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Why did this have to turn into a big deal? She said she's looking for a husband. End of story.
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The previous post goes to show it's definitely not just women who are wondering about this kind of approach. Just wondering, why are you so against her approach? She's just being honest and upfront. I have no problem with it..I wish her all the luck she needs...it's not me that is wondering about it. |
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Why did this have to turn into a big deal? She said she's looking for a husband. End of story. |
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It occurs to me that it really doesn't matter one way or the other what anybody thinks about her methodology -- the only thing that counts is whether or not she has any success with it. And we just don't know the answer to that question yet. For the moment, I just have to say that I don't see any reason for her NOT to try it, given what she's looking for and the time frame she's established.
And I think it might be to her advantage that what she's looking for is considered the norm, in the long run. Because I can say from personal experience, saying "I'm looking for someone who DOESN'T want marriage and kids" is the same as saying "Please ignore this."  |
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Thankyou for all the wel wishes advise support and even positive critism. Iwill let you know once i find a suitable partner. Yes mingle is a great way of meeting new people and when you clarify what your looking for,you surely will find it. Iwish you all the best of luck and thankyou for your support. And ifyour interested in meeting me send me a message,im stillooking to find my perfect partner and inthe proces imeet alot of good people.
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Hey, if her approach works, great. I just have to wonder about it, because it's all she posts about. If it was working, we probably wouldn't hear about it so much. That being said, I do hope things work out well for the OP. She knows what she wants and is very persistent about getting it! Maybe you should look at the other threads Nicelady does post on before making comments like this. This is not all she posts about. I really don't get why you are treating her this way. She started a thread on cancer treatments and other topics. What's up girl? As I've said before, I wish her luck in her search. If her approach works for her, awesome. I asked you a question earlier in the thread, but you didn't answer. You seemed to think it was only women that went after her about her approach. But, as we can all see, it certainly wasn't only women who questioned it. And while I was more vocal than the others, it certainly wasn't only me. So why focus solely on the women here? I see you've appointed yourself as her cheerleader, which is cool, as I'm sure she appreciates the support. But, you did say you like honesty. However, it seems that you only like honest when someone agrees with you. You don't seem to like when people question things that you agree with. So what is it? Do you like honesty, or do you want people to agree with you? That being said, we all have different approaches. What works for some may not work for others. What you like may not be what others like. Not everyone will always agree with you. Lex is right. It doesn't really matter what we think about the way the OP is doing things. What matters is if it works for her or not. |
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Edited by
mg1959
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Fri 08/12/11 09:25 PM
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Hey, if her approach works, great. I just have to wonder about it, because it's all she posts about. If it was working, we probably wouldn't hear about it so much. That being said, I do hope things work out well for the OP. She knows what she wants and is very persistent about getting it! Maybe you should look at the other threads Nicelady does post on before making comments like this. This is not all she posts about. I really don't get why you are treating her this way. She started a thread on cancer treatments and other topics. What's up girl? As I've said before, I wish her luck in her search. If her approach works for her, awesome. I asked you a question earlier in the thread, but you didn't answer. You seemed to think it was only women that went after her about her approach. But, as we can all see, it certainly wasn't only women who questioned it. And while I was more vocal than the others, it certainly wasn't only me. So why focus solely on the women here? I see you've appointed yourself as her cheerleader, which is cool, as I'm sure she appreciates the support. But, you did say you like honesty. However, it seems that you only like honest when someone agrees with you. You don't seem to like when people question things that you agree with. So what is it? Do you like honesty, or do you want people to agree with you? That being said, we all have different approaches. What works for some may not work for others. What you like may not be what others like. Not everyone will always agree with you. Lex is right. It doesn't really matter what we think about the way the OP is doing things. What matters is if it works for her or not. Sing, on this particular topic on this particular thread your planting bad seed in the wrong garden. Sorry but your just hunting for buttons to push at this point. I'm happy to respond to both men and women. On the honesty question, my posts on all the different threads on mingle speak to this issue. Being open is how we learn, being foolish is how we destroy. If you read my posts you will see that I'm basically a guy who likes to support the positive and stomp out the negative. If that is perceived by you as me only agreeing with people who agree with me that's your take and I would not want to deprive you of that, however the people who privately email me and some openly on these threads cheer on the efforts of positive over negative. I'm proud to appoint myself cheerleader for anyone on the true search for love. There are not many higher gifts that I have given to or received from others than being apart of their journey. It's a delight and privilege to be apart of mingle and seeing the diversity of love in the making. Speaking of cheerleading, by you keeping this thread alive through your skepticism and questioning you have made it possible for more people to read that this is a great approach to finding a true relationship. The number of people supporting the positive open approach of nicelady is on the rise and for that she owes you and so do the people who up till now have maybe been more shy about this. So please keep asking questions and I will be happy to keep this thread going so all can see that there is a way that works if one is brave enough to lay the objective of true love on the line. thank you |
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I've seen in some other threads where you've said you like setting people up, mg. Why not try and set nicelady up with one of your friends who is good husband material?
