Topic: Number of partners
willing2's photo
Thu 01/21/10 08:48 AM


Another way to look at it:

Suppose you were in the market for a good use car!

You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc!

One has a lot more miles on it than the other!

Which would you be inclined to choose?

drinker



A car? You are comparing choosing a person to date with a car?slaphead

Well, they are both called she's.laugh
Just make sure her Dlckometer hasn't been tampered with and she hasn't had excessive body work.slaphead

no photo
Thu 01/21/10 08:49 AM



Another way to look at it:

Suppose you were in the market for a good use car!

You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc!

One has a lot more miles on it than the other!

Which would you be inclined to choose?

drinker



A car? You are comparing choosing a person to date with a car?slaphead

Well, they are both called she's.laugh
Just make sure her Dlckometer hasn't been tampered with and she hasn't had excessive body work.slaphead


Not fair to run the meter back either!! laugh laugh

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 01/21/10 08:49 AM



Another way to look at it:

Suppose you were in the market for a good use car!

You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc!

One has a lot more miles on it than the other!

Which would you be inclined to choose?

drinker



A car? You are comparing choosing a person to date with a car?slaphead

Well, they are both called she's.laugh
Just make sure her Dlckometer hasn't been tampered with and she hasn't had excessive body work.slaphead



:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: that's funny I don't care who you are...

Although, I thought the comparison was for men or women... ...

jonny63's photo
Thu 01/21/10 08:56 AM



This reminds me of a funny true story from a few years back!

This woman had asked me if I would go out with her (on a date)!

She had a reputation of having been with being with every guy in town, and I had brought that to her attention!

In her defense...she calmly replied, "Well, this town ain't all that big"!!!!!

I think back now...at how funny that sounded at the time!

I guess it would have made a difference to her, if it had been a metropolitan type of town (larger city)!

Oh...and I did NOT go out with her!


drinker


I lived in a small town up north and started out just dating a woman and didn't take long to find out who all her ex's were. It wasn't that it was so many (it wasn't many considering it was her home town) but seemed like I couldn't go ANYWHERE without running into one of them, that was sort of irritating. I think they detested me way more then I did them. laugh

Singmesweet, to answer your question NO I don't ask but I think its our human nature to wonder about those things like has she ever been a sl*t, would she be a porcupine if....... and if so can she be faithful to me NOW? As far as me being asked, they can ask away. I'm totally open about it.:wink:

BTW I stayed with that gal for 7 great years.


Are you assuming that because someone has had many sexual partners before you that they haven't been faithful in the past?


Noooooo not by any means but it may have me wondering if they are a sex addict that likes getting loose and can't control themselves in a situation. Even if she has been unfaithful in the past I won't completely shoot her down for it, not till she's unfaithful to me.

msharmony's photo
Thu 01/21/10 08:56 AM

Does the number of sexual partners a person has had influence your decision to date them? How many is too many? What about too few? Do you ever ask how many someone has been with? Would you be offended if someone asked you?



I have a dont ask dont tell policy, although I will ask if someone has had same sex relations(which is a killer to potential intimacy for me).

I would feel less secure and less respectful of someone who had gone through partners like socks(intimate partners). I think if one has averaged more than one partner a year since becoming sexually active,,its a red flag for me.

jonny63's photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:01 AM

Another way to look at it:

Suppose you were in the market for a good use car!

You find 2, that are identical in every way, same price etc!

One has a lot more miles on it than the other!

Which would you be inclined to choose?

drinker


I like mine nice and broke in anyway laugh

no photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:05 AM




This reminds me of a funny true story from a few years back!

This woman had asked me if I would go out with her (on a date)!

She had a reputation of having been with being with every guy in town, and I had brought that to her attention!

In her defense...she calmly replied, "Well, this town ain't all that big"!!!!!

I think back now...at how funny that sounded at the time!

I guess it would have made a difference to her, if it had been a metropolitan type of town (larger city)!

Oh...and I did NOT go out with her!


drinker


I lived in a small town up north and started out just dating a woman and didn't take long to find out who all her ex's were. It wasn't that it was so many (it wasn't many considering it was her home town) but seemed like I couldn't go ANYWHERE without running into one of them, that was sort of irritating. I think they detested me way more then I did them. laugh

Singmesweet, to answer your question NO I don't ask but I think its our human nature to wonder about those things like has she ever been a sl*t, would she be a porcupine if....... and if so can she be faithful to me NOW? As far as me being asked, they can ask away. I'm totally open about it.:wink:

BTW I stayed with that gal for 7 great years.


Are you assuming that because someone has had many sexual partners before you that they haven't been faithful in the past?


Noooooo not by any means but it may have me wondering if they are a sex addict that likes getting loose and can't control themselves in a situation. Even if she has been unfaithful in the past I won't completely shoot her down for it, not till she's unfaithful to me.


How many people does she have to have sex with before you start wondering if she's a sex addict? laugh

jonny63's photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:12 AM





This reminds me of a funny true story from a few years back!

