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I don't see why some women would have some bad experiences in life -regards to men - then end that relationship .....and start another that's worse than the one before .. I have heard this saying before, not sure how much of you have heard it 'If he doesn't beat me then he doesn't love me ' self esteem cause this problem , how can you love somebody else more than how you love yourself ? While I can not say that I have heard that actual phrase...Unfortunately, I know that mentality. Unfortunately, directly pertinent to the Ex reference. The first time I met her little 4'8" Guadalajaran father...He said straight up..."If she gets mouthy with you...you slap her down" I was sooooooooo insulted. He had no concept of me teaching womens self defense classes at battered womens shelters during the days of Krupa's KyokushinKia Karate' School. We did it cause it was the right thing to do....no money or fees....just to help. In the end....I hate to admit....the little old man was right.... In the end....I had to walk away cause I wasn't willing to beat the crap out of a viscious and unfaithful woman. 20/20 hindsight and all....... WOW so it was that one-sided? don't mean to be riotous but my ex told a lot of lies about me so Ima skeptic when someone gets THAT negative |
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In the end....I had to walk away cause I wasn't willing to beat the crap out of a viscious and unfaithful woman.
Glad you walked away ......hugs Krupa |
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Edited by
wux
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Sat 03/19/11 11:35 AM
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Women are ruled by their emotions. Most women realize when they are 35 - 40 that they want a good stable man who will always be there and provide for her. Until then, she's probably only going to be interested in jerks, because women seem to confuse jerks for alpha males. So be an a-hole and get the girl today or be nice and get her in 20 years after she's been used and abused by dozens of a-holes. Women are ruled by their emtions, men are driven by their passions. Thinking reasonably is a lost art. Welcome back, Spider. -------- Whether all is true in your post, I can't say, but it's also true that older women go less for azzoles, because there are much fewer azzoles in their generation. Some young azzoles get killed, some are in jail, but by-and-large their largest percentage gets cured or rehabilitated by the time the men hit fifty. |
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Edited by
willing2
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Sat 03/19/11 11:50 AM
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While I can not say that I have heard that actual phrase...Unfortunately, I know that mentality. Unfortunately, directly pertinent to the Ex reference. The first time I met her little 4'8" Guadalajaran father...He said straight up..."If she gets mouthy with you...you slap her down" I was sooooooooo insulted. He had no concept of me teaching womens self defense classes at battered womens shelters during the days of Krupa's KyokushinKia Karate' School. We did it cause it was the right thing to do....no money or fees....just to help. In the end....I hate to admit....the little old man was right.... In the end....I had to walk away cause I wasn't willing to beat the crap out of a viscious and unfaithful woman. 20/20 hindsight and all....... I got me a Mexican woman. I thought she was still living in Mexico. I wanted the placid, subservient type of woman I had heard so much about. Come to find out, there aren't that many old school Mex. women left. I am still with her. We are separated but, I feel a love centered obligation to see her through a private matter. While I am doing that, I am not actively seeking a girlfriend. Found I got hold of an Americanized one. Come to find out, she had been in the states for 25 years, now 35 years and she can get a mad apache attitude. I'm at 6' and she is 4'10". She still has no problem getting up in my face. 
