So, the only time anyone has ever asked me how many people I've had sex with are people online. No one I've dated has ever asked and I've not asked them. I don't think it really matters. If they're comfortable in the bedroom, that's a good thing. I want someone who knows what he wants and knows what he's doing.. not someone who is too nervous to have a good time.

I totally agree. And I don't need to hear about how many conquests they've had in their life. Gee, 57? Congratulations, what did you win? Other than a soiled reputation, and suspicion and doubt as to how faithful they're gonna be to you.

That's not quite what I was getting at. While I don't need to know how many someone has been with, I'm not going to look down on someone for having lots of partners.

It does'nt influence me and I won't ask about their past. I'm more interested in the task at hand. I will tell if asked but there might be a pause before my answer. Not because there are alot to count, it's just that I'm focusing on who I'm with and not thinking of who I've been with before.

However, I do view this as a personal question and if asked before somebody starts getting to know me, I may see it as prying. I want to be evaluated by my words and actions as related to the interested person and not a history that they had no part in.

Wouldn't you at least wonder or speculate about why the O/P had so many partners or relationships? I wouldn't necessarily look down upon them, but I might be suspicious about their motives and personality flaws(difficulties). To me, a few quality relationships carry more value than someone with several short-lived ones.

I've never found it to be a weird or uncomfortable question, I ask mainly out of curiosity, not because I judge. Then again, I talk about a lot of stuff with the men I date that most women don't, so maybe I'm odd.

I don't see that the number of past sexual partner's should be the issue... more so the person's integrity.

Then if you were to enter into a sexual relationship with them... it might be important to have current sexual health evaluated and discussed... such as current STD/STIs. But otherwise, it's their past... everyone has one. If the person feels the need to discuss a past sexual relationship because it has baring on the current situation they will bring it up when it's appropriate.

The OP?

Like I've already said, I don't ask. So, the number of partners they've had is irrelevant.

I think they meant by O/P .. Other Person

Ah, that would make more sense. I thought at first he meant the person who made the thread, which would not have made sense.

Yes "other person." I didn't know what OP meant either until I joined this site.

OP on the site... generally means... original post or original poster.

Well, if she has slept with the entire Oakland Raiders football team, ummmmm......well Goof will pass.

I could care less!!!

And ya better not ask me!!!!!!!!!


Someones sex life is their own biz--------and mine is my biz

as long as their are no festering sores-----ooops sorry bout that

This is no joke. I met this chick at a club one night, and things were going good for Goof. So, she tells me that she wants to "get freaky wit me" and I am all, "Is this too early?". She assured me it wasn't, and that she had needs and wanted me to fill those needs. Now, as a concerned citizen, I am happy to help. But then, she tells me that she has herpies.....but not to worry....because she has no sores, it is cool to plow that region.

I basically had to just thank her for her honesty, and leave.

I wouldn't ask about their experience and I don't expect them to ask about mine. If we are compatible and there is chemistry, we make our own history.

Like I'm likely to find a 45+ year old virgin.

That would be my move too

I've been asked similar questions by a few male friends. It seems to be quite an issue for some people. I always have the same answer.

If you want to know be prepaired for the truth. If you don't want details don't ask. Be prepaired to be asked in return.

I was asked once. If I remember correctly he was was stunned. Apparently you don't find many twenty-year old virgins.

I wonder why it's such a big deal because I don't see it as an issue about the "town whore" thing so much as a health risk.

...I've also found that just because someone IS pretty much rumoured to be experienced doesn't make them any good at anything. Seriously, had more fun by myself

Gotta love it when a woman is comparative to a buying a car