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Topic: Looking for a husband
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 08/07/11 04:51 PM
I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years. Most of what I've seen you post here is about wanting a husband. Why not try to get to know people first, then see what happens? i thought to find out which guys are interestd in mariage and kids and geto know them and c if we are comptbl. Idont wanto fal inlove with a guy that never wanto get maried or hav kids. So now i date only guys that wants mariage and a familie. You've stated many times that you're willing to relocate anywhere. You've also said that you have no money. How do you plan on relocating for this husband you're looking for? Sing, with all do respect I have not read anywhere where she stated that she had no money. And I think I am starting to understand her point. She is doing what I'm doing. I want to date but I won't date just anyone. I won't date people who never want kids, or to get married. Even if it's one date I won't do it. At the same time, I don't want to dive into anything serious right away. Nice has stated that she wants to date but she does not want to bother with anyone who does not want kids or marriage in the future. I think everyone just needs to accept the fact that we all have different opinions, and personal preferences. And I don't think the OP is a scammer. There was no mention of a bank. She didn't ask for money. However, because I am a smart woman, I always keep one or two doubts in the back of my mind. There is a new scam out known as romance scams. So ... in conclusion ... I leave you with this website: romancescam.com Actually, her profile stated she has no funds. Normally, I wouldn't ask something like that, but she did put it in her profile.

Niceladyrealy Joined Sun 05/29/11 Posts: 279	Sun 08/07/11 04:55 PM
And im not obsesd.i have other things i do when im not on mingle. I spend severl hours helping my 8yr old brother whthis homework,iwash dishes and clothes,go shoping,create training manuals for ms office 2010is a curent project and training people.obsesd mean you do only onething. I do many things.i take pictures to make birthday cards and christmas cards. Etc. My goal is to get maried bynext year christmas time,so yes uwil find me working hard trying to find the right man. I dont viewmy selfto be obsesiv of anything in life. I have goals and i make plans to reach them ontime. Always.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Sun 08/07/11 05:05 PM
Just my two cents -- If she knows what she wants and she's not shy about letting it be known, where's the harm in that? Also, I have to respect someone who goes looking for someone who wants the same thing she's looking for, as opposed to someone who lies about what she's looking for in the hopes she can reel someone in and then convert them to her TRUE agenda, even though that is NOT what the other person wants. Her methodology may be a little unorthodox but at least she's not trying to trick anybody into anything.

Niceladyrealy Joined Sun 05/29/11 Posts: 279	Sun 08/07/11 05:47 PM
Just my two cents -- If she knows what she wants and she's not shy about letting it be known, where's the harm in that? Also, I have to respect someone who goes looking for someone who wants the same thing she's looking for, as opposed to someone who lies about what she's looking for in the hopes she can reel someone in and then convert them to her TRUE agenda, even though that is NOT what the other person wants. Her methodology may be a little unorthodox but at least she's not trying to trick anybody into anything. thankyou for understanding,this is exactly why im doing this. I don't want some one to make compromises and sacrifices for me,we all tend to start doing that once we fall in love.ifyour not interestd in havn kids then date sum1 else and ifyour not ready for mariage then don't date me,itsimple asthat. Being straight forward and honest is always betr.especialy when it involves peoples emotions.i dont believe its right to play with people and hurthem. Im looking for some kind loving guy that would be able to live a long happy life with me,once you geto know me you wil find im a very nice lady.i tend to make sacrifices and compromises for those i love,and this is why i choose to date those that have the same goals than me.good luck in your search, i hope we all find what were looking4soon.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 08/07/11 05:49 PM
Nicelady, good luck to you. I hope this works out for you. Can't wait to hear who the lucky man will be!