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Girls don't go for douchebags or a-holes. Those douche bags you are speaking of, once were really sweet to these girls.. Long enough to get their interest or attention.. and once the girl fell for the guy, he turned into a douche. The girls still think that the douche guy is really that sweet, smooth talking guy, who was telling them that they are beautiful... when in all reality he was just a playa from day one. True story. Dont that mean again that MANY Girls OFTEN go ONLY for douchebags??? Not at all. As was already said above, most women don't go for a guy because he's a douchebag. Re-read what she wrote. Re-readed that n dont wanna re wite same again !! but it mean ONLY that 'though unknowingly & unwillingly,MANY girls OFTEN go only for douchebags'. Ofcource, the most common truth behind these stories is that - Many GENTLEMAN dont have the time to spare for girls. |
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I'm the 5%
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Um, that topic seemed to go well. I guess :)
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In the end....I had to walk away cause I wasn't willing to beat the crap out of a viscious and unfaithful woman. Glad you walked away ......hugs Krupa Me too Kisskiss.....sucked to be in that position but, when the hurting stopped (8yrs later)....I was a better man after the hurting stopped. Not sure how to explain it. Not so much a trial by fire... ...more like, a trial by agony. But....like all else....there are clear choices..... Succeed or fail. |
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While I can not say that I have heard that actual phrase...Unfortunately, I know that mentality. Unfortunately, directly pertinent to the Ex reference. The first time I met her little 4'8" Guadalajaran father...He said straight up..."If she gets mouthy with you...you slap her down" I was sooooooooo insulted. He had no concept of me teaching womens self defense classes at battered womens shelters during the days of Krupa's KyokushinKia Karate' School. We did it cause it was the right thing to do....no money or fees....just to help. In the end....I hate to admit....the little old man was right.... In the end....I had to walk away cause I wasn't willing to beat the crap out of a viscious and unfaithful woman. 20/20 hindsight and all....... I got me a Mexican woman. I thought she was still living in Mexico. I wanted the placid, subservient type of woman I had heard so much about. Come to find out, there aren't that many old school Mex. women left. I am still with her. We are separated but, I feel a love centered obligation to see her through a private matter. While I am doing that, I am not actively seeking a girlfriend. Found I got hold of an Americanized one. Come to find out, she had been in the states for 25 years, now 35 years and she can get a mad apache attitude. I'm at 6' and she is 4'10". She still has no problem getting up in my face. Apache aint no joke bro.....you GOT to give a lot of respect or you will be broken. Not kidding. I live in the lands of Apache and Comanche.....They are our coyote' and chapparelle. On the surface, they are small and tribal.... But, thier passions are every bit as stong as mine. They are a beautiful and misunderstood people. |
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Women are ruled by their emotions. Most women realize when they are 35 - 40 that they want a good stable man who will always be there and provide for her. Until then, she's probably only going to be interested in jerks, because women seem to confuse jerks for alpha males. So be an a-hole and get the girl today or be nice and get her in 20 years after she's been used and abused by dozens of a-holes. Women are ruled by their emtions, men are driven by their passions. Thinking reasonably is a lost art. Welcome back, Spider. -------- Whether all is true in your post, I can't say, but it's also true that older women go less for azzoles, because there are much fewer azzoles in their generation. Some young azzoles get killed, some are in jail, but by-and-large their largest percentage gets cured or rehabilitated by the time the men hit fifty. This is so true Wux. I find older men much easier to like and more mature. Not all of them, but in general. (That's not to say that all younger men are immature. I've seen a lot that were. I was 27 before I decided I wanted a good stable man and to get married. My problem was I could not find one stable enough to have children with. They still seemed to be children themselves. I did not feel financially secure enough with them to raise a family. If I had it to do over, I would marry a much older man. One with a business and one that wanted children. Of course most older men don't want any more children if they already have some. My advice to a man, if you want to attract a woman, you take charge of your life and your financial situation. You be a real alpha male who has a plan, not just puffing around like one. A woman who wants to raise a family will look for a man she knows will be able to provide for her and the children. No woman wants to be alone raising children trying to get a job to support her. |
