I am looking for a person with a good sense of humor. Tells jokes, and sings or plays music. Who likes to be held close at all times. And has a good work ethic. But most of all, a person to love. That understands me.............. l I am lost out here all alone. The part of me that's missing is longed for. To find the one that holds me, feels me, knows me and trusts me, is so far from being found. I am bound to my own self determination to search for the one that desires me, and longs for me when I am gone. Every site I go to askes this question. So here it is. For the ladies. Where have all the nice guys gone? 1. Think back hard. You might remember a platonic guy who wanted to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you. Stopped by your place when you were lonely, or held you while you told him about how horribly the (other) guy treated you. At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he followed you around, trying to get you to pay attention to him. They teased about him. Given that his behavior was, a little pathetic. You denied any romantic feelings for him, your position was "just friends." He wasn't your type. He was a little too short, bald, fat, poor, or couldn't be any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off. Your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious. Time ped, and the boyfriend cheated on you, became boring, the things that attracted you to him were not the kind of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after tried the bar scene. Only found players and douche bags, you ask? 2. "What happened to all the nice guys?" Again You used him for emotional intimacy with physical intimacy. You laughed at him and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. He took the hint and moved on. He came to know, that women aren't really attracted to guys that hold doors open, make dinners just because, listen when you're upset; held you as you cried. He knew that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making money, and acted like more of an ******* than he ever wanted to be. Now, he's getting laid, and , your rejection of him is what made him what he is today. He thanks for that. And it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life to realize that you missed them and wanted them. . Looking for a nice guy? Here's what you do. Build a time machine. Go back a few years and pull your head out. Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab it. You might be in luck, the nice guy you want has shed his nice guy mantle and looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you. Now the nice guy is looking for a nice woman. 3. Sure is hard to find.