As a recent widow I definitely feel lonely at times and even (heaven forbid) needy...Most of the time I am pretty self-sufficient...I amuse myself and "do my own thing" and enjoy having time alone...But there are times when I do feel lonely for some heartfelt conversation...I miss the special connection and closeness I had with my husband for 28 years....We were best friends and more and always "here" for each other...I'm not going to lie and say that I don't feel lonely at times. How about you? Thanks for listening.

I think that anyone that does not feel lonely at times just is not human or just lying. I am very independent and self sufficient as well but yes I do get lonely. I especially get lonely when I just need someone to talk to about some things that go on in life that you wouldn't just discuss with anyone. I'm going through some things right now that are making me feel especially lonely and I know it's because I feel the need to have that special someone here to talk to and help me through this and to help me with making some decisions. So I do understand where you are coming from!

GreenEyes48,
I feel lonely all the time. Even with a busy day and trying to pass the time reading, listening to music or watching a movie I get soooo lonely my heart aches. But its life I think, and will not be like this forever. I'm sorry to hear about your husband, He lives through your memories and you are blessed to have that. And you will find companionship again, you are a lovely woman, some lucky man will love to have you.
I wish you the best and if you ever need to talk, drop me a line. From one lonely girl to another
Amanda

When I am away from my work it can get lonely. I get so used to taking care of my residents and attending to them. There is always someone who needs comforting. On an average night there is always the question of where am I and how did I get here. I will take the call light controller out of the old man's hand and give him the bed controller and he will say thank you. I will comfort the old lady who is terrified because she just needs to hold someone's hand. I will give water to the old lady who is thirsty and get her to sit up so that she doesn't drown through choking. I will try to calm the old lady and get her to stop rattling the guard rails. I will turn the night light on for the old lady who is afraid of the dark and spend some talking to her until she can rest peaceably. I will try to calm down the old lady who is raging because I didn't get there fast enough. I will rearranged the distorted old lady's leg until we can both agree what straight is. I will take the call light away from the residents who bump up against in their sleep. I will try to explain to the old lady who is packing up the call light in her bag because she is trying to escape with all her stuff. I will try to put the cord light cables back into the wall of the old lady who doesn't like them in her room. I will roll my one resident out out another's room resident because she is lost trying to find her room. I will take my one resident out of another resident's room because she thinks she is in her own room going through her own stuff. Yup. I love babysitting. But there is just me in my room.

I am alone about 99% of the time, and there are times I feel lonely. My last relationship ended in late 2008, and since then I was in a major car accident and was forced to move to a place where I don't know anyone. And there are times when the sheer isolation creates feelings of loneliness.

At the same time, I've spent so much of my life IN relationships that I couldn't wait to get out of, that I can see some benefits to being alone. I would prefer being alone to being with yet another wrong person.

I don't mind being "alone", in fact I value that time immensely.
The loneliest I have EVER felt was being right next to someone who was a million miles away. Likewise I have felt incredibly loved being the only one in the room.

ditto

i know just what your talking about, all my friends are moving away to different states for college or doing there own things, like work or getting married it's just not the same, since i move out over the summer from my perents i feel more lonely then ever i do have my boyfriend and his daughter it does help a lot it's just not the same, so i keep busy with work and my own life

i felt lonely once, her mom heard her moaning and woke her dad up. three days later her brothers and a couple of cousins kicked the tar outta me. since then i don't even think about feeling lonely. jk but i'd like the OP to know that we all get emotional especially after a life changing loss. my prayers for you greeneyes.

Hi

Its usually during off days from office I feel lonely. I work far away from home and miss my parents, brothers and frnds.

:(

hemant

On rare occassion, sure. I think that's normal. But like Beach said, I've felt lonelier when I was in a relationship.

However, I've got animals, and one is never truly lonely with them. Insane maybe, but never lonely or alone.

Ditto ditto.


I have two suggestions when that loneliness hits....

1. Just sit back close your eyes and breathe. Just know that this is a feeling and will pass. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way and know you will not always feel that way.

2. Make some really good connections with friends and know when the 'blues' hits, call up your friend(s) to come over for coffee or go out to lunch.

We have all be there. Just knowing that may or may not be helpful.

loney then lonely now and loney later. no matter how many people im around. i feel lonely. its not if your with someone or how many your with that counts.. i need to share my heart with someone that will share theres. then and only then will i no longer be......( Lonely )

Sometimes i feel lonely even when i am around a lot of people.

“Language... has created the word "loneliness" to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word "solitude" to express the glory of being alone.”
Paul Tillich

All I have to do is feel myself and I know exactly what lonely feels like.

Like it! Snagging it for my FB comment.

The only time i feel lonely is when i am hanging around with my married friends

I agree.

I am sorry that you have lost your companion and closest friend of 28 years.