i am 50 but i still look good

Try approaching them? Some men like it when women take the initiative. Good luck in your search.

Court orders

Those are the old ways

LOL yeah that would be one reason....

Waiting for the bruises to heal from the last time.

eh, who knows...so many little factors need to be perfectly in place.

Yep, yep.

try posting more

you sure do

some people can only take so many rejections before giving up, im at 35 out of 40 lol

why not contact them first?

When we show interest you girls look other way, but when we don't you girl came after us.

I believe that it should be 50/50 not always men first. I have most of the times said yes to girls when they ask me.

cheers

I have been told by the 50 something guys that often they don't approach for a number of reasons.

The assumption that a nice looking woman has a mate is number one. Not wanting to have and issue with compeating with a boyfriend or deal with and angry mate is intimidateing.

Feeling undesireable is common. Loss of hair, teeth, gaining weight, needing glasses, feeling ugly or frumpy. With diabetes, hypertension, and prostrate issues men can be concerned about performance. Women making cheap shots about normal ageing in men is as painful to them as are the things women hear. Sometimes it is enough to keep them out of dateing.

Affording to date is often a barrier. A movie and a meal for two can easily knock a hundred dollars in the head. With worries about layoffs and riseing expenses guys are worried about getting a romance started. Between paying childsupport, or college expenses, helping adult children or aged parents finances can be spread pretty thin. Men in their fifties are still traditional and are embarrassed if they are having to be cost concious.

Lack of privacy is also a problem. If a child or parent is in frequent contact or even in the home dating often has a lot of unwanted input even when it is just a beginning relationship. Dateing anyone from work or church or an organization you belong to immediately is a gossip issue. If it doesn't go well it can tank employment or break up friendships.

Last and not necessarily least is that many 50 something men is they are not that experienced in dateing or intimacy and may have only had one or two partners since their teens. They are aware of the risks of being sexually active and find just doing without a partner not that overwhelming or new of a situation. That some have dated and been put on the spot about why they are not aggressively trying to get laid dampens their interest.

Its not about you, it is about them.

a little wink and a smile wold go a long way in getting a response but mostly a smile..

I have emailed, flirted and nudged and all that with plenty of women. NOT A SINGLE BITE YET. I think it is the women who are either to afraid to risk meeting someone, or whatever. Either that, or they are looking for Mr. perfect, not just "mr right for me". I also think that 1/2 the women aren't even on this site anymore. "last seen over a month ago" appears in almost every profile.

the same could be true for the men.

Oh yeah??? Well, Kool Aid man is like 90, and he still has a nice package.

I don't know. They are generally slow to make a move which is why I always just go ahead and make the first contact if I'm interested. But I'm impatient.