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| Topic: What's Your Take On This Situation? Is This Girl Into Me? | |
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For what it's worth....I think she is being rather obvious. However, sometimes we don't immediately recognize the obvious because we over-analyze the situation. Texting vs. phone call... She's feeling things out, trying to get close while maintaining some form of detachment. She's looking for an "in" without trying to get too close too quick. She's letting it build for when you see her again. If you want it, go for it. She made the first move. Anyhow, this has all been covered already. I just happened to stumble on the thread. If it was me in the same situation, I would have had the same exact thoughts you did. Been there a few times, and even had to tell a few that I wasn't interested in being more than friends. Of course, that was after I had spent a few months sorting it out inside my own head first. I don't like guessing games, so eventually I have to just buck up and roll the dice. Yea that's the thing at the end of the day I just have to ask her out and if she says yes then thats great and if she say no then thats fine too. We have agreed to do something though now lol I just have to try and make it a date or more than just as friends |
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She's giving you all the signs, bro! There are still females out there who are just waiting for the guy to make the first move. With all the talking you two have done, I'm sure you're aware of her interests...ask her out! what do you have to lose?! If she's into you, great. If she declines, well hey, you still have a cool friend :))) Haha I dont know I have a bad time being friends with grils I was interested in for the most part. But maybe your right. Anyways hopefully she is interested. She wnt on a camping trip for the weekend but nce shes back Ill try and ask hr out for real. Im just interested to see where things could go |
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well clearly she is into you or she wouldn't bother. I mean it's one thing to talk to someone in class - it's another to be texting all day while you're apart. That is more than polite friendship. I just do not think you should do anything about escalating things unless you have broken things off with the other girlfriend as how you are (mis)handling things now is not fair to either of them. Once you are free & clear call her. It's more personal than texting, and ask her if she'd consider spending some time with you & pick something to do that you'd both enjoy and ask her to join you -nothing complicated- maybe a day hike or a bike ride & coffee, but something that is just the two of you. (In addition to the party invitation) just my thought since you asked. I agree. I think calling someone shows a higher level confidence and just overall is a better way of communicating. But yea Im definitely going to take her out once shes back..And to clarify Ive been single a while now. So no worries I dont have a girlfriend at the moment! hay it's OK - just a suggestion as a lot of people DO play the field I was merely suggesting it cuz u sounded fairly serious about schoolgirl and just don;t mess it up  by havin' y'alls ex drama & shyte sounds like u got it covered tho The ex is history! And while I will still talk to other girls even if Im dating. I would never cheat or do anything dishonest. well I certainly did not mean to imply that you would do anything dishonest. I was throwing that thought out there as a consideration....I apologize if it sounded like I was implying anything bad about you....again just intended as "food for thought" food for thought based on experience actually. |
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If she comes to the party check her handbag at the door. You don’t want her to produce an anvil and drop it on your head...that may hurt!
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Good luck dude ^_^
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well I certainly did not mean to imply that you would do anything dishonest. I was throwing that thought out there as a consideration....I apologize if it sounded like I was implying anything bad about you....again just intended as "food for thought" food for thought based on experience actually. Oh I didnt take your post bad at all! I appreciated it. Haha can always use more food for thought |
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Good luck dude ^_^ Thanks. She went camping for a few days and I wont be able to talk too er until shes back. Thats fine. But Im thinking almost once she is back just asking hr out on a date straight out. Is that too forward? Or showing a good amount of confidence? Or should I wait till weve hungout a while? |
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Good luck dude ^_^ Thanks. She went camping for a few days and I wont be able to talk too er until shes back. Thats fine. But Im thinking almost once she is back just asking hr out on a date straight out. Is that too forward? Or showing a good amount of confidence? Or should I wait till weve hungout a while? well if could butt in - if a guy asks me to "hang out" I take that pretty much as he is interested - maybe - kinda as tentative because if he was really interested he'd ask me out - even if it's just very casual like a walk - coffee - a bike ride....shopping hang out to me means he wants FWB (which I do not want) but of course the particulars are between u & this girl - just throwing in my .02 I'd rather date first THEN hang out I have learned from bitter experience that if I hang out first ....the dating part doesn;t happen cuz he thinks he doesn;t have to date me to see me if we can just hang out -jmho |
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Edited by
MrDolla
on
Mon 08/29/11 01:33 AM
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Good luck dude ^_^ Thanks. She went camping for a few days and I wont be able to talk too er until shes back. Thats fine. But Im thinking almost once she is back just asking hr out on a date straight out. Is that too forward? Or showing a good amount of confidence? Or should I wait till weve hungout a while? well if could butt in - if a guy asks me to "hang out" I take that pretty much as he is interested - maybe - kinda as tentative because if he was really interested he'd ask me out - even if it's just very casual like a walk - coffee - a bike ride....shopping hang out to me means he wants FWB (which I do not want) but of course the particulars are between u & this girl - just throwing in my .02 I'd rather date first THEN hang out I have learned from bitter experience that if I hang out first ....the dating part doesn;t happen cuz he thinks he doesn;t have to date me to see me if we can just hang out -jmho When I say hangout I don't mean FWB just to clarify. I just meant I havent seen this girl all summer so I thought we might just hangout some and I would kind of be able to see how she's feeling about me? Or where she was coming from in terms of interest level. But on the other hand I think if I do end up hanging out that that could lead to just being friends which I dont want either.. So Im thinking maybe tomorrow if we talk at all I will just ask her out on a date. Just so there's no confusion between us and so that she knows Im inteested in her like that. |
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It seems obvious,she is interested in moving further with you.
