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No. You have to be who you are and they have to be who they are and if it works out thats great. You should not have to change for anyone or vice versa unless maybe you are just a really rotten person or axe murder. Then change would be needed.

Are you suggesting that I lower the standard of "breathing" to include those that are not?

I don't think I have standards since I really am not into dating.

I can't seem to find the clip from SNL back in the Phil Hartman/Jon Lovitz days when they (one of the two of them and I cant remember which) did the bit about "remember women, lower your standards. there are plenty of men out there if you just lower your standards"

I wish I could find it, youtube doesn't seem to have it..

as for the OP.. dunno. I find most people have unrealistic 'standards' when it comes to dating. The women want someone that looks like Clooney. The men want someone that looks like Pam Anderson. Both want someone to #$%& them like a pornstar..

None of that is reality. If you like someone, then that's enough to take the next step and see what happend from there.

If you find yourself thinking the person you're falling for is below "your standards" then you might need to examine how it is you established your standards and what it is your standards are designed to accomplish. The heart knows things of which the mind is clueless (and vice versa, of course)

I know the scene of which you speak, that's Lovitz.

Firstly, I'd like to point out that most people say, "I am who I am and I'm not going to change for anyone".

This has become so horrible... there are folks out there who demand people take them as they are. And they suck. They don't have manners, they don't compromise, and they irritate me to no end.

Changing a part of someone? That's wrong. But asking them to adjust some minor behaviors or actions... out of respect... well that is what a relationship is about. If it's important to me, I expect it to be important to them. And that "Take me how I am bullshyt", that is a combination of wicked laziness and saying F-u to your partner.

Hey Lilith - what are you willing to change to make another happy? your personality, your beliefs, your goals, your aspirations?

None of those things.
Did you read my post?



But asking someone to close the shower curtain or not swear around your mother.... that's A-okay with me.

At this age--I'd lower 1 for every $10,000--

Did that's why I asked questions

Oh yes, Fran.... silly. You are using my post to make a point or you just wanted clarification?


As in, folks, you cutting your toenails in bed with me is redonkulous and then demanding I accept you for who you are?

who me??? just asking? I'm in a curious state today

How about leaving hairs in the sink or on the bar of soap?

I did. I decided Multiple Personality Disorder wasn't so bad on the days he was not trying to kill me.

Oh yeah.... My ex told me...



Ready for this??????








He found the solution to all his problems. He figured out why he is such a dykk. It explains why we didn't work out, why he's lost so many jobs, why his second wife divorced him, why he yells at the kids...

yep, if I need pain , nightmares , craziness, hurt , abuse and stupidity in action ..

To lower to what level?

I'm looking for a woman who takes daily showers and able to speak/read/write at least one language and able to walk upright.

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He was diagnosed with sleep apnea.