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| Topic: Just so you ladies understand how hard it is for us guys. | |
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It's not delivery, it's you dude. No offense meant. It's also me. The women who "hang out" on these dating sites are worse than the men in terms of being honest about intent. They have been lied to about their looks so often that they believe the hype. There are some who are highly photogenic but in reality are average in looks. Just watch "Next Top Model" and you'll see what I mean. I look better in person than in my photos and, I'm told, younger.
Now your a nice looking man but you don't fit their Brad Pitt profile type, so they don't have time to waste on you. I'm in the 50's range and even though these women will wind up alone for the rest of their lives, they refuse to, in their words, SETTLE. I'm not sure what that actually means but I do know that Brad won't be posting anytime soon. So ladies, get over yourselves. Your missing out on a lot of descent looking guys who are serious about finding a mate. That goes for all age groups. Later, Leon. |
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I don't want this to turn into a nice guy thread. My point was that online is WAY different than real life. A woman that won't give me the time of day in a reply will sit and talk for hours in real life. I find this interesting. Why is it so surprising? Most people will do better in real life. In person, you get to see how the person acts right off the bat. |
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I sent about 30 out, half responded, and I met up with 3. All in three weeks. This was on another sight, my schedule has been hectic lately and the internet has been a lot easier to find girls. That's what I used to think Scott. I had a job where I could surf the web all night looking for dates. But, I get almost nothing online. In real life I can get dates with younger, more attractive women. I can get make outs in a dark corner, I can BJs in the men's room. I can get ONS. It's wild how different it is. When I go out I always have a condom in my sock because I never know what may happen. |
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I would say online it's not so much the delivery but the person who sends it. It's easier to be picky based strictly on aesthetics online. If your a wierd looking ****er and send a wierd email ... especially to a younger gal ... what would you expect?
And if her profile shows her to have no personality thats close to yours and she lacks that sense of humor ... safe bet that you'll get nothing in return. On the other hand in a bar, its harder to be mean in person ... and with a little alcohol in them ... a story like that might be just the entertainment they needed on a night out. Shes out looking for it. But who really knows. Chicks are nuts. |
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I don't want this to turn into a nice guy thread. My point was that online is WAY different than real life. A woman that won't give me the time of day in a reply will sit and talk for hours in real life. I find this interesting. This is a great point! I believe that the majority of online daters do not translate well across the internet. When I meet a guy in person for the first time, his gestures, smile, intelligence shine through whereas I may not have noticed those qualities if I saw his "dating profile" first. This subject is the only time I waver on the use of online dating. I know I am missing out by the one-dimension of my computer. |
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Why is it so surprising? Most people will do better in real life. In person, you get to see how the person acts right off the bat. It's surprising because everyone on a dating site is assumed to be her looking for a date. I understand there are going to be some spamers, hookers that put up a profile to attract tricks etc. But c'mon, this isn't a face book or my space. |
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texas.....in real life i do believe anyone could do better....
dating sites again can't convey human intimacy. The simple bush of your hand on hers is enough to send a signal that your extremly interested in her...and she will respond...sheesh...if I go to a club or gathering I have no problem getting guys attention if i seek it out...( i typically don't seek it out )...but it is much easier to get a guys attention in person. i would assume it would be the same for you concerning woman. |
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 mass emailings like junk mail normally gets deleted without a glance But I like the name Otto 
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Yes! The guys that study this kind of thing tell us that some 70% of what we communicate is through body language and another 20% is in the tone of your voice. That means that online 90% of what you usually say isn't being said. No matter what you write 90% is lost because it's not what you say, but how you say it that matters.