This woman had asked me if I would go out with her (on a date)!

She had a reputation of having been with being with every guy in town, and I had brought that to her attention!

In her defense...she calmly replied, "Well, this town ain't all that big"!!!!!

I think back now...at how funny that sounded at the time!

I guess it would have made a difference to her, if it had been a metropolitan type of town (larger city)!

Oh...and I did NOT go out with her!


drinker


I lived in a small town up north and started out just dating a woman and didn't take long to find out who all her ex's were. It wasn't that it was so many (it wasn't many considering it was her home town) but seemed like I couldn't go ANYWHERE without running into one of them, that was sort of irritating. I think they detested me way more then I did them. laugh

Singmesweet, to answer your question NO I don't ask but I think its our human nature to wonder about those things like has she ever been a sl*t, would she be a porcupine if....... and if so can she be faithful to me NOW? As far as me being asked, they can ask away. I'm totally open about it.:wink:

BTW I stayed with that gal for 7 great years.


Are you assuming that because someone has had many sexual partners before you that they haven't been faithful in the past?


Noooooo not by any means but it may have me wondering if they are a sex addict that likes getting loose and can't control themselves in a situation. Even if she has been unfaithful in the past I won't completely shoot her down for it, not till she's unfaithful to me.


How many people does she have to have sex with before you start wondering if she's a sex addict? laugh


noway laugh laugh laugh

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:13 AM

Does the number of sexual partners a person has had influence your decision to date them? How many is too many? What about too few? Do you ever ask how many someone has been with? Would you be offended if someone asked you?


Nope to all of the above.

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:14 AM
I could give a rats azz about someone's past...

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Thu 01/21/10 09:14 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Thu 01/21/10 09:17 AM



How many people does she have to have sex with before you start wondering if she's a sex addict? laugh


noway laugh laugh laugh


No response? You're the one who brought up her being a sex addict!

jonny63's photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:23 AM




How many people does she have to have sex with before you start wondering if she's a sex addict? laugh


noway laugh laugh laugh


No response? You're the one who brought up her being a sex addict!


Your asking for a number, read what I said :smile:

no photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:28 AM





How many people does she have to have sex with before you start wondering if she's a sex addict? laugh


noway laugh laugh laugh


No response? You're the one who brought up her being a sex addict!


Your asking for a number, read what I said :smile:


I was going by this:

Noooooo not by any means but it may have me wondering if they are a sex addict that likes getting loose and can't control themselves in a situation. Even if she has been unfaithful in the past I won't completely shoot her down for it, not till she's unfaithful to me.


I was wondering how many sexual partners would make you think someone was a sex addict and couldn't control themselves.

FearandLoathing's photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:36 AM
Don't care, as long as she can birth 12 kids I'm alright with it.smokin

JustAGuy2112's photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:41 AM

Does the number of sexual partners a person has had influence your decision to date them? How many is too many? What about too few? Do you ever ask how many someone has been with? Would you be offended if someone asked you?


To answer the questions in order...

1. Not really. Unless it's been a case of a different guy every night. Then ya have the whole ' disease ' thing to think about.

2. See above.

3. I have actually run into that. I have had women ask me how many, and when I tell them, they think there must be something wrong with me because there haven't been many.

4. Nope. They usually wind up telling me, at least in a general way, anyway.

5. Nope. Why would I get offended?

jonny63's photo
Thu 01/21/10 09:58 AM






How many people does she have to have sex with before you start wondering if she's a sex addict? laugh


noway laugh laugh laugh


No response? You're the one who brought up her being a sex addict!


Your asking for a number, read what I said :smile:


I was going by this:



Noooooo not by any means but it may have me wondering if they are a sex addict that likes getting loose and can't control themselves in a situation. Even if she has been unfaithful in the past I won't completely shoot her down for it, not till she's unfaithful to me.


I was wondering how many sexual partners would make you think someone was a sex addict and couldn't control themselves.


Guess I can't answer that.

If she's used to being with many different men I just wanna know she can be comfortable with just me. Thats all... flowerforyou

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 01/21/10 10:09 AM
I think that is the fear most guys have in this regards. That they will be compared to another lover. Some guys just don't like women who have had multiple partners, but most are just worried they won't be able to satisfy the girl. Which they shouldn't worry about. Good sex with anyone takes a bit of time....both parties have to learn what the other likes.

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Thu 01/21/10 10:15 AM
Edited by Tribbles on Thu 01/21/10 10:15 AM
You only take a ho to a hotel, and you can't turn a ho into a housewife.... bigsmile

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 01/21/10 10:16 AM
I'd rather be a ho than a housewife.

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Thu 01/21/10 10:24 AM

I think that is the fear most guys have in this regards. That they will be compared to another lover. Some guys just don't like women who have had multiple partners, but most are just worried they won't be able to satisfy the girl. Which they shouldn't worry about. Good sex with anyone takes a bit of time....both parties have to learn what the other likes.


This is a good point. I think it has a lot to do with insecurities.