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Girls don't go for douchebags or a-holes. Those douche bags you are speaking of, once were really sweet to these girls.. Long enough to get their interest or attention.. and once the girl fell for the guy, he turned into a douche. The girls still think that the douche guy is really that sweet, smooth talking guy, who was telling them that they are beautiful... when in all reality he was just a playa from day one. True story. Dont that mean again that MANY Girls OFTEN go ONLY for douchebags??? Not at all. As was already said above, most women don't go for a guy because he's a douchebag. Re-read what she wrote. Re-readed that n dont wanna re wite same again !! but it mean ONLY that 'though unknowingly & unwillingly,MANY girls OFTEN go only for douchebags'. Ofcource, the most common truth behind these stories is that - Many GENTLEMAN dont have the time to spare for girls. If they don't have the time to spare then there's no reason to complain about not getting what they want. |
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Edited by
iam4u
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Sat 03/19/11 08:01 PM
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It's really quiet simple,  we are ridiculously stupid.  Truthfully, I married a man who ran off when I was 7 months pregnant  Then i married a violent , man with drug and alcohol problesms so you would think that I would have learnt  But no i remarried the drongo, because of course he had changed Then i became involved with a man with alcohol problems again  So why did I pick dooch bags or whatever they are called Sim;ly because i thought they loved me and i could help Ok so now many years older, and hopefully wiser, i will not have anyting to do with anyone involved with drugs , alcohol, or who even apears to have an anger issue, Why, is it because i am now wiser Nope definately not, it was just that this time i found someone wonderful, Not because i am smarter, just because he sort of fell into my lap.  Otherwise i probably would have been dumb enough to fall for exactly the same type of goose again no one see's a woman as a bad person,,like you can see that in a dude but trust me,,many women can be all bad for the same reasons.. I fall for what appears in every breath,,is real and true. Then,,,I find out their heart is not as sweet as it beats.... 
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I think, every nice guy should start out with a hooker-type of women first.
When you know what you gonna get and she knows what it's all about, it's the most honest relationship ever. No lying, no games, it's all about bangin' and then probably some food, and more bangin'..and even if friends ask..just say "ohh we are just friends..with benefits" ... You know..it could last longer or not, doesn't matter, you had a good time, she had a good time and that's all that matters. But just like in a role playing game, you gain experience along and you will be on the "next level" ..and now you have small faint idea about shallow relationships..you move on and go at it again with someone else. At one point..one of them maybe gonna start to develop feeling towards you and you do the same and things seem to work out great between you and once-a-hooker girl and you the "playa" finally decide to settle down and finish of these games for good. If it doesn't work out..oh well, keep going, at least have fun instead of just sittin' and waiting for some miracle virgin girl appear from the mist..
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I think a comedienne said it best:
"I remember my 20s when I actually dumped a guy for being too nice. TOO NICE! Let me tell you something, Nice can mellow out to normal. A**hole is A**hole FOREVER!" |
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What "nice guys" don't understand is there are two sides to a woman. One side wants to be loved, cherished and cared for. The other side wants to be grabbed by the hair, drug back to your cave and pounded like a dirty little slag. Once a man can address both her sides women find him attractive and other men will call him names out of envy.
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Sat 03/19/11 10:06 PM
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I think, every nice guy should start out with a hooker-type of women first. When you know what you gonna get and she knows what it's all about, it's the most honest relationship ever. No lying, no games, it's all about bangin' and then probably some food, and more bangin'..and even if friends ask..just say "ohh we are just friends..with benefits" ... You know..it could last longer or not, doesn't matter, you had a good time, she had a good time and that's all that matters. But just like in a role playing game, you gain experience along and you will be on the "next level" ..and now you have small faint idea about shallow relationships..you move on and go at it again with someone else. At one point..one of them maybe gonna start to develop feeling towards you and you do the same and things seem to work out great between you and once-a-hooker girl and you the "playa" finally decide to settle down and finish of these games for good. If it doesn't work out..oh well, keep going, at least have fun instead of just sittin' and waiting for some miracle virgin girl appear from the mist.. Atlantis75 This is actually a very good idea. I was 'going steady' with a nice guy in highschool and I broke up with him. He wanted to get married and all that crap. I was only 18... much to young to start having babies. He tried that old story saying... "I'm going to kill myself if you break up with me.." and I thought about that and told him that he should not kill himself, but that I was breaking up with him anyway. So I did. He did not kill himself, but he did find the biggest whore in the county and started going with her. She cured him of his depression in a hurry. Today he is happily married with children. |
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Once a man can address both her sides women find him attractive and other men will call him names out of envy. Yeah, like *****-whipped! 
