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Kim
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amen brother

hahah thanks mate

I had a guy I was living with that was sending naked pics of himself to other women and setting up meetings while I was at work.When I showed him proof of what he was doing he said that wasn't cheating. Well yes that is cheating and I kicked his behind out. He said I didn't give him a chance. He wouldn't do it anymore. I know he won't I'm not giving him that chance.

..i often wondered why someone in a relationship would cheat,why bother with a relationship if you dont respect it,not to mention having sex with alot of people and taking chances with you and your SO's health..
..not to mention the deception and lies,and the lame reasons they come up with for doing it..
..i can understand as humans we have urges but i mean get a grip and have some pride not to mention morals,so many of those lacking these days...jmo

people know what they are doing when they cheat, they realize the moral and ethical implications of their actions, just because they do things that we find unfitting does not automatically mean they were driven with ignorance. people cheat for the same reason you make mistakes, intentional or not every one has their own reason unique to the circumstances of the individual. I've never cheated or have cheated on anyone but if you've never made a mistake then i encourage to cast the stone of judgment at these loathed creatures. all you other hypocrites have some reflecting to do.

.............$%^&...well i guess you can delete my post now lol

Who knows except the one committing the act, maybe its a selfworth thing with some, maybe its a desire to experience the "what if", maybe its a sick form of punishent in someway. It is rarely the ultimate problem it is ususally the result of some underlying issues within the relationship or the person committing the act.

Bottom line it is not OK for any reason.

I meant attack and insult the poster

You can't lose something you never had

Everybody cheats, lies and steals at least once in their life.

The thrill of cheating is living next to the edge, especially when the husband comes home and finds his wife in the middle of making passionate love to his best friend. What happens next is what cheating is all about, does the angry husband pull out his gun and kill everybody or does he join in?

What would you do?

c. walk away

Evolution.

Over many thousands of years men and women have evolved strategies to ensure they are passing on their genes and mating with the best possible partner.

For a man there is little cost. He can increase the number of his offspring by mating with a number of different women. So, he is "programed" to do just that.

A woman on the other hand cannot increase her number of offspring by mating with many men. So, she looks for the man of highest "quality" to mate with. But, she may not be high enough quality to hang onto this man. So, she may choose to pair bond with a man of slightly lower quality and "cheat" with the higher quality man. Then she can trick her mate into thinking the child is his own. This is called cuckolding.

This is why no matter how much we want to be true to our lovers we still have sexual thoughts about other people. We have no choice about it. We do however have a choice about the action we take. How we respond to those feeling of attraction.

IMHO cheaters rate right next to child molesters, they are freaking worthless people... I would NEVER go back to a women that cheated on me, EVER....

ITs interesting the broad definitions people have of what cheating is. To me,, CHEATING(having sex with someone else that is NOT approved of by their partner) is the sign of an emotionally immature partner. One who cant quite commit to one person but wants one person to commit to them,,very immature.

I met him on here and he's back on here looking for a woman but yet he's in a relationship. What does that tell you about him?

I agree with Updawg
there's not an excuse for cheating. If your not satisfied with who your with then get out of the relationship first. Then your free to do whatever.

Harder question is to define what cheating is. Sex with somebody out of the relationship, obviously (unless you're swingers or something and approved of). Any physical act that you wouldn't do with your own parents, grandmother, uncle, etc; most likely. Flirting, in person or online, text, etc; gray area. What if other person knows you're in a relationship and that it won't be acted on? Watching porn? Seeing nudity in a movie and liking it? Where exactly is that fine line?