "So is your friend doing better?" she responds saying "Her spine hurts and the doctor says she has a cyst. but hows your evening going?" I told her I ended up haning out with some friends and asked what she was up to. She tells me "Meghan ended up dragging me to a get together. I know no one her." I was like WTF the same friend who was feeling so bad you had to bail on our date felt good enough to go to a party!!! Im sorry but like wtf is that not just a little bit of a slap in the face? |
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Hi MrDolla, I'm new and read your post from beginning to end. I can truly relate to what you're going through as I am going through a very simular situation...trust me...it is all too familiar! I'm still not sure why you think it's YOU who messed things up and I'm really not trying to sound negative but could it be that she was not telling you the whole story as to why she targeted you? I mean really, maybe she is/was on the rebound and needed someone to fill the void. Have you two ever discussed this? Maybe, her prior interest has resurfaced. I know that sounds kinda harsh but it happens all the time! What I'm trying to say is don't always assume that it's YOU who did something wrong. I thought your tactics were very sweet and enduring! You really sound like a good guy! Heck, if you were a lesbian I would date you lol! But really, I truly feel what you are going through in your head and heart because as I said, I'm going through something simular, however, I KNOW that I didn't do anything to make her want to put on the brakes. So don't beat yourself up, you were/are great! Blessings! Haha well Im definitely not a lesbian though I like girls lol. But thanks I appreciate the post. And no she told me she had never had a boyfriend or long term relationship because she had never met a guy she really liked. So wtf. What I think she meant to say is she's met the guy she didnt know how to treat him though. Because seriously thi is the exact reason I told myself before I started going out with her that I was one with any serious elationships and then Bam of course I start dating her and it ends like this |
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Just curious guys. Whtas your take on what happened yesterday? And should I call her to ask whats going on? She hasnt texted me all day
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Hi,well my opinion is this...she doesn't know what she wants...she likes the fact that u r chasing her...let's be honest a lot of girls and some guys like the chasing...I would just take a breather...if she texts u fine and if she doesn't let it go as it might be difficult to do...if u can't do that and just wanna know an answer just be upfront and real with her tell her straight and to the point...she don't answer or respect u in return for it let it go..if u wanna continue u to be her friend u can but cut it off so u r the friend not the guy waiting in the wings...hope that helps...am sorry u goin through that cuz u like her a lot..don't like it when ppl play games
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 10/02/11 06:42 PM
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I've Come To The Conclusion I Messed Things Up I won't sum it all up. But basically well I just read back over this weeks texts and fukkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk. Ok Monday I went over to her place because she wanted to watch a movie. It was early like 5 30? Anyways it didnt go quite as expected. And all that happened was I had my arm around her part of it and then we literally madeout for like 1 minute before she said it was late and that I should go (srs) her roomate was there and it was a schoolnight. Since that evening she hasnt initated texting at all. Reading back over my texts I I have initiated the last 3 convos on tuesday, wendesday and thursday. And our tentative plans to get together today were dashed by a friend of hers coming into town. She says she wants to hangout saturay but Im not holding my breath. I know shes busy with school and just starting a new job but damn.......Im just getting a bd feeling and I know I dougbt myself alot but having been in a similar situation before I jus feeling like Im losing a chance with a girl I really liked. What do you uy think is it basically over? possible, but as difficult as it may be I'd say chill. Wait a couple days to text, preferably call - tell her u have something on ur mind & you wanna talk maybe get an idea during that talk of where she is - is she playing hte field ? meaning she dates multiple men and so might not want to consider exclusive now - I would just keep the talk light - don't talk "exclusive" until you get better signs from her....unless she brings it up she was pretty much dissing u on movie night but lose the idea that u did anything to FK it up - sometimes thes things just happen hopefully a talk with her will let you know - if u have been friend zoned, or if she is dating other people (in which case u need to also) |
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I feel that if I walked into a room & sat next to a cute guy...I would be uncomfortable doing that. I feel that if's meant to be...then it is.. Of course..I'm older & in my early 50's; however, if you ask my kids & good friends..they will tell you that I don't look nor act my age...
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possible, but as difficult as it may be I'd say chill. Wait a couple days to text, preferably call - tell her u have something on ur mind & you wanna talk maybe get an idea during that talk of where she is - is she playing hte field ? meaning she dates multiple men and so might not want to consider exclusive now - I would just keep the talk light - don't talk "exclusive" until you get better signs from her....unless she brings it up she was pretty much dissing u on movie night but lose the idea that u did anything to FK it up - sometimes thes things just happen hopefully a talk with her will let you know - if u have been friend zoned, or if she is dating other people (in which case u need to also) Im going to call her this morning. Im going to tell her that I do really like her and that I've liked her since we first met at school. And that I've really enjoyed getting to know her better and going out and that I feel like we could have something really good if we took our relationship up to the next level. I also want to tell her that Im really bad at telling people I like how I really feel about them and that I just really wanted her to know I really do like her and would be very happy if she was my girlfriend. At the same time though Ill say I know thats how Im feeling but obviusly I dont know how she feels. An if she doesnt feel the same way at least she knows how I do an where Im coming from. |
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Here's a little update for y'all. Last night I worked and the whole time I was thinking about this situation. I finally decided I was going to call her and tell her how I felt seriously. And let her know that I think we could be really good together but that that was just was how I felt and that I just wante to let her know and that I didnt expect her to necesarrily feel the same way.
Anyways well I just called her. She seemed really excited and said she felt the same way and that she was really sorry about missing out on our plans. But asked would I like to get together wednesday after her midterm. She said she wanted to date too and that she was glad I called her and just kind of cleared the air. So maybe not a total failure? And I realize you guys might say oh that was really stupid and you shouldnt have done that. But I thought about it alot and I decided no matter how she felt I at least wanted to let her kno exactly how I felt and not have any regrets afterwards. So yea I little update |
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Cool! I'm happy for you! I just hope she's sincere and knows what she want.
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id have to ask lol
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