BOL 
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It seems obvious,she is interested in moving further with you. BOL Thanks! With my luck I need all that I can get haha. I guess Ill jut have to find out how interested she is now.. |
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Edited by
MrDolla
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Tue 08/30/11 04:41 AM
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So I haven't asked her out yet. I dont know whats wrong with me......Im just having trouble being as flirty as I'd like with this girl. I just want to be light and humorous and flirty when we text and I just end up asking boring questions or just going back and forth about our days....Should I just straight up tell her I like her and ask her out? Keep in mind I havent told her I liked her before ever let alone brought the subject up at all....I just feel like I need to do something to show more interest.
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I asked he yesteray if I could take her out when she gets back. And she responded saying
"I like the sound of that :)" Seems like a greenlight. |
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I asked he yesteray if I could take her out when she gets back. And she responded saying "I like the sound of that :)" Seems like a greenlight. YEAH!!! Enjoy yourself. THAT is definitely a greenlight!! |
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I asked he yesteray if I could take her out when she gets back. And she responded saying "I like the sound of that :)" Seems like a greenlight. YEAH!!! Enjoy yourself. THAT is definitely a greenlight!! Awesome! good to hear you think so too. Either sunday or Monday we'll hopefully do something |
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Edited by
MrDolla
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Mon 09/05/11 02:02 AM
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So she got back in town this evening with her roomate. So they unpacked and whatever. So I asked her
"What are you up to tomorrow?" and she replied "Going grocery shopping is all I know of haha" So I messaged her saying "Well if your free in the afternoon or evening we could hangout. I know you might have stuff for school to do though" (school stats tuesday) so sh replied with "Yea :( I do have to get ready for school, but sometime soon! :) " But she just said all she had was grocery shopping I thought? Unless she thought I meant going on a long date, I only meant getting together for a little...Im sure she is busy so I shouldnt worry about it. Or what do you guys think? The last thing I said too her tonight was "For sure. We'll one of these days will work" and she just said " Yes exactly! haha" Idk is she flaking or shoul I not get worked up over this at all? Im telling myself it is nothing and isnt an issue. But at the same time I guess I don't know if I should just wait now for her to contact me? Or i the way I leave talking there put it on me to contact her again? Cause I dont want to appear all butthurt either over her not being able to hangout. |
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I'm not sure she gets that you want to take it to the next level. It's good to be friendly, but you're not being that obvious in what you text her? You just seem to be being very friendly. Not even hinting that you'd like to date her. Keep us updated. I'm not trying to put you down. I'm just trying to say that sometimes a woman can't tell unless it's obvious. Good luck. :)
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It might have been a passing thing and it might have passed!
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I'm not sure she gets that you want to take it to the next level. It's good to be friendly, but you're not being that obvious in what you text her? You just seem to be being very friendly. Not even hinting that you'd like to date her. Keep us updated. I'm not trying to put you down. I'm just trying to say that sometimes a woman can't tell unless it's obvious. Good luck. :) Your probably right. I hate talking too some one for a long time without getting too see them in person as well..Though I o really think she has alot to do today to get ready for school. So her being busy isnt that big of an issue..I think she knows I wante to take her on a date though. |
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It might have been a passing thing and it might have passed! Maybe so. Im going to wait for her too contact me. I really do think she was busy today but at the same time I dont know where her interest level is at, so its just hard too say for sure. |
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