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I think, every nice guy should start out with a hooker-type of women first. When you know what you gonna get and she knows what it's all about, it's the most honest relationship ever. No lying, no games, it's all about bangin' and then probably some food, and more bangin'..and even if friends ask..just say "ohh we are just friends..with benefits" ... You know..it could last longer or not, doesn't matter, you had a good time, she had a good time and that's all that matters. But just like in a role playing game, you gain experience along and you will be on the "next level" ..and now you have small faint idea about shallow relationships..you move on and go at it again with someone else. At one point..one of them maybe gonna start to develop feeling towards you and you do the same and things seem to work out great between you and once-a-hooker girl and you the "playa" finally decide to settle down and finish of these games for good. If it doesn't work out..oh well, keep going, at least have fun instead of just sittin' and waiting for some miracle virgin girl appear from the mist.. thanks for the warning |
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Once a man can address both her sides women find him attractive and other men will call him names out of envy. Yeah, like *****-whipped! how encouraging to think that we are now 2 dimensional my golly molly why, that's almost human! next thing u know we'll get the right to vote ***thanks for the warnings, once again
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Sat 03/19/11 10:32 PM
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I think, every nice guy should start out with a hooker-type of women first. When you know what you gonna get and she knows what it's all about, it's the most honest relationship ever. No lying, no games, it's all about bangin' and then probably some food, and more bangin'..and even if friends ask..just say "ohh we are just friends..with benefits" ... You know..it could last longer or not, doesn't matter, you had a good time, she had a good time and that's all that matters. But just like in a role playing game, you gain experience along and you will be on the "next level" ..and now you have small faint idea about shallow relationships..you move on and go at it again with someone else. At one point..one of them maybe gonna start to develop feeling towards you and you do the same and things seem to work out great between you and once-a-hooker girl and you the "playa" finally decide to settle down and finish of these games for good. If it doesn't work out..oh well, keep going, at least have fun instead of just sittin' and waiting for some miracle virgin girl appear from the mist.. Atlantis75 This is actually a very good idea. I was 'going steady' with a nice guy in highschool and I broke up with him. He wanted to get married and all that crap. I was only 18... much to young to start having babies. He tried that old story saying... "I'm going to kill myself if you break up with me.." and I thought about that and told him that he should not kill himself, but that I was breaking up with him anyway. So I did. He did not kill himself, but he did find the biggest whore in the county and started going with her. She cured him of his depression in a hurry. Today he is happily married with children.  See? And that's how it is..not to mention the biggest most unattraction to women are inexperienced men. NOt (just) sex, but relationship wise. Just like in the story, some guy who never had a date or only had one or 2, they want to fall in love or they think they fallen in love, but it's not really love, but the sudden new feelings he isn't familiar or perhaps insecurity of loosing that one person they managed to grab, and now they are afraid to be alone later on, so they hang on tight, although not because of love. But when some guy "gone around" with dates and women, and I don't mean like those collector types, but let's say he had 3-4 girlfriends in the past for maybe a a few months or maybe a year or 2, then if this person truly start to cling onto one woman, that means he really means it. On the other hand, if you got a guy who battled all his life to get just 1 woman and you can just tell by the way he acts , that he never had a girlfriend for a good time, then it will start to make the woman insecure about the whole thing. This is why many women are actually more attracted to married guys or guys who are still in a relationship, since it confirms them, that "there is something to like about this guy, if she likes him too", plus he has dealt with women already. About the a__hole guy thing...the reason (many) women attracted to him is due to the fact that it's not that he is an a__hole, but because he is confident enough to be an a__hole to some certain women, because he feels like he can browse around for better. Regardless if that's really true or just the imagination of his own, it still come off as confidence and if a woman really likes him, she will try to throw herself at him at even harder as the guy keep pushing her away. Some women are like that..and some guys too. Some guys get turned on also if he gets rejected, because that's sort of an indication for the woman having standards and she will most likely not spread them for just anyone. |
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