Topic: Looking for a husband
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Wed 08/10/11 01:27 PM
well i am 24 yrs old guy, mba educated, belongs to cultural family

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Wed 08/10/11 01:39 PM



Are you having any luck yet? You are in a bit of an out-of-the-way location.


I've recieved emails from men in Africa who is also looking for marriage.....I've already been married, and will never walk down that path ever again in this life!smokin

But GOOD LUCK to the OPflowerforyou


Just when I was about to pop the question. Great, thanks a lot find. You heart breaker. love ya!


brokenheart sad AWWW mg. You said teh same thing to me a week ago. You Cheap FLOOZY!! rant sad sad2

slaphead rofl

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Wed 08/10/11 08:15 PM



Are you having any luck yet? You are in a bit of an out-of-the-way location.
with internet and aeroplanes one can reach anyone.
yes i have received some messages and am waiting for some more.i have not met any1 in person,yet

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Wed 08/10/11 09:26 PM




Are you having any luck yet? You are in a bit of an out-of-the-way location.


I've recieved emails from men in Africa who is also looking for marriage.....I've already been married, and will never walk down that path ever again in this life!smokin

But GOOD LUCK to the OPflowerforyou


Just when I was about to pop the question. Great, thanks a lot find. You heart breaker. love ya!


brokenheart sad AWWW mg. You said teh same thing to me a week ago. You Cheap FLOOZY!! rant sad sad2

slaphead rofl


The other women mean nothing to me, your the only one.

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Thu 08/11/11 09:20 AM
Iam ready to marry u real if u are searching for real like me.talk to me

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Thu 08/11/11 09:47 AM
Marriage should not be the first step, why not try to make friends so that you can love and be loved. I'll like to be your friend. Can we?

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Thu 08/11/11 02:06 PM

Marriage should not be the first step, why not try to make friends so that you can love and be loved. I'll like to be your friend. Can we?
i never said mariage is a firstep in a relationship for me, iwill obviosly geto know someone first and if we cannot be good friends for starters then i cannot persue marriage. I was merely trying to find guys that are interestd in mariage and children, since i had a relationship before where the guy wasnt interestd in mariage or children althoughe liked me, iwanto avoid such incidents by simply only finding dates with guys that would oneday consider mariage and children.

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Thu 08/11/11 02:13 PM




Are you having any luck yet? You are in a bit of an out-of-the-way location.


I've recieved emails from men in Africa who is also looking for marriage.....


im not realy interested in dating african or south african guys. The american idated before was very kind and honest if they have more of those in america then im interested. The south african guys ive dated were very selfish abusive andishonest.

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Thu 08/11/11 06:57 PM


Marriage should not be the first step, why not try to make friends so that you can love and be loved. I'll like to be your friend. Can we?
i never said mariage is a firstep in a relationship for me, iwill obviosly geto know someone first and if we cannot be good friends for starters then i cannot persue marriage. I was merely trying to find guys that are interestd in mariage and children, since i had a relationship before where the guy wasnt interestd in mariage or children althoughe liked me, iwanto avoid such incidents by simply only finding dates with guys that would oneday consider mariage and children.


That is a very logical approach.drinker

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Thu 08/11/11 07:31 PM
Hi Nicelady

Here's what I think. If there are women who still have a problem with you after 9 pages of you being very polite and telling they have a problem period. If they can't see the sincerity in your words by now they have a problem with sincerity themselves and probably carry that attitude with them when talking to whomever. I would imagine that if we look at their history they are argumentative toward people and defensive in their dealings with others. They have probably been called on the carpet before for being outspoken and derogatory. I'm sure there are some that can deal with that type of personality but you my dear have shown your self to stand above the norm (if that is the norm) and shine.You will have a long and happy marriage before they have the first day of true inner peace with another.

I'm looking forward to hearing how this all turns out as I'm sure many are. The approach of being totally straight forward and honest combined with positive attitude will no doubt be one of the characters your husband will adore about you. I also want to point out that you have been anything but desperate here as you have share both the long term and short term style of a truly mature woman. This is not just about the quick fix for you but a process that involves the whole getting to know period right up through the wedding and beyond. What guy would not treasure such incite if looking for marriage themselves.