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It's not delivery, it's you dude. No offense meant. It's also me. The women who "hang out" on these dating sites are worse than the men in terms of being honest about intent. They have been lied to about their looks so often that they believe the hype. There are some who are highly photogenic but in reality are average in looks. Just watch "Next Top Model" and you'll see what I mean. I look better in person than in my photos and, I'm told, younger. Now your a nice looking man but you don't fit their Brad Pitt profile type, so they don't have time to waste on you. I'm in the 50's range and even though these women will wind up alone for the rest of their lives, they refuse to, in their words, SETTLE. I'm not sure what that actually means but I do know that Brad won't be posting anytime soon. So ladies, get over yourselves. Your missing out on a lot of descent looking guys who are serious about finding a mate. That goes for all age groups. Later, Leon. Telling someone to get over themselves and to settle is the worst advice EVER! This is one reason the divorce rate is so high. Attraction is subjective. Brad Pitt is NOT hot to me. This is a moot point. I deserve what I AM attracted to, and the whole package that goes with that person. I do not care to dissect a man with "acceptable" but not “optimal” qualities just so I am "not alone" later in life. I want BOTH the physical and them intellectual and emotional attraction. Everyone deserves both!! Being single is healthier than being with the wrong person. I am alone but not lonely. Must I continue with the clichés?  BTW, Texas wrote that email very tongue in cheek. I don’t think he was a serious as he played it out to be. I think it was a social experiment! |
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I would say online it's not so much the delivery but the person who sends it. It's easier to be picky based strictly on aesthetics online. If your a wierd looking ****er and send a wierd email ... especially to a younger gal ... what would you expect? And if her profile shows her to have no personality thats close to yours and she lacks that sense of humor ... safe bet that you'll get nothing in return. On the other hand in a bar, its harder to be mean in person ... and with a little alcohol in them ... a story like that might be just the entertainment they needed on a night out. Shes out looking for it. But who really knows. Chicks are nuts. Chicks are nuts?  So are guys! Any more sweeping generalizations?
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No matter who you are or what you write, you wont get much more than ten percent replying, if you are lucky. I gave up on sending random emails pretty quickly, and relied mainly on them emailing me first. If i were single now i wouldnt bother with online dating at all.
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It was a social experiment.
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I sent about 30 out, half responded, and I met up with 3. All in three weeks. This was on another sight, my schedule has been hectic lately and the internet has been a lot easier to find girls. That's what I used to think Scott. I had a job where I could surf the web all night looking for dates. But, I get almost nothing online. In real life I can get dates with younger, more attractive women. I can get make outs in a dark corner, I can BJs in the men's room. I can get ONS. It's wild how different it is. When I go out I always have a condom in my sock because I never know what may happen. Girls get their egos much higher online than in person. They have tons of people just sending them messages boosting their ego all day, even if 95% are star wars geeeks, drug addicts, and guys with no jobs what so ever. |
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It's not the tone or the delivery, it's the follow-up. In person you can follow the ice breaker with something equally if not more clever. On line you can't.
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No matter who you are or what you write, you wont get much more than ten percent replying, if you are lucky. I gave up on sending random emails pretty quickly, and relied mainly on them emailing me first. If i were single now i wouldnt bother with online dating at all. 
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Why is it so surprising? Most people will do better in real life. In person, you get to see how the person acts right off the bat. It's surprising because everyone on a dating site is assumed to be her looking for a date. I understand there are going to be some spamers, hookers that put up a profile to attract tricks etc. But c'mon, this isn't a face book or my space. You even said yourself earlier that you're just here for the forums. So are many other people. So, I'm not sure why you find this so surprising. You can find out so much more about a person in person right away than with online dating, unless you're willing to email a lot to get to know someone. So yes, many will do much better in person. |
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I couldn't handle jail. I'm too sensitive
^don't worry Bubba loves sensitive...lmao I can't believe you didn't get any replies, hell just the mention of money should have perked some interest.......facetiously smiles. |
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haha melody the only one i have left is that crazy people belong together. So perhaps its a good thing that both sexes have the same level of sanity. Maybe. I don't know. Chicks are pretty insane for the most part.
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I sent this email to 50 different women on 4 free dating sites. I got ONE reply. "You sound interesting. Want to rob a bank with me? I'll drive the getaway car while you go inside and get the money. Then we'll fly to Las Vegas, get married, have wild parties with showgirls and Elvis impersonators, argue because you don't want to name our first child Otto (even if it's a girl) get a divorce and spend the rest of our lives growing old and lonely." However, I also said it to another 50 women face to face t start a conversation and got 12 phone numbers. Do you think it's all in the delivery? I dunno I thought that it was pretty funny 
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