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lol goooooood luck  and are you "pure"? or does that only apply to the girl? I wouldn't expect something from a girl if I myself did not display that quality. Otherwise that would be rather hypocritical. So yes, I am a virgin. |
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"By pure, I mean one that has not had sex . . . " Don't go there bro, believe me, I married a girl who had only ever had sex with me. For a year before we got married I had to play the role of teacher. Then 7 years later, human nature kicked in and she started wondering what else is out there and she cheated. To make a long story short, there is nothing wrong with a girl who has had sex with many different guys. We guys get idolized if we tap many different girls, I think it shouldn't matter "how many" she's had. She knows what's out there already and is obviously content with you if she stays with you. Fortunately, my ex had to find out what she lost the hard way, as I don't go backwards in a relationship ever. I have always thought this way and wondered what the difference in male to female thought was on it. If a man is a better lover because of experience then that would apply for a woman too, right? |
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lol goooooood luck and are you "pure"? or does that only apply to the girl? I wouldn't expect something from a girl if I myself did not display that quality. Otherwise that would be rather hypocritical. So yes, I am a virgin. I guess in that case two virgins would be idealic. Good luck there. Just remember though that the stock taken in how many lovers someone has had in the past is really not a valid gauge to their worthiness or value as a human. |
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dude it going to be hard to find a woman at your age with their hymen...good luck though i guess you think? i was still a virgin until after i'd finished college. and i had a boyfriend almost all through high school. we had fun just hanging around and doing stuff, sex wasn't the entire existence of our relationship. besides, we were too scared i'd get pregnant! |
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i can see where you're coming from OP and i don't see anything wrong with it
 keep looking for what you want. but at some point, you're gonna realize that the older you get, the smaller the likelihood of you finding such a woman your age. you'll either have to make the choice to become a pedo or slacken your criteria a wee bit to encompass women who are still beautiful human beings inside and out regardless of what they've done in the past. |
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could always find you one of those born again virgins....lol
or jehova's witness...
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I think you've seen a few posts amoung the others letting you know that yes some people did wait for marriage. You'll find her. She's probably out there thinking the exact same thing!
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At the age of 21 (I'm 20 at the moment but will be 21 soon), what do you think my chances of finding a "pure" girl are? By pure, I mean one that has not had sex or one that has done it only once with somebody she had been with for a very, very long time and thought she was going to get married to. Also, I like a girl who doesn't smoke, drink, or party. I also have to find her attractive, though. I'm really having a heck of a time... I've been searching for a girl like this pretty much my entire life. I finally met one online a little over three months ago and we hit it off great. Not only did she meet all of my above criteria but our interests matched perfectly (which is rare, I have odd interests), and we'd constantly say the same thing at the same time. Then when we met in-person she stopped liking me. This was very hard for me because I was beginning to lose hope before I met her, and she turned that around. Now I am wondering if an opportunity like this will come by again or if I've just lost the ONLY person who meets my search criteria. And before you ask, because I know it will be asked: purity is important to me because of three reasons - 1) I am pure, and want a like-minded individual, 2) I think it says a lot about a person's character because it shows that they are strong-willed, 3) If somebody has not had sex before then it means much more to them when they do have it. I think of sex as both a physical, emotional, and mental bonding experience that should only be shared with those you love deeply and want to spend the rest of your life with. I couldn't leave somebody I've had sex with unless under extreme circumstances, because I see it as a bond; but if somebody has already had sex they certainly won't see it this way. So... what are my chances? Any ideas of places I can look to find the kind of girl I am looking for? Sadly I've searched this site inside and out and only maybe three girls out of the 4000 results I was provided even came close to matching what I was looking for. And the funny thing is eHarmony told me, "You have no matches." My search criteria? The world. Maybe the kind of girl I am looking for doesn't use dating sites at all, and when using MySpace/Facebook sites they never set themselves as looking for a relationship or dating? Because I don't get much luck searching through MySpace or Facebook for people who are looking for relationships or dating, either. Good luck, I have a hard enough time finding someone that fits under the simple criteria of 'intelligent'...you're going to have a hell of a time finding someone that fits under your criteria, especially in Indiana. |
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It depends on how the girl is raised and what her environment is like. I grew up very sheltered and went to schools where I wasn't able to do anything sexual, whether I wanted to or not. So in that case, at her age, yes I was a virgin. But I know my experiences are very, very unusual, especially now, since society has changed sooooo much, for the good or the bad.
