No, I wasn't with him for a long time...It was only once and I have been celibate ever since

Gosh, that is disturbing since my dad is around 60

my dad just turned 40

You're very wise, sex is evil.

I agree...*tear*

my dad just turned 40

he is my adopted dad. He married my mom when I turned 3...MY biological dad aka The Sperm Donor is 48

my dad just turned 40

that was my skull i'm so wasted

oh cool it's opposite for me my adopted dad is 40 and the "sperm donor" is around 60 something...i think! my adopted parents took me into fostercare at nine and adopted me at 14

wait how old are you?

coming from girl about your age...well and about six of my friends sitting around this computer...you sound like a jerk and maybe thats the reason no one is telling you...maybe the pure girls that you feel attracted to arent attracted to you...

26

I apologize if I come off that way, but I assure you that I am not. Sorry, I am very grammatical, and some people take that as being somewhat condescending for some reason. Also, I think because we have different opinions that you might be more inclined to think less of me for that reason as well and be quick to make assumptions.

I have never been called a jerk in-person or by those I have talked to. Not that this means much, but on personality quizzes my "accommodation" score is always maxed out, meaning I'm as far from being a jerk as I can be. In fact, I'd have to say being too nice is a downfall of mine.

I wish I was 26 again, I'm so old.

At the age of 21 (I'm 20 at the moment but will be 21 soon), what do you think my chances of finding a "pure" girl are? By pure, I mean one that has not had sex or one that has done it only once with somebody she had been with for a very, very long time and thought she was going to get married to. Also, I like a girl who doesn't smoke, drink, or party. I also have to find her attractive, though.

I'm really having a heck of a time... I've been searching for a girl like this pretty much my entire life. I finally met one online a little over three months ago and we hit it off great. Not only did she meet all of my above criteria but our interests matched perfectly (which is rare, I have odd interests), and we'd constantly say the same thing at the same time. Then when we met in-person she stopped liking me. This was very hard for me because I was beginning to lose hope before I met her, and she turned that around. Now I am wondering if an opportunity like this will come by again or if I've just lost the ONLY person who meets my search criteria.

And before you ask, because I know it will be asked: purity is important to me because of three reasons - 1) I am pure, and want a like-minded individual, 2) I think it says a lot about a person's character because it shows that they are strong-willed, 3) If somebody has not had sex before then it means much more to them when they do have it. I think of sex as both a physical, emotional, and mental bonding experience that should only be shared with those you love deeply and want to spend the rest of your life with. I couldn't leave somebody I've had sex with unless under extreme circumstances, because I see it as a bond; but if somebody has already had sex they certainly won't see it this way.

So... what are my chances? Any ideas of places I can look to find the kind of girl I am looking for? Sadly I've searched this site inside and out and only maybe three girls out of the 4000 results I was provided even came close to matching what I was looking for. And the funny thing is eHarmony told me, "You have no matches." My search criteria? The world.

Maybe the kind of girl I am looking for doesn't use dating sites at all, and when using MySpace/Facebook sites they never set themselves as looking for a relationship or dating? Because I don't get much luck searching through MySpace or Facebook for people who are looking for relationships or dating, either.

Join a church group.

I wish I was 26 again, I'm so old.

Slim to none.