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Yep. Firstly, I'm sorry you are hurt. Let her go. Clearly she's been doing things she should not have been until she ended things with you first. Focus on you, finding a job and a place to stay. All of that is already taken care of. I now have 2 Full time jobs and my own appt. but i still cant help but think bout her. I kno she cheated... and i kno i shouldnt be worried bout her... but i still love her and i still care. While I don't want to say negative things about someone I know nothing about. It looks like it just might be possible that she was holding you back. Look at the changes you were able to create once you no longer had to worry about the both of you and you were your only concern. On the other hand, it could have been the incident to motivate you to get those changes pulled together. If she was busy messing around with someone, you are better off to take care of yourself and when you have yourself in a good place, someone who can appreciate that can come into your life. Sure, it makes a person feel sad and may take a long time to get over emotionally. But try to appreciate the positive situation you are now in. |
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At least she didn't break up with you via email (see 'Dear Joan'Thread). be seeing you I've had that happen before too. with the only other girl i ever really loved. after 2 years. ****in myspace thats why im trying out mingle no lol i didnt meet her on myspace... i was with her for 2 years... living together and everything... she just broke up with me over a myspace msg... |
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At least she didn't break up with you via email (see 'Dear Joan'Thread). be seeing you I've had that happen before too. with the only other girl i ever really loved. after 2 years. ****in myspace thats why im trying out mingle no lol i didnt meet her on myspace... i was with her for 2 years... living together and everything... she just broke up with me over a myspace msg... myspace has been the death of a lot of relationships. |
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I know it sounds like and old fuddy duddy saying maybe the living together idea is part of the problem but maybe it is. Someone isn't into you enough to commit to you are they really worth risking your heart on? A lot of times someone wants to just live with you it is because deep down they know you are not what they really want. Kind of like always having a relationship escape hatch.
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i'm really sorry to hear that bro! you will have to move on it's not easy at all but the stuff that happend to me is a who lot worse than what happend to you!!!!
 
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At least she didn't break up with you via email (see 'Dear Joan'Thread). be seeing you I've had that happen before too. with the only other girl i ever really loved. after 2 years. ****in myspace thats why im trying out mingle no lol i didnt meet her on myspace... i was with her for 2 years... living together and everything... she just broke up with me over a myspace msg...  
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Ok, I might have done something bad...
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Ok, I might have done something bad... 
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Edited by
John1932
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Mon 08/03/09 08:20 PM
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Ok, How about i start with this. Me and my girl have been dating since Feb of 08... So about a year and a half... We've had our ups and downs like every couple but i loved her with all of my heart... Well almost 2 weeks ago now this is wut happened... Me and her where hanging around the house (my sisters house bc she was letting us stay with her for a little while) tryin to get **** together... Well my sister wanted us out by the weekend so we had to find a place to stay. Neither one of us had a job at the time bc there was really no jobs to get. So we didnt really have anywhere to go but we usually figure something out. Well it was around Noonish and she said she's gonna go put in a couple applications... she also said she would be back around 3-4pm. Well she left and didnt come back till 10am the next day with 2 small hickies on her neck... She said she went to her aunts house and her Aunt wanted her to move in with her for a while. Well i told her that if she moved in with her aunt that we couldnt be together bc i would most likely be moving out of town bc i have nowhere to stay in the town i live in. Well we where talking about it all day. (I let the hickies on her neck go for the time being) Finally i said "Lets just go to sleep and we'll talk about it in the morning." she said ok and we went to sleep... When i woke up the next morning... She was gone with all of her stuff... My Brother in-law said she was being really quiet and packing her stuff while i was sleeping so not to wake me... then she snuck out when he left the room... Its been almost 2 weeks and i haven't seen or talked to her since... I cant stop thinking about if she's ok, where she is, or if she even cares. If you took the time to read all of this... can u please give me some advise? I really need it. if you sister wanted you guys out, have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe she set that up to give the girl a way out, far fetched maybe, but possible. I know it is hard to endure, the hardest part is knowing that someone who was supposed to love you did this too you. She promised to love and commit to you and then she broke it by running. She showed up with hickeys on her neck, maybe she was wanting to make you jealous so you would leave her. I don't know why people are such cowards, but if she did it to you, then she will do it to the guy she left you for and the chain will continue, it is her life that will end up miserable and unhappy, all you can do is push it away and move forward, it is so hard, but you can do it. Surround yourself with family and friends. I was so devastated when My wife left me for her first husband that I fell to peaces, it was so bad that i had to relocate back to my home town and surround myself with my family. I left my job and took refuge in my family. You don't need to be alone if you can help it. surrounding yourself with friends and family makes a world of difference in the healing process. Good luck and hang on... |
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Edited by
Calleigh12
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Mon 08/03/09 10:43 PM
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: At least she didn't break up with you via email (see 'Dear Joan'Thread). be seeing you I've had that happen before too. with the only other girl i ever really loved. after 2 years. ****in myspace thats why im trying out mingle no lol i didnt meet her on myspace... i was with her for 2 years... living together and everything... she just broke up with me over a myspace msg... Not to be insensitive to your plight, but are you really comparing being taken off someone's friends list to what happened to him- being dumped in real life by someone he loved and lived with? Seriously??? 
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-completely break off communications permanently. no exceptions.
-learn from the experience -do not hold a grudge. that just hurts you |
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I have read this thread, and stayed away from it.... Reason being, is I would have said something similar to you, Sage, possibly not as eloquently, however, mine would have been misconstrued... and I would have ended up on 'vacation' again...  |
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For Heavens sake, MAN UP, have a good cry, drunk, ***** session, beat on something. Then pull up your pants & MOVE ON. She OBVIOUSLY already has. MAKE A LIFE.   
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Ok, I might have done something bad... she came back... =/ |
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you are better off...at least she didn't stay around and drag you throw a lot more of her BS...
there are women that want guys like you...maybe not many GIRLS... JMHO 
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Ok, I might have done something bad... she came back... =/ Send her packing....do you want the same treatment (or worse)...again?? don't be a glutton for punishment! hickies mean she's already cheated on you...do you not deserve better?? (the answer is HELL YES) |
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You will get over that once the anger of what she did sets in. Don't want to be with someone who doesn't care more about you and for your feelings.  This type of stuff always happens to me with girls. I'm a very nice guy and obviously u can tell i have a sensative side. im the guy every girl "SAYS" they want. but they really dont. |
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hookers are cheaper.... and crack whore's are cheaper than hookers..... or so i have read.... |
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-completely break off communications permanently. no exceptions. -learn from the experience -do not hold a grudge. that just hurts you and i JUST read that you took her back. do you think its because shes obviously looking for someone to take care of her at any cost? not a healthy situation dude. |
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Ok, I might have done something bad... she came back... =/ No...you took her back. Which means you learned absolutely nothing... |
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