I sent this email to 50 different women on 4 free dating sites. I got ONE reply.

"You sound interesting. Want to rob a bank with me? I'll drive the getaway car while you go inside and get the money. Then we'll fly to Las Vegas, get married, have wild parties with showgirls and Elvis impersonators, argue because you don't want to name our first child Otto (even if it's a girl) get a divorce and spend the rest of our lives growing old and lonely."

However, I also said it to another 50 women face to face t start a conversation and got 12 phone numbers.

Do you think it's all in the delivery?

Hmmmm...I think 49 of the 50 women online were smart enough to realize they would be charged with bank robbery...and you only charged with accessory to bank robbery. The 50 you met face to face - let's say in a bar - well, only 38 women were smart enough to realize they were bank robbers...and 12 were dumber than a box of rocks. So, smarter women are online? You hang out in a bar with 24% dumb women? So many questions...so few real answers.

It's not delivery, it's you dude. No offense meant. It's also me. The women who "hang out" on these dating sites are worse than the men in terms of being honest about intent. They have been lied to about their looks so often that they believe the hype. There are some who are highly photogenic but in reality are average in looks. Just watch "Next Top Model" and you'll see what I mean. I look better in person than in my photos and, I'm told, younger.
Now your a nice looking man but you don't fit their Brad Pitt profile type, so they don't have time to waste on you. I'm in the 50's range and even though these women will wind up alone for the rest of their lives, they refuse to, in their words, SETTLE. I'm not sure what that actually means but I do know that Brad won't be posting anytime soon.
So ladies, get over yourselves. Your missing out on a lot of descent looking guys who are serious about finding a mate. That goes for all age groups. Later, Leon.

This is a great point!

I believe that the majority of online daters do not translate well across the internet.

When I meet a guy in person for the first time, his gestures, smile, intelligence shine through whereas I may not have noticed those qualities if I saw his "dating profile" first.

This subject is the only time I waver on the use of online dating. I know I am missing out by the one-dimension of my computer.

For those that said they don't like the idea of sending the same message to multiple women; do you have any idea how hard it is to come up with something funny, interesting and unique enough to make myself stand out from the crowd? I also used the same words to start conversations in real life and not one woman complained. In fact, I get several phone numbers and have sense been on dates three of those women!

What I wrote and sent to these women was not just a clever note. It was also a test to see if she matched with my sense of humor. To find out if she would play along and throw something back at me. Almost all of the women in real life did this. On the web one did.

My guess is, although you are good looking, you aren't Brad Pitt. You can't just walk into a room and have to beat the women away with a stick, just as you cannot post your pic on a website and have your inbox over-flowing with their emails. Wit, humor and charm do not always translate well thru emails, so I guess you have to rely on those attributes in real life, along with your sparkling personality. I mean, what's more impressive to a woman? Playful banter thru emails over the course of a few days, or in real life over the course of a few minutes.?

I would guess, the latter, because it is much more personal.

Women's brains don't always work the way we think they should.

Texas, are we supposed to feel sorry for you, because you find it difficult to come up with something unique to say to different women?

So, it seems that internet dating simply doesn't work for the vast majority of us. Even people like myself that have no trouble getting dates in real life.

Yes! The guys that study this kind of thing tell us that some 70% of what we communicate is through body language and another 20% is in the tone of your voice. That means that online 90% of what you usually say isn't being said. No matter what you write 90% is lost because it's not what you say, but how you say it that matters.

No.

I am simply attempting to communicate to you and the other women here what it's like for men on these dating sites and to perhaps hear from other men on the subject.

I stated earlier that this isn't another nice guy thread. Do not pity me, I am doing just fine in the dating arena. This thread is about the way men and women interact in both real life and the internet. It isn't about me or you or anyone else. It is about this game all of us play.

I find it interesting that so few (only one I think) women appear to have any helpful input on the subject.

So, it seems that internet dating simply doesn't work for the vast majority of us. Even people like myself that have no trouble getting dates in real life.

No matter who you are or what you write, you wont get much more than ten percent replying, if you are lucky. I gave up on sending random emails pretty quickly, and relied mainly on them emailing me first. If i were single now i wouldnt bother with online dating at all.