48 Independant lady, just wondering???

I don't know...
But Hi and Welcome.

Thanks for your teply. take care

i guess it depends on your definition of decent and honest...

I agree with moe, there are some (I hear) they are just hiding after being hurt by the same type of people that have hurt you in the past.

Good Luck my friend in your search.

I guess most are married and the rest are too scared to...

They all got married in their 20's.

married, gay or to far away

Like parking spaces ladylid
All the good ones are gone and whats left are the handicap ones and the ones too far away.




Sorry GUYS I couldn't resist.

do not lose the hope ladies.......someone in somewere is waiting for you

They are disguised with your illusions.
They are everywhere,
Waiting.

Intuitive and deep.

Your illusions can become your reality; have faith, stay positive, never give up and create the reality that makes you happy.

"like parking spaces, all the good ones are gone and whats left are the handicap ones and the ones too far away". no, no, no. the ones up front are the most popular obviously, but do you want to compete for his attention once you start mingling? also, perhaps the ones up front say something about the amount of effort they are willing to put forth to get inside. lazy bums. and, most of the really 'good ones' are out there by themselves...just watch out for the ones that take up two or three spots....diagonally. they feel a little too good about themselves and their possessions. if you still come up empty handed, he is probably still driving around looking too (or lost and wont ask for directions)

Topics like this always remind of a Best of CL reply I read a few months ago.

"I see this question posted with some regularity in the many personals sections on the internet and what not, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out quite yet.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were f***ing treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you weren't dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an ******* than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.

2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ***.

3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've f***ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the ******** and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't want you, now."

I know many who still act as if they're in thier early twenties and some never develop past the late teens. I can spot them in a couple minutes. They're mentally traped. Alcohol and drugs are usally involved in 95% of the cases that I'm personally aware of. You really got to take time to know the real person and not fall for the GQ looks, tight butt, party boys, dreamy eyes or even money.

Most of the time these types know they're good looking and play it to the hilt. They're egotistical, selfish, selfcentered spoiled little brats. Mamma boy's.

OMG, some one finally said it. Thank you!

Because I am 38. You will have to wait 3 years to find a decent guy over 40, then drop me a note.

They are disguised with your illusions.

I Am as I illusion myself to be...

;)