I was going to guess heart burn

Equally as serious... .

He's telling me and I'm trying so hard not to laugh. Fortunately it was over the phone...

okiiiiiiii ....
I smell like a flower ...
Does it count that I can say " give me money " in more than 10 languages ??

Never on the deal breakers, those are set in stone at this stage of my life. Not going to go back the way I have already been, however flexibility on other issues is more than doable... Compromise is an important part of being in any kind of relationship. We cannot think of ourselves as being perfect, we all have faults to some degree. The other person will see the faults and hopefully can deal with them or perhaps my faults may be deal breakers for them... Therefore it is important to remain as flexible as possible with other people, just as you would want them to be flexible in regards to you.

If you are falling for them maybe they fit your exact standards, you were just being unrealistic.

First of all Hi Lillith, long time no pester....

I just wanted to chime in and say that you are correct. What does that possibly mean. I hope I change!!! I hope I grow, become a little wiser, even happier if I can possibly fine a way!

I will say right now, I promise, without any doubt I will change!!!

Of course I mean that in a good way.

Why, on god's green earth would you be falling for them if they did not meet your standards?
Have we become so desperate that we need to accept moral shortcomings that don't align with ours?

OT.. I wouldn't even begin a conversation with them if I felt I might have to lower my standards. Number one prerequisite is intelligence.

If lowering my standards meant compromising good manners and respect, I would not change, that would be like selling your soul,but if it was a little fine tuning to make a relationship work then surely this would be the right thing to do.

'standards' imply that some sort of criteria is set, making you a better person than they are, which sounds sort of assuming and arrogant to me.

i don't really have anything set in stone as to who i'd date or what attributes they'd have to possess; i mostly just rely on chemistry as to whether we'll click or not.

if you would've seen some of the women i've been with.i've lowered mine so much,i don't even have standards anymore

I have no standards as long as she's breathing I'm good

Short story about lowering standards:

When I lived with my ex he had a friend who had been off and on with an alcoholic/crackhead for 3 years. Now this friend of his did not drink, do drugs, was in college, had her own house. He treated her like crap and she took it and in the end, she ended up pregnant by him, she wanted him to change, he refused, he got his own place, met someone new and now she's left alone to raise this baby she'll be having later this year.

You lower your standards - you risk your life, especially when it comes to drug addicts. Unless of course, you lower your standards for "looks"...then I suppose, as long as they make you happy, then its ok to lower standards. :)

i think it would b like settling.. and settling is never good cuz in the long run u will b unsatisfied and would wanna leav..

It seems as if the same people on here have the same gloomy or rediculous outlooks on every subject and the people who are positive have the same as well..I agree with all those who said its not lowering them when you reevalute your standards and decide what is more important in your life, love, happyness, or endless searching and never having enough or being fully satisfied...If you understand the fact that people are not perfect and no person can ever be perfect it makes it alot easier to decide that sometimes you have to sacrifice one thing to gain another and that is called happyness...Love is gained thru compromise and if you have no ability or intentions of doing so then this doesnt apply to you...I dont understand your all encompassing chase after regret and unhappyness but you will understand one day when you have nothing and wish you compromised and wish your ego was a little smaller and your heart a little bigger

My standards:
You must have integrity.
You must do what you say you will do.
You must live by the Golden Rule.
You must have manners.
You must abide by the laws of society.
You must respect me, my family, my son, and my friends.

Sorry.... I'm not lowering those. Nope. I don't want to change anyone either. If you can't meet my standards, I don't want you in my life.

Have done that in the past and it failed. Standards are there for a reason. I am now more likely to let someone go who does not meet my standards then I was when I was young and believed love conquers all.