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It might. I'd be concerned if they had more than a few in the past year. It would tell me that they're not long term relationship material. So you would ask in order to see if they were relationship material? What if they had only been with one person? Would that automatically make them relationship material? Hmm. Good questions. I don't think I would ask, sometimes people just 'volunteer' things, you know? And not necessarily on the second one either. But more likely than say someone who had several long term relationships. I just think its a red flag when someone has so many relationships in a short time. It sort of tells me they have committment issues. Not always, but..well, thats my view. |
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The number of partners would not be as big of a concern as if the person is disease free. It only takes one time to be exposed to AIDS, gonorrhea, syphilis, or any other venereal disease. The question I would ask is when is the last time you have had testing for those diseases, and are you willing to get tested NOW? If they say no, then I wouldn't deal with them on any intimate level. Yeah, I'd be wary of anyone who would say no to that. exactly 
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I prefer not to know anything but whether there is attraction and sex with the same sex,,,I dont need any more competition or drama. One gender is all I want to deal with.
Other than that, probably not wise to ask,,all sorts of things that would stick in my mind and obstruct my ability to develop intimacy with my partner. If it 'slips' out that one has been extremely promiscuous beyond their college years until the present or participated in some strange fetishes,,,its gonna kind of kill the interest in intimacy for me. |
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i dont ask how many partners someone has had... im at an age where i dont expect the men i date to be without experience. show me clean test results and call it good.
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Another way to look at it: Suppose you were in the market for a good use car! You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc! One has a lot more miles on it than the other! Which would you be inclined to choose? 
 What a metaphor...lol
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show me clean test results and call it good. i agree ! |
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Another way to look at it: Suppose you were in the market for a good use car! You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc! One has a lot more miles on it than the other! Which would you be inclined to choose?
What a metaphor...lol
[/quote No. Thats not a very good metaphor at all. A better one is two cars, same price, otherwise identical..but one's had one or several owners over 10 years, and one's had a different owner every 1-3 months in its lifetime. You can't but help but wonder why. And yes, I fully realize I'm gonna get pounded for even making such a metaphor, but you can apply the car to men too. If a guy had dozens of relationships in the course of 1 or 2 years.,,none that lasted more than a few weeks...you can't help but wonder just a little.... |
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ahahahahaaa
Like anyones honest about that. |
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Another way to look at it: Suppose you were in the market for a good use car! You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc! One has a lot more miles on it than the other! Which would you be inclined to choose?
What a metaphor...lol
No. Thats not a very good metaphor at all. A better one is two cars, same price, otherwise identical..but one's had one or several owners over 10 years, and one's had a different owner every 1-3 months in its lifetime. You can't but help but wonder why. And yes, I fully realize I'm gonna get pounded for even making such a metaphor, but you can apply the car to men too. If a guy had dozens of relationships in the course of 1 or 2 years.,,none that lasted more than a few weeks...you can't help but wonder just a little.... Comparing people to cars.. again? Still not a good comparison. |
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Probably not but the point being if a person goes through numerous relationships in a short time, you can't help but wonder why. Does it mean that person is not long-term relationship material? Not necessarily. Maybe they haven't found the right person.
Or maybe they do like to play the field. There's other things about the person that would be even more important to know. How do they view people in general? |
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Sex partners do not necessarily mean relationships. What if someone had many when they were young and slowed down quite a bit and had longer relationships as they got older? Or, what if they had several over one year? Do you still assume that they haven't had long enough relationships?
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The number of past partners does not make one good or bad....unless you are talking about a first timer and I doubt most are. Its more about enjoyment and passion.
The number might raise concern as to their morals, or your likelyhood of contracting a disease. The quantity is not what should be questioned as much as whether or not they have any health problems such as STD's. |
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Sex partners do not necessarily mean relationships. What if someone had many when they were young and slowed down quite a bit and had longer relationships as they got older? Or, what if they had several over one year? Do you still assume that they haven't had long enough relationships? I'm more interested in how the person is here and now. That said, past behavior is usually indicative of future behavior but as you point out people do grow out of certain behaviors. But as you point out, it is unfair to compare people to cars. People are alot more complicated than cars and I find cars too complicated. I guess I'm just not doing a good job expressing my view. |
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Sex partners do not necessarily mean relationships. What if someone had many when they were young and slowed down quite a bit and had longer relationships as they got older? Or, what if they had several over one year? Do you still assume that they haven't had long enough relationships? I'm more interested in how the person is here and now. That said, past behavior is usually indicative of future behavior but as you point out people do grow out of certain behaviors. But as you point out, it is unfair to compare people to cars. People are alot more complicated than cars and I find cars too complicated. I guess I'm just not doing a good job expressing my view. Would the term "Track Record" apply? |
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Does the number of sexual partners a person has had influence your decision to date them? How many is too many? What about too few? Do you ever ask how many someone has been with? Would you be offended if someone asked you? Now, where I might have a problem, is if she never had a partner as yet....  
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The number of past partners does not make one good or bad....unless you are talking about a first timer and I doubt most are. Its more about enjoyment and passion. The number might raise concern as to their morals, or your likelyhood of contracting a disease. The quantity is not what should be questioned as much as whether or not they have any health problems such as STD's. Well, that's why it's a good reason to get tested for STDs. |
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Does the number of sexual partners a person has had influence your decision to date them? How many is too many? What about too few? Do you ever ask how many someone has been with? Would you be offended if someone asked you? well it does not matter to me! Now if it was in my face all the time it may bother me. |
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Another way to look at it: Suppose you were in the market for a good use car! You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc! One has a lot more miles on it than the other! Which would you be inclined to choose?
Gotta love it when a woman is comparative to a buying a car 
I'd take the truck with slightly more miles. Save having to break him in for pulling trailers... Evil smile. Seriously, for me, I don't care, so long as there's NO STD's involved. If he isn't willing to get tested beforehand, then there ain't no sex involved. |
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Does the number of sexual partners a person has had influence your decision to date them? How many is too many? What about too few? Do you ever ask how many someone has been with? Would you be offended if someone asked you? [/quoteVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVV oh hell yes . and no . |
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I have been with 60. What do you think now?
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