Believe it or not there are still plenty of gentlemen left. Unfortunately there are many woman that don't know how to act around a gentleman, no class. A real man know how to approach a woman, and if the woman has class she know how to reject a man without insulting him, he in turn can bow out like a gentleman. Don't just ignore a man when he approaches you, don't try to belittle him, treat him like a man, after all if he approached you he must think that you are worth the effort, and worth taking a chance.

Because many WE do approach,
run away, and then WE feel MORE insecure about APPROACHING a woman..
But WE still keep our hopes and dreams alive....

I do agree with you here.

No need to be unclassy when dealing with not feeling another person.

you know the strange part is i don't mind getting rejected on line it's different ,i mean what is vestedother than a few words and the other person will likely never see you again..
i seem to be more at ease on line than in person till i really get to know the person..online i can be just as casual and at ease and the rejection factor never enters into it..they can't kille me and eat me.. just block me at best..but i have never had that either that i know of..

easy answer men to not approach woman for fear of a social stander burn if a man sees a woman he likes wants to say hi 2 things probably happen 1st he spends to much time wondering what to say 2 he judges him self he all ready made the lady to out of his reach by thinking to much in to it

i go by this and im not gunna get to much in to how to approach ladies but go with the 3 second rule once you se a lady and she sees you you have 3 seconds before something seems weird to make a move if you walk up and say hi in thouse 3 seconds you have shown confidence which alot of men bad looking and good looking lack

and girls and ladies want if you act its a normal thing to do talk to ladies you will be treated like a friend and rejected alot less

I have the same problem

people need to post in the forums often. Not only can you have fun but you can meet other members and get noticed too.

A lot of members don't post in the forums but they might read them. Maybe a post might spark an interest

this is the main reason im posting

welcome aboard

I have an approach avoidance conflict complex.

1. We are intimidated (or, chicken, as Texas Scoundrel would say)
OR
2. We are not attracted to you
OR
3. We are involved with someone else.

I've been asking myself the same question

I really don't think that posting enlarges my chances of dating. I am posting since one day now and I think it's fun. That does it for me. And as far as dating is concerned: man should approach woman. Simply, because it won't be the other way around.

people that don't post actually do watch the forums....not all of them though.

If you watch, you will see a member that posts in a thread because they are interested but hasn't posted before.

I try to post but never see anyone from my state in here.

hmm, I don't think I understand the reasoning behind that. If someone is interested in you - just sending a message is far more easy, isn't it?

but hey, you may be right. I promise to let you now after a few weeks of active posting

not if they are shy. Maybe posting in a thread will get them noticed by that person....who knows.

Not saying it's a guarantee, but I do know there are many member that don't post but read the forums and the posters in the forums are a small fraction of the members here

you are obviously noticing me. Fancy a date?

well if I was looking and you were in my area....sure.

I've been in the forums for 2 years and I've gotten several emails because of something I posted