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It depends on how the girl is raised and what her environment is like. I grew up very sheltered and went to schools where I wasn't able to do anything sexual, whether I wanted to or not. So in that case, at her age, yes I was a virgin. But I know my experiences are very, very unusual, especially now, since society has changed sooooo much, for the good or the bad. Yeah... that's another bad thing... even amongst virgins you have two categories: "Virgins without the opportunity" and "Virgins by choose". Because I am attracted to the personality characteristic of virgins (the purity, the strong will power, the innocence, etc.), a virgin who WANTS to have sex ASAP is just as bad to me as somebody who has already had sex (possibly worse depending on the particular person-to-person comparison). Like, for example, I have had the opportunity to have sex (more than once), and I have turned down all of those opportunities. I think such a decision makes me stronger and gives me more of a right to expect that other girls be virgins, because had I been a virgin who was only a virgin because I hadn't had the opportunity to have sex, then my will power would not have been fully tested. So really, it's more about the purity, innocence, will power, and respect for the meaning of sex for me than it is about the actual physical aspect of being a virgin. And so even amongst virgins I may not find what I am looking for depending on the virgin. |
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Why is purity so important we all make mistakes in the past, You are going to shun a great girl because she might have givien it up to someone she cared for in the past. Don't be too picky if she's a good match don't hold mistakes against her if you meet someone. Accept Why the assumption that having sex is a mistake?! Really now, sex is great, and letting someone tell you otherwise, means you are weak-willed. **with regards to consenting, sex, let me say for the record. |
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It depends on how the girl is raised and what her environment is like. I grew up very sheltered and went to schools where I wasn't able to do anything sexual, whether I wanted to or not. So in that case, at her age, yes I was a virgin. But I know my experiences are very, very unusual, especially now, since society has changed sooooo much, for the good or the bad. Yeah... that's another bad thing... even amongst virgins you have two categories: "Virgins without the opportunity" and "Virgins by choose". Because I am attracted to the personality characteristic of virgins (the purity, the strong will power, the innocence, etc.), a virgin who WANTS to have sex ASAP is just as bad to me as somebody who has already had sex (possibly worse depending on the particular person-to-person comparison). Like, for example, I have had the opportunity to have sex (more than once), and I have turned down all of those opportunities. I think such a decision makes me stronger and gives me more of a right to expect that other girls be virgins, because had I been a virgin who was only a virgin because I hadn't had the opportunity to have sex, then my will power would not have been fully tested. So really, it's more about the purity, innocence, will power, and respect for the meaning of sex for me than it is about the actual physical aspect of being a virgin. And so even amongst virgins I may not find what I am looking for depending on the virgin. Well, I really don't know what I would have done if I had been given the opportunity. I never was, so I don't know. I might have ended up still doing nothing, because I never wanted to get pregnant or get an STD, so I don't know. |
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It depends on how the girl is raised and what her environment is like. I grew up very sheltered and went to schools where I wasn't able to do anything sexual, whether I wanted to or not. So in that case, at her age, yes I was a virgin. But I know my experiences are very, very unusual, especially now, since society has changed sooooo much, for the good or the bad. Yeah... that's another bad thing... even amongst virgins you have two categories: "Virgins without the opportunity" and "Virgins by choose". Because I am attracted to the personality characteristic of virgins (the purity, the strong will power, the innocence, etc.), a virgin who WANTS to have sex ASAP is just as bad to me as somebody who has already had sex (possibly worse depending on the particular person-to-person comparison). Like, for example, I have had the opportunity to have sex (more than once), and I have turned down all of those opportunities. I think such a decision makes me stronger and gives me more of a right to expect that other girls be virgins, because had I been a virgin who was only a virgin because I hadn't had the opportunity to have sex, then my will power would not have been fully tested. So really, it's more about the purity, innocence, will power, and respect for the meaning of sex for me than it is about the actual physical aspect of being a virgin. And so even amongst virgins I may not find what I am looking for depending on the virgin. This just leaves me rolling, especially since knowing the original meaning for a virgin was a woman who had not had a kid yet. So, I'm still a virgin is the original sense of the word. Hoots with laughter! |
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Bend me....
Shape me.... Anyway ya want me....
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Like I said...you'll find them You just have to look...REALLY HARD!
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I have still not been pointed to the information regarding the original meaning of the word VIRGIN as it pertains to the actual origins of the word, not the origins of similar words. Today virgin means someone who has not had sexual intercourse, it can be found in any dictionary.
I think it would be tough to remain a virgin because sex has become so widely promoted and accepted in mainstream. I can understand the respect one would have to desire that for themself. I would just steer clear of the inverse assumption that because someone is NOT a virgin, they are any less respectable or have any less integrity or ability to appreciate their partner. |
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Hi my name is Chris Hansen from Dateline NBC, would you please take a seat over here...go ahead and put your bag over here...
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You'll find her!!
Personally I don't think here... But maybe your local church. Or ...... Well I guess could me anywhere !! But you'll find her my friend. She's out there somewhere!  Good luck .... |
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there's plenty of virgins here, and they talk to me about various things and safety issues, (wouldn't it stink to get an STD first time) and embarrassing to be a virgin, "late" which could be 12 years old by now for gosh sake. most are embarrassed to admit they are "pure" for sake of ridicule, but there are more out there than most realize....
just keep talking to people, and your dreamgirl may be there, but not what you expect......what guides your life for wisdom may surprize you completely....good luck at any rate 
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