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Topic: Lowering Your Standards
Monier Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 3337	Fri 09/18/09 07:59 PM
Do you think it is okay to lower your standards if the person you are falling for does not meet them? Never lower your standards. Revaluate them yes, but never lower. Never settle for less than what you want.

Nibiru2012 Joined Fri 09/18/09 Posts: 23	Fri 09/18/09 09:43 PM
Do you think it is okay to lower your standards if the person you are falling for does not meet them? well if your falling for them i think sure and if you wanna get some or none

CatsLoveMe Joined Wed 09/16/09 Posts: 4522	Sat 09/19/09 12:28 AM
Another deep Sigmund Freud issue here. God, I should have been a therapist! Most are right here saying you shouldn't lower. I have been burned, stabbed, crucified, etc. myself for lowering my standards. The problem is how genuine is the person you are with the first 3 or 6 months you knew them, or was it all an acting job to get you to fall in love with them. Now if this has been a real person from the beginning and their true self was never falsely advertised, rare, but it can happen, some people can better their lives, turn it around, and maybe they'll rise to your standards. So in general take it from the veterans in love, don't risk it, but if you do anyway, you still may have a chance if that person is honest with you and willing to make a change to improve your relationship with them.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 09/19/09 10:15 AM
Do you think it is okay to lower your standards if the person you are falling for does not meet them? Never lower your standards. Revaluate them yes, but never lower. Never settle for less than what you want.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 09/19/09 06:43 PM
Do you think it is okay to lower your standards if the person you are falling for does not meet them? well if your falling for them i think sure and if you wanna get some or none

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 09/19/09 10:43 PM
Another deep Sigmund Freud issue here. God, I should have been a therapist! Most are right here saying you shouldn't lower. I have been burned, stabbed, crucified, etc. myself for lowering my standards. The problem is how genuine is the person you are with the first 3 or 6 months you knew them, or was it all an acting job to get you to fall in love with them. Now if this has been a real person from the beginning and their true self was never falsely advertised, rare, but it can happen, some people can better their lives, turn it around, and maybe they'll rise to your standards. So in general take it from the veterans in love, don't risk it, but if you do anyway, you still may have a chance if that person is honest with you and willing to make a change to improve your relationship with them.

sweetboy3030 Joined Tue 08/18/09 Posts: 1188	Sat 09/19/09 10:54 PM
Comprimaise is the key. Place them too high, and you willnever have a lasting relationship. Too low, and you are whore.

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sat 09/19/09 10:57 PM Edited by robert1652 on Sat 09/19/09 10:58 PM
No lowering of Standards on my part

agbbieannie Joined Thu 02/21/08 Posts: 942	Sat 09/19/09 10:58 PM
If they don't meet the standards you wont even like them its a flash in the pan. move one. I never lower my standards but a roll in the hay is just that. LOL

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sat 09/19/09 10:59 PM Edited by Ladylid2012 on Sat 09/19/09 10:59 PM
Do you think it is okay to lower your standards if the person you are falling for does not meet them? Never lower your standards. Revaluate them yes, but never lower. Never settle for less than what you want. I'm finding the older I get the more I reevaluate my standards..

southern_bee Joined Sun 07/29/07 Posts: 4812	Sat 09/19/09 10:59 PM
well i mean if they have a rock hard body and a huge dick but do hard drugs then id say my standards are low enough

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sat 09/19/09 11:21 PM
Depends on how you define standards. Some of mine are fairly flexible and some are not. Generally I would say a really skinny guy would not meet my standards for what is attractive but I have to think if he had the personality and values that are more critical I might fall head over heels.

sweetboy3030 Joined Tue 08/18/09 Posts: 1188	Sat 09/19/09 11:26 PM
Depends on how you define standards. Some of mine are fairly flexible and some are not. Generally I would say a really skinny guy would not meet my standards for what is attractive but I have to think if he had the personality and values that are more critical I might fall head over heels. Good luck, most men I see here are either A-holes, self-cented, shallow, or just for a one night stand. I looked and looked but there are no men left that are honest, faithful, nor true to the old ways.

myshell711 Joined Thu 06/25/09 Posts: 610	Sun 09/20/09 04:02 AM
I would never lower my standards.. been there done that..NEVER again!..I was losing a sense of who I really am when I lowered them a long time ago...Since then I realized If they don't meet my standards I don't want them in my life... Integrity being the most important for me..

artman48 Joined Sun 07/12/09 Posts: 933	Sun 09/20/09 04:15 AM
If the woman had a sh_t load of money---lower and lower I go. If she's 85 with a bad heart--thats ok with me!--I'm there for ya baby!!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sun 09/20/09 02:33 PM
Comprimaise is the key. Place them too high, and you willnever have a lasting relationship. Too low, and you are whore.

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sun 09/20/09 02:56 PM
Do you think it is okay to lower your standards if the person you are falling for does not meet them? Never lower your standards. Revaluate them yes, but never lower. Never settle for less than what you want. I'm finding the older I get the more I reevaluate my standards.. So you should as you get wiser and more experienced

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 09/21/09 06:19 PM
If the woman had a sh_t load of money---lower and lower I go. If she's 85 with a bad heart--thats ok with me!--I'm there for ya baby!!

miko1960 Joined Thu 06/11/09 Posts: 554	Mon 09/21/09 06:25 PM
Don't have many standards to begin with.

sweetboy3030 Joined Tue 08/18/09 Posts: 1188	Mon 09/21/09 11:17 PM
If the woman had a sh_t load of money---lower and lower I go. If she's 85 with a bad heart--thats ok with me!--I'm there for ya baby!! See what I mean?