You have done mingle a great service with this thread.

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Thu 08/11/11 07:35 PM
Edited by singmesweet on Thu 08/11/11 07:38 PM

Hi Nicelady

Here's what I think. If there are women who still have a problem with you after 9 pages of you being very polite and telling they have a problem period. If they can't see the sincerity in your words by now they have a problem with sincerity themselves and probably carry that attitude with them when talking to whomever. I would imagine that if we look at their history they are argumentative toward people and defensive in their dealings with others. They have probably been called on the carpet before for being outspoken and derogatory. I'm sure there are some that can deal with that type of personality but you my dear have shown your self to stand above the norm (if that is the norm) and shine.You will have a long and happy marriage before they have the first day of true inner peace with another.

I'm looking forward to hearing how this all turns out as I'm sure many are. The approach of being totally straight forward and honest combined with positive attitude will no doubt be one of the characters your husband will adore about you. I also want to point out that you have been anything but desperate here as you have share both the long term and short term style of a truly mature woman. This is not just about the quick fix for you but a process that involves the whole getting to know period right up through the wedding and beyond. What guy would not treasure such incite if looking for marriage themselves.

You have done mingle a great service with this thread.


MG, just curious, why did you only bring up women in your post? Surely you've seen that it isn't all women who suggested other approaches. Even the last person the OP responded to was a man.

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Thu 08/11/11 07:41 PM

I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years.


Egads! What are you so desperate?

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Fri 08/12/11 05:47 AM
The previous post goes to show it's definitely not just women who are wondering about this kind of approach.

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Fri 08/12/11 06:07 AM


I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years.


Egads! What are you so desperate?


If you read the entire thread I doubt you will see (at least I didn't) any desperation but more a straight to the point gal saying what she wants.

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Fri 08/12/11 06:10 AM

The previous post goes to show it's definitely not just women who are wondering about this kind of approach.


Just wondering, why are you so against her approach? She's just being honest and upfront.

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Fri 08/12/11 06:15 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Fri 08/12/11 06:21 AM
Hey, if her approach works, great. I just have to wonder about it, because it's all she posts about. If it was working, we probably wouldn't hear about it so much.

That being said, I do hope things work out well for the OP. She knows what she wants and is very persistent about getting it!

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Fri 08/12/11 08:19 AM



I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years.


Egads! What are you so desperate?


If you read the entire thread I doubt you will see (at least I didn't) any desperation but more a straight to the point gal saying what she wants.


Yes but based on her other thread she wants an "American". Sorry if I have distrust for someone online not from America looking to marry an American.

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Fri 08/12/11 08:21 AM

Hey, if her approach works, great. I just have to wonder about it, because it's all she posts about. If it was working, we probably wouldn't hear about it so much.

That being said, I do hope things work out well for the OP. She knows what she wants and is very persistent about getting it!

finding a life partner takes time. she mentioned she has gotten several messages. when people have a specific goal in mind they tend to focus on it. with all the threads started by men and women looking for an intimate encounter, the one looking for a committed relationship is the one that gets labeled desperate. she has her eyes on the prize, why not encourage her, or even steer like minded men her way. other people (not you sing) seem to want to c*ckblock this nice lady

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Fri 08/12/11 08:49 AM

Hey, if her approach works, great. I just have to wonder about it, because it's all she posts about. If it was working, we probably wouldn't hear about it so much.

That being said, I do hope things work out well for the OP. She knows what she wants and is very persistent about getting it!


Maybe you should look at the other threads Nicelady does post on before making comments like this. This is not all she posts about. I really don't get why you are treating her this way. She started a thread on cancer treatments and other topics. What's up girl?

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Fri 08/12/11 09:57 AM


The previous post goes to show it's definitely not just women who are wondering about this kind of approach.


Just wondering, why are you so against her approach? She's just being honest and upfront.
Vivian,MG and i find nothing irregular about being precise and straight to the point.The lady is not playing hide and seek she knows exactly what she want.This is no fairy tale its genuine i wish i had some kind of supernatural power,i was gonna give to her,her desire.Best wishes woman