Niceladyrealy Joined Sun 05/29/11 Posts: 279	Mon 08/08/11 03:48 AM
I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years. Most of what I've seen you post here is about wanting a husband. Why not try to get to know people first, then see what happens? i thought to find out which guys are interestd in mariage and kids and geto know them and c if we are comptbl. Idont wanto fal inlove with a guy that never wanto get maried or hav kids. So now i date only guys that wants mariage and a familie. You've stated many times that you're willing to relocate anywhere. You've also said that you have no money. How do you plan on relocating for this husband you're looking for? Sing, with all do respect I have not read anywhere where she stated that she had no money. And I think I am starting to understand her point. She is doing what I'm doing. I want to date but I won't date just anyone. I won't date people who never want kids, or to get married. Even if it's one date I won't do it. At the same time, I don't want to dive into anything serious right away. Nice has stated that she wants to date but she does not want to bother with anyone who does not want kids or marriage in the future. I think everyone just needs to accept the fact that we all have different opinions, and personal preferences. And I don't think the OP is a scammer. There was no mention of a bank. She didn't ask for money. However, because I am a smart woman, I always keep one or two doubts in the back of my mind. There is a new scam out known as romance scams. So ... in conclusion ... I leave you with this website: romancescam.com Actually, her profile stated she has no funds. Normally, I wouldn't ask something like that, but she did put it in her profile. yes i did say im not a rich woman and to wear of scamsters and to inform the guys that are looking for rich woman,thathey must look elsewhere.i justarting of my own busines creating training material and training people,curently im busy with ofice 2010material this month. Im not realy a materialistic persön i have given away söme ofmymoney to charity andonate mytime to educate an orphan boy and others. Iam areal woman lookin for areal man.maybe ido,soundto goodtobetrue and i asure you i am good.one good woman left on this planet.ifyour interestd movefaster.

Niceladyrealy Joined Sun 05/29/11 Posts: 279	Mon 08/08/11 07:30 AM
I understand thathere are manyokers and scamers outhere and many ofthem hav wastd my time,thats why im stil single. I can asure you that my pictures areal and so are my facts and personality. Im 39 and urgently looking for akind supportive loving intelgnt man to sharethe rest ofmy life with and iwilove him and support his goals and nevr betray him. This is a önce in a lifetime ofr.betr be quick. Theres not many of these inthe world. Its true the woman of your dreams are waiting right here for you,and ifyou dont like me theres a few nice gils onthisite.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Mon 08/08/11 08:13 AM
Nicelady, I read a post that you have to find your husband here on mingle. While I agree this is one avenue, not understanding why your limiting yourself to just mingle, or are you? There must be other sites that are specifically for those who are seeking spouses...

bruneibabe Joined Wed 08/03/11 Posts: 42	Mon 08/08/11 08:35 AM
Friendship is the first step of love...dont try to put much hopes on looking for a husband right away or you'll be frustrating at the end..take it slow... I do want a husband as well..ive been trying my luck on some dating sites but got a few disappointments a bit with some dishonest people... So, i suggest myself not to rush the things and do it step by step... I am also a lonely woman who have kids...been stressed on coping with the lonliness after divorced... But i started to find out what is right and wrong things to do with myself as being as a role model for my kids... Some of my friends have told me that I am a good looking woman, so why wait??? Nah...Nah...Nah... Having a good looking and personality, is not so important to me... It does not mean that I can attract a man just in a few mins by my looks. I do waiting, searching and hoping for someone...but for a someone who would really appreciate my love... Not like my ex husband who have hurt me so much, cheated on me, leave me alone during pregnant... So i advice you to always becareful with someone you wanna meet for real... Sending you loads of luck and hope you found a good husband for you hun... :)

