Yes I have trust issues who doesn't after being cheated on

So...you want a guy to love someone that has trust issues?

I think you need to work on the trust issues before trying to find a man.

I would have to agree with Fear on that one. i was cheated on by my ex after a 4 year relationship(i know 4 years isn't long but since i just turned 24 last month its a while for me) a few months ago and i know that i wont be capable of maintaining a healthy relationship for a while. Just do you for now and something REAL will come along.

Yeah well that's kind of hard when I came from abused child hood I don't trust anyone because I think their going to hurt me like my dad did

It was a 7 year relationship for me, she cheated, we were engaged, she cheated, I was pissed. despite everything, life goes on...

Sometimes I feel bitter, but the best thing to do is just look to the future, and leave the past in the past.

And that will make it even more difficult to start a relationship, much less find love. Look into therapy or something, but honestly, the last thing you need right now is a relationship.

i have a question, not just for you, but everyone that asks this.

just what do you think he/she was loving you for, if not you? i guess i don't understand this.

Thanks but been throught therapy it didn't work but I am doing it again right now and I am kinda seeing someone

I was cheated on by both my husbands, but although i do wonder if anyone can love me enough to just be happy with me, I also need to trust so that I can move on, I realise that people will let us down, I guess its just a matter of knowing that you can be hurt, but being prepared to risk your heart so that you can move on.
My heart has been trodden on and smashed before, but it is still there and beating, i will continue to risk it until the man of my dreams claims it and for that to happen I have to trust him otherwise, neither off us can ever be happy. If there is no trust there can never be a relationship. look for the best in a man, dont think he is going to break your trust before you even start, yes it may happen but we could also be in a car crash on the way home but we still get in the car. Women can be just as cruel, just keep looking until you find a man who settles your heart.

Good reason for just having friends. Friendship is just so much easier than being in a committed relationship. First off you don't have to feel committed. That right there can cause problems. I mean if you have to feel committed then why not carry it to the next logical step and just have yourself committed.

Last night I had a wonderful experience with one of my female residents. They teach me so much. She was talking to another female resident just before she went psycho on the other resident. "One of these days you will meet a nice man and he will take you by the ear and rip it off." I was glad I was there to hear it. I just love women for who they are. I am glad I work at a job to help those I can.

I may be wrong but isnt it women who always want to change men?

Oh my Gosh but then you miss out on someone who wants to share everypart of your life, someone to hold you and love you, to roll over and pull you close just because they want you near, someone who cant walk past you without wanting to touch you, someone who will talk to you just to hear your voice, and someone who when you are lonely takes away the ache in your heart so that you know you are not two seperate people but one, And someone who you can give all the love that you have to.

Hey

Fromthe sound of your posts

This isn't the time to start looking for ANY kind of love. Especially on the Internet, where the chances of being taken for a ride multiplies!

You have to work on You. No matter how long it takes when you do that and learn to love yourself and throw the baggage away. Then look

Also

Your posts will make men run in the opposite direction and run FAST. They don't want to help you carry all that baggage except to the bus station to wave goodbye!!

Good luck to you!

Regardless who you are or what has happened there are not many in this world that has not had problems within their lives.

But until one can deal with their problems within then that person will not be able to see or feel the love that another gives them. Due to they have put up walls and others can not get through.

Each person must take the time alone to learn to deal with life themselves all the help in the world will not help if they are not willing to look deep within and learn to let others in.

There is no magical cure to many times others think someone else can fix them when in reality only that person can fix themselves. Sure at times it helps for others to point out to them what they need to do but unless they are willing to put the effort forward and open up their eyes to see they deserve to be happy and learn to forgive not only themselves but others as well they will never truly be able to love another completely and to feel the love they have for them.

We must learn from our past not dwell on it don't let your past guide your future. Instead take charge deal with the past and make tomorrow what it should be.

I think the question should be, "Why can't you love yourself for who you are?"

Don't make your past as an excuse. Use it to learn and grow as a person, because you'll never find happiness or fulfillment from someone else.

Red lace your right and I am working on it and everyone else your right too

That is what psychological services are for and if you don't trust who you are with why should they make the effort to be trustworthy?? If they are under inquisition might as do what they are being accused of......in essence by not trusting you create non trusting behaviors....and abuse remains no excuse I was abused in child hood and adulthood but that doesn't change my core being or the fact that I that I choose to trust the one I love until they show themselves untrustworthy........you can not project your injuries onto those that have done nothing to injure emotionally or physically......life moves on so do you or get left behind quit internalizing your injuries treat yourself with respect....

I really do wish you luck, Kristi. You may think it's hard in the beginning, but once you get started, you'll see that it's all worth it.

I agree! I saw a quote once from (I think) George Carlin...

"The only one who is with us our whole lives, is ourself"!!!

You are the only one in life that you have any control over. You can't control how others think and feel, only yourself. You are the only person you can count on to love you forever and to love you for you! Quit depending on others to do that, as they will ALWAYS let you down!!! My $.02