Topic: Religious views and dating
ron62449's photo
Wed 07/07/10 08:57 AM
What gets me is people that put on their profile that they are Christian (Muslem, whatever) but don't follow
the beliefs, worship or act like it. They are just Christians because they were born in a Christian country or from family lines (ie: just because your grandmother was baptised and went to church doesn't mean you are Christian by heirship [that a word?]).
They say they are Christian (Muslem, whatever)and do things against the religion (Christians that involves in [say] erotica.)

Ron

horzman's photo
Wed 07/07/10 08:58 AM


following any religion 100% is very difficult, but I don't think we should judge people on how devout they are, no one is perfect.

with that been said, I would not think highly of someone preaching honesty, and he/she is big liar, or preaching faithfulness and he/she is cheater....etc.

going to a church, mosque, temple, is not much different than a student going to school, to improve themselves.


I agree with you in a general sense but my question was specifically about dating someone. How do you judge someone you are thinking about dating? Don't we have to make judgements as to whether or not they are a good match for you?

Its not a matter of judging them as "good" or "bad" but about whether or not you want to date them.

I have a problem with people who violate all their religious beliefs to date me.


I don't know of any religion that says Ok to have sex without being married, lots of people including my self have had nonmarital sex, is that a sin, I say it is. but does that make me a bad husband or father or person to date, I don't think so.
nonmarital sex with the majority of the people in US is acceptable between consenting adults.

Beachfarmer's photo
Wed 07/07/10 09:06 AM

long as everything's kosher


rofl
Bwaaahahahaha

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 07/07/10 09:23 AM



following any religion 100% is very difficult, but I don't think we should judge people on how devout they are, no one is perfect.

with that been said, I would not think highly of someone preaching honesty, and he/she is big liar, or preaching faithfulness and he/she is cheater....etc.

going to a church, mosque, temple, is not much different than a student going to school, to improve themselves.


I agree with you in a general sense but my question was specifically about dating someone. How do you judge someone you are thinking about dating? Don't we have to make judgements as to whether or not they are a good match for you?

Its not a matter of judging them as "good" or "bad" but about whether or not you want to date them.

I have a problem with people who violate all their religious beliefs to date me.


I don't know of any religion that says Ok to have sex without being married, lots of people including my self have had nonmarital sex, is that a sin, I say it is. but does that make me a bad husband or father or person to date, I don't think so.
nonmarital sex with the majority of the people in US is acceptable between consenting adults.



None of the pagan religions teach that premarital sex is wrong.

FearandLoathing's photo
Wed 07/07/10 09:30 AM

Okay, so Beach did politics and relationships....I'm curious about religion and relationships. But, not so much about whether or not you can date someone of a different religion. We've done that one before. I'm more curious about what you think when you are talking to someone who claims to be a devout anything....Christian, Muslim, whatever, but their lifestyle doesn't match what they say they believe. Is that a red flag for you?

Disclaimer: I'm not talking about people who openly state they go to church but don't believe all that their religion teaches. I'm talking about those who are very involved in their churches, vocally defend the teaching of their religion and then turn around and do the exact opposite in their day to day lives. Red flag for you or you don't really care?


It wouldn't last anyway, no real point in theorizing. I don't care if someone is religious, I don't care if they preach on and on about their religion but do the opposite (most religion does this anyway), but I don't think I could be with anyone that committed to their religion...because I would become the target convert.

lilott's photo
Wed 07/07/10 10:46 AM
I stay away from any kind of religious people.

Beachfarmer's photo
Wed 07/07/10 10:59 AM
I just find it (insert adjective) how no one gives themself away to a higher power on Prom Night.

msharmony's photo
Wed 07/07/10 11:06 AM

Okay, so Beach did politics and relationships....I'm curious about religion and relationships. But, not so much about whether or not you can date someone of a different religion. We've done that one before. I'm more curious about what you think when you are talking to someone who claims to be a devout anything....Christian, Muslim, whatever, but their lifestyle doesn't match what they say they believe. Is that a red flag for you?

Disclaimer: I'm not talking about people who openly state they go to church but don't believe all that their religion teaches. I'm talking about those who are very involved in their churches, vocally defend the teaching of their religion and then turn around and do the exact opposite in their day to day lives. Red flag for you or you don't really care?


I dont really know enough about all religions to know how or what people following them are SUPPOSED to do,,,but, I feel anyone who regularly says one thing and does another would be hard for me to trust

TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 07/07/10 11:11 AM
Hummmmmmm in my mind if one preaches on a religion or a anything but yet they do not follow what they are so intense about then what else in their lives are they so intense about but yet does not follow..........Do they down those that cheat but yet does themselves........see what I'm getting at..........So yeah sorry I would have to look a little deeper at that person for it is not all that it seems to be........noway whoa

soufiehere's photo
Wed 07/07/10 11:47 AM

I just find it (insert adjective) how no one
gives themself away to a higher power on Prom Night.

Maybe they thought you WERE the higher power
at the time.

Beachfarmer's photo
Wed 07/07/10 11:47 AM
Edited by Beachfarmer on Wed 07/07/10 11:48 AM
Ya hypocrisy bothers me.


EDIT: rofl Bwahahahahahaha...How's THAT for timing? Hahahahaha

soufiehere's photo
Wed 07/07/10 11:59 AM

Ya hypocrisy bothers me.
EDIT: rofl Bwahahahahahaha...How's THAT for timing? Hahahahaha

Dead on :-)

Beachfarmer's photo
Wed 07/07/10 12:02 PM
Hahahaha

"My own" hypocrisy is the biggest rub.flowerforyou

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 07/07/10 12:10 PM
Well I have this all figured out. I'm just not going to date anyone who isn't also a part-time Pagan/part-time Catholic/spell casting/rosary praying witch.


Beachfarmer's photo
Wed 07/07/10 12:14 PM
It's good to know your....well =s......they are good to hug, know, and get the really "good water" from.

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 07/07/10 12:28 PM
laugh

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 07/07/10 12:29 PM
I prefer a spiritual edge..and that can be just about anything.
A zealot that wants to 'save' me....na, I run.

msmyka's photo
Wed 07/07/10 12:38 PM

Okay, so Beach did politics and relationships....I'm curious about religion and relationships. But, not so much about whether or not you can date someone of a different religion. We've done that one before. I'm more curious about what you think when you are talking to someone who claims to be a devout anything....Christian, Muslim, whatever, but their lifestyle doesn't match what they say they believe. Is that a red flag for you?

Disclaimer: I'm not talking about people who openly state they go to church but don't believe all that their religion teaches. I'm talking about those who are very involved in their churches, vocally defend the teaching of their religion and then turn around and do the exact opposite in their day to day lives. Red flag for you or you don't really care?


Can't do it. Nothing personal, I dislike all religions equally.

msmyka's photo
Wed 07/07/10 12:42 PM

What gets me is people that put on their profile that they are Christian (Muslem, whatever) but don't follow
the beliefs, worship or act like it. They are just Christians because they were born in a Christian country or from family lines (ie: just because your grandmother was baptised and went to church doesn't mean you are Christian by heirship [that a word?]).
They say they are Christian (Muslem, whatever)and do things against the religion (Christians that involves in [say] erotica.)

Ron


Good point, I was born, raised and even went to a private Christian school. To me, non-practicing means you're holding on to the very edge in case there is an apocalypse and it does occur in your life time. OR in the event that you should need something from said "God" so you can pray for help.

Beachfarmer's photo
Wed 07/07/10 12:50 PM
<------recovering dogmatist........even got rid of my tophat