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 08/08/11 12:35 PM
Just my two cents -- If she knows what she wants and she's not shy about letting it be known, where's the harm in that? Also, I have to respect someone who goes looking for someone who wants the same thing she's looking for, as opposed to someone who lies about what she's looking for in the hopes she can reel someone in and then convert them to her TRUE agenda, even though that is NOT what the other person wants. Her methodology may be a little unorthodox but at least she's not trying to trick anybody into anything. BINGO! I think some are shocked that someone can be so upfront and honest, but I see this as a freshing change from the boring norm of the "who are you really" game that we have to play with people who wear so many layers. Give me the real you upfront and you become instantly attractive to me as a person if we are insinc. Play the guessing game and I politely walk or play you back, but I will never take you as a serious person able to make straight decisions.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/08/11 01:02 PM
Just my two cents -- If she knows what she wants and she's not shy about letting it be known, where's the harm in that? Also, I have to respect someone who goes looking for someone who wants the same thing she's looking for, as opposed to someone who lies about what she's looking for in the hopes she can reel someone in and then convert them to her TRUE agenda, even though that is NOT what the other person wants. Her methodology may be a little unorthodox but at least she's not trying to trick anybody into anything. BINGO! I think some are shocked that someone can be so upfront and honest, but I see this as a freshing change from the boring norm of the "who are you really" game that we have to play with people who wear so many layers. Give me the real you upfront and you become instantly attractive to me as a person if we are insinc. Play the guessing game and I politely walk or play you back, but I will never take you as a serious person able to make straight decisions. I think you are overlooking what some have said. As I've said before, I prefer people to be honest and upfront from the beginning. This goes back to the other thread about how much to people hold back in the beginning. Unfortunately, many do hold a lot back. I think the issues with this thread were not that she wasn't being upfront about what she wanted. It was more that a husband is pretty much all she's talked about here. But, hey, if it works for her, great.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 08/08/11 01:05 PM
Just my two cents -- If she knows what she wants and she's not shy about letting it be known, where's the harm in that? Also, I have to respect someone who goes looking for someone who wants the same thing she's looking for, as opposed to someone who lies about what she's looking for in the hopes she can reel someone in and then convert them to her TRUE agenda, even though that is NOT what the other person wants. Her methodology may be a little unorthodox but at least she's not trying to trick anybody into anything. BINGO! I think some are shocked that someone can be so upfront and honest, but I see this as a freshing change from the boring norm of the "who are you really" game that we have to play with people who wear so many layers. Give me the real you upfront and you become instantly attractive to me as a person if we are insinc. Play the guessing game and I politely walk or play you back, but I will never take you as a serious person able to make straight decisions. I think you are overlooking what some have said. As I've said before, I prefer people to be honest and upfront from the beginning. This goes back to the other thread about how much to people hold back in the beginning. Unfortunately, many do hold a lot back. I think the issues with this thread were not that she wasn't being upfront about what she wanted. It was more that a husband is pretty much all she's talked about here. But, hey, if it works for her, great. I agree, it is refreshing to see someone lay it out there. That reason and her essay is why I like her, I think she'd be a fun partner.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 08/08/11 03:05 PM
Just my two cents -- If she knows what she wants and she's not shy about letting it be known, where's the harm in that? Also, I have to respect someone who goes looking for someone who wants the same thing she's looking for, as opposed to someone who lies about what she's looking for in the hopes she can reel someone in and then convert them to her TRUE agenda, even though that is NOT what the other person wants. Her methodology may be a little unorthodox but at least she's not trying to trick anybody into anything. BINGO! I think some are shocked that someone can be so upfront and honest, but I see this as a freshing change from the boring norm of the "who are you really" game that we have to play with people who wear so many layers. Give me the real you upfront and you become instantly attractive to me as a person if we are insinc. Play the guessing game and I politely walk or play you back, but I will never take you as a serious person able to make straight decisions. I think you are overlooking what some have said. As I've said before, I prefer people to be honest and upfront from the beginning. This goes back to the other thread about how much to people hold back in the beginning. Unfortunately, many do hold a lot back. I think the issues with this thread were not that she wasn't being upfront about what she wanted. It was more that a husband is pretty much all she's talked about here. But, hey, if it works for her, great. We're cool sing. I just want nicelady to have the space she needs to let us know how she feels without anyone picking it apart. love and peace Sis

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Mon 08/08/11 03:07 PM
well oldhippie and michael... are neither of you seeking a wife?

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 08/08/11 03:47 PM
well oldhippie and michael... are neither of you seeking a wife? I can't answer that on the grounds that my girlfriend will cut my hair off in the middle of the night.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Mon 08/08/11 03:50 PM
well oldhippie and michael... are neither of you seeking a wife? I can't answer that on the grounds that my girlfriend will cut my hair off in the middle of the night. hahaha better your hair than OTHER THINGIES that some crazy chica's have been cutting, biting off as of late!!!

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 08/08/11 03:56 PM
well oldhippie and michael... are neither of you seeking a wife? I can't answer that on the grounds that my girlfriend will cut my hair off in the middle of the night. hahaha better your hair than OTHER THINGIES that some crazy chica's have been cutting, biting off as of late!!! YIKES!

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 08/08/11 04:24 PM
well oldhippie and michael... are neither of you seeking a wife? I am not in a good financial position for the next 2 years.

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Mon 08/08/11 04:46 PM
Honesty, Openness and Willingness. Beautiful. I wish you all the luck in the world.

KevinHecka Joined Fri 10/01/10 Posts: 67	Mon 08/08/11 09:19 PM
I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years. I really appreciate this ladys attitude. For once (in a long time) I see someone who says what they want with no b.s. attached. No games, no flirt around, just tossed out her wants in a very open manner. Good on you Kevin