I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years.

Most of what I've seen you post here is about
wanting a husband. Why not try to get to
know people first, then see what happens?

Most of what I've seen you post here is about wanting a husband. Why not try to get to know people first, then see what happens?i will rather spend time to geto know those that are interested in mariage and having kids. We all want differenthings in life and some have the same goals. Apreciate your commenthankyou.

This is good advice.
You are making me all sorts of nervous, the
way you are selling it so hard.
This is liable to attract the very desperate.
Please be careful.

Honestly I love this approach and would like to see more of it. When you first got here we gave you our thoughts and advice and you "nicelady" took it to heart and started posting exactly what you are looking for and would like to see in life. Good for you! I hope you get flooded with applications from potential husbands. I also hope you find the perfect one to make all of your dreams come true.

Good for you, I hope that others feel so incline to follow your example.

I don't really understand the approach. Then again, for me to even consider marriage, I'd have to be seriously dating someone already. If it were the other way around and a man was looking for a wife, it would scare a lot of women away right off the bat because it's so serious.

I know people who are just not built for dating but they are built for marriage. I know it's not real common talking like this in the US but it is very common in other countries to get right down to the question of compatibility. There is still a period of "get to know" but all the restaurant/bar movie going is replaced with hanging out at home and doing things that couples do right off the bat.

I think that the US creates it's own false sense of who the other person is by doing too many things that are not necessarily the types of things that people do as couples. When they do become a couple it becomes a bit of a shock because your not doing the same things all of a sudden and real life sets in. For myself I'd rather get to the real life right from the start. I'm either exciting to her or I'm not.

For example: the last thing I want to do is be married to a bar fly so why would I ask someone out for drinks. This BTW is the number one dating scenario in the US. It is also the number three reason for breaking up in the US, behind money issues and unfaithfulness.

If someone says to me I want to get to know you as a friend that is one thing, but if they say I want to get to know you for a potential mate that says something completely different. Personally I have enough friends and am way to busy for chit chat (I have mingle lol). Both of my wives asked me right up front "are you a potential mate?". For myself that was much better than a hang out buddy. I've had hang out buddies before and wouldn't be interested in that as a mate. The weekend jitters is not my thing.

So I would say her topic and approach is very legitimate.

On the issue of scaring women off. Sometimes that's helpful. I know a few guys up here right now that I would call "the perfect catch" and yet because they are open and honest they do not get a bite. That says not so much about that fellas in my book the women. Are they (the women on mingle) really looking? I wonder? Sometimes I think we should just say it like it is for us and see what happens. This young lady has and we see the numbers! Would we see numbers this high if people were not interested in the straight approach? I don't think so, nor do I think she is coming across as desperate.

You gals be direct and watch how many men come running. That's how men are built. Dangle the bait and we'll come biting. Look too subjective or high maintenance and we'll be looking at the easy bait. Remember men want to eat, women like preparing a meal. Two different points of view.

I know people who are just not built for dating but they are built for marriage. I know it's not real common talking like this in the US but it is very common in other countries to get right down to the question of compatibility. There is still a period of "get to know" but all the restaurant/bar movie going is replaced with hanging out at home and doing things that couples do right off the bat.

I think that the US creates it's own false sense of who the other person is by doing too many things that are not necessarily the types of things that people do as couples. When they do become a couple it becomes a bit of a shock because your not doing the same things all of a sudden and real life sets in. For myself I'd rather get to the real life right from the start. I'm either exciting to her or I'm not.

For example: the last thing I want to do is be married to a bar fly so why would I ask someone out for drinks. This BTW is the number one dating scenario in the US. It is also the number three reason for breaking up in the US, behind money issues and unfaithfulness.

If someone says to me I want to get to know you as a friend that is one thing, but if they say I want to get to know you for a potential mate that says something completely different. Personally I have enough friends and am way to busy for chit chat (I have mingle lol). Both of my wives asked me right up front "are you a potential mate?". For myself that was much better than a hang out buddy. I've had hang out buddies before and wouldn't be interested in that as a mate. The weekend jitters is not my thing.

So I would say her topic and approach is very legitimate.

On the issue of scaring women off. Sometimes that's helpful. I know a few guys up here right now that I would call "the perfect catch" and yet because they are open and honest they do not get a bite. That says not so much about that fellas in my book the women. Are they (the women on mingle) really looking? I wonder? Sometimes I think we should just say it like it is for us and see what happens. This young lady has and we see the numbers! Would we see numbers this high if people were not interested in the straight approach? I don't think so, nor do I think she is coming across as desperate.

You gals be direct and watch how many men come running. That's how men are built. Dangle the bait and we'll come biting. Look too subjective or high maintenance and we'll be looking at the easy bait. Remember men want to eat, women like preparing a meal. Two different points of view.

I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years.

I live in south africand am willing to relocate anywhere inthe world. Im looking for a kind gentle smart compasionate loving supportive husband that might consider to have children with me within the next four years.

I don't really understand the approach. Then again, for me to even consider marriage, I'd have to be seriously dating someone already. If it were the other way around and a man was looking for a wife, it would scare a lot of women away right off the bat because it's so serious.