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I've seen in some other threads where you've said you like setting people up, mg. Why not try and set nicelady up with one of your friends who is good husband material? I would love to. I've have had a great time getting to know her a little better and Nicelady is a true delight. That's the great thing about you gals on mingle, there are so many wonderful ladies here. I feel like the luckiest brother in the world. Who would have thought that there is a place with so many incredible personalities. You guys and gals have added such a dimension to my life that it is hard for me to say thanks enough. I consider it an honor and privilege to be in the mix. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Fri 08/12/11 11:05 PM
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Honestly I love this approach and would like to see more of it. When you first got here we gave you our thoughts and advice and you "nicelady" took it to heart and started posting exactly what you are looking for and would like to see in life. Good for you! I hope you get flooded with applications from potential husbands. I also hope you find the perfect one to make all of your dreams come true. Good for you, I hope that others feel so incline to follow your example. I don't really understand the approach. Then again, for me to even consider marriage, I'd have to be seriously dating someone already. If it were the other way around and a man was looking for a wife, it would scare a lot of women away right off the bat because it's so serious. I know people who are just not built for dating but they are built for marriage. I know it's not real common talking like this in the US but it is very common in other countries to get right down to the question of compatibility. There is still a period of "get to know" but all the restaurant/bar movie going is replaced with hanging out at home and doing things that couples do right off the bat. I think that the US creates it's own false sense of who the other person is by doing too many things that are not necessarily the types of things that people do as couples. When they do become a couple it becomes a bit of a shock because your not doing the same things all of a sudden and real life sets in. For myself I'd rather get to the real life right from the start. I'm either exciting to her or I'm not. For example: the last thing I want to do is be married to a bar fly so why would I ask someone out for drinks. This BTW is the number one dating scenario in the US. It is also the number three reason for breaking up in the US, behind money issues and unfaithfulness. If someone says to me I want to get to know you as a friend that is one thing, but if they say I want to get to know you for a potential mate that says something completely different. Personally I have enough friends and am way to busy for chit chat (I have mingle lol). Both of my wives asked me right up front "are you a potential mate?". For myself that was much better than a hang out buddy. I've had hang out buddies before and wouldn't be interested in that as a mate. The weekend jitters is not my thing. So I would say her topic and approach is very legitimate. On the issue of scaring women off. Sometimes that's helpful. I know a few guys up here right now that I would call "the perfect catch" and yet because they are open and honest they do not get a bite. That says not so much about that fellas in my book the women. Are they (the women on mingle) really looking? I wonder? Sometimes I think we should just say it like it is for us and see what happens. This young lady has and we see the numbers! Would we see numbers this high if people were not interested in the straight approach? I don't think so, nor do I think she is coming across as desperate. You gals be direct and watch how many men come running. That's how men are built. Dangle the bait and we'll come biting. Look too subjective or high maintenance and we'll be looking at the easy bait. Remember men want to eat, women like preparing a meal. Two different points of view. One of the good things about a site like this is we're able to see pretty quickly the differences we have. I'm far from what would be considered a "bar fly" but, I enjoy going out for a drink or two and getting to know someone. It provides a casual setting to sit and chat and see how things go. Why do you think they're not getting a "bite" because they're being open and honest? I can't speak for anyone else, but coming on too strong (such as mentioning marriage right off the bat) is going to make me back off. I'd rather get to know someone a bit and see how it goes from there. I don't assume that everyone I date is going to turn into something serious. If it happens, it happens. If not, I'll just continue to enjoy my life as it is. I agree with you. You mention the dreaded word "relationship" and the guys run for the hills. Men normally would run away if a woman mentions marriage right off the bat as it is coming on too strong or could even be considered as needy. There are very few men that wouldn't be scared off by the mention of something serious right off the bat. On the other side of the coin; being this direct would be a good way to weed out the guys that don't want marriage or a serious relationship. This would save a person from wasting their time with these type of guys. Now personally if I see a guy saying he is looking for marriage; I would have to wonder if there was a possibility that he was a scammer. |
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I've seen in some other threads where you've said you like setting people up, mg. Why not try and set nicelady up with one of your friends who is good husband material? I would love to. I've have had a great time getting to know her a little better and Nicelady is a true delight. That's the great thing about you gals on mingle, there are so many wonderful ladies here. I feel like the luckiest brother in the world. Who would have thought that there is a place with so many incredible personalities. You guys and gals have added such a dimension to my life that it is hard for me to say thanks enough. I consider it an honor and privilege to be in the mix. It will be interesting to see who you set her up with! |
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i see the men thinking it's great she so up front...
not seeing any of them taking her up on her offer. |
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i see the men thinking it's great she so up front... not seeing any of them taking her up on her offer. I can't speak for anybody else, but marriage & kids are definitely not on my agenda....! |
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i see the men thinking it's great she so up front... not seeing any of them taking her up on her offer. I've noticed the same thing. |
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i see the men thinking it's great she so up front... not seeing any of them taking her up on her offer. I've noticed the same thing. some of us have messaged her privately |
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I've seen in some other threads where you've said you like setting people up, mg. Why not try and set nicelady up with one of your friends who is good husband material? I would love to. I've have had a great time getting to know her a little better and Nicelady is a true delight. That's the great thing about you gals on mingle, there are so many wonderful ladies here. I feel like the luckiest brother in the world. Who would have thought that there is a place with so many incredible personalities. You guys and gals have added such a dimension to my life that it is hard for me to say thanks enough. I consider it an honor and privilege to be in the mix. It will be interesting to see who you set her up with! I said I would love to, but it doesn't look like she needs much help according to the amount of interest she is getting. So how are you doing on guys mailing you? LOL |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Sat 08/13/11 09:52 PM
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Ah, well good for her. Since she had still been active in the threads about looking for a husband and an American, that she wasn't finding what she was looking for. But if that's not the case (and maybe it's not, as Ese said that some of them have emailed her privately.. good luck Ese!), awesome.
I don't need your help either. 
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I think it's cool that you're being so direct. Personally, I joined Mingle originally to just make friends but lately I wish I could find a companion. I'm not looking to marry but the more I think about it, if I found the right guy and he wanted to get married, I wouldn't rule it out.
Good luck to you, Nicelady! 
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I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years. Join the Site and enjoy. Don't look for it love will come if its meant for you. |
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hi, it is better with understandings..............
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