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Topic: Girl left me in the worst way.
Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Tue 08/04/09 04:36 PM
Ok, I might have done something bad... she came back... =/

John1932 Joined Sat 07/25/09 Posts: 761	Tue 08/04/09 05:28 PM
Now that shes back, to hell with your friends on Mingle? C'mon Man!!!! Thats ok, You'll come running back when she hurts ya again..Just you wait and see just kidding, Good luck and keep us posted.

southern_bee Joined Sun 07/29/07 Posts: 4812	Tue 08/04/09 06:00 PM
so hes helmet special shun him for having to back bone!shes a whore!

StAiRcAsE Joined Tue 07/21/09 Posts: 31	Tue 08/04/09 07:46 PM
Now that shes back, to hell with your friends on Mingle? C'mon Man!!!! Thats ok, You'll come running back when she hurts ya again..Just you wait and see just kidding, Good luck and keep us posted. Naa man, Its not to hell with the mingle people. You guys are cool and alot nicer than most people online... I kno taking her back is a mistake. I'm changing the situation. It was my idea and she agreed it would be best. We're moving out of town to a city where no one knows us. We're going to start our lives together and only concentrate on eachother. Start fresh. If this doesn't work. I'll be ok with letting her go. Because then I'll know its REALLY not going to work. Please don't critisize me for my decision. I'm pretty sure most of you guys given a similar situation would end up doing the same thing. Love is a very powerful thing and its VERY hard to overcome what it tells you to do. I'm sorry for not following advise from you that really knew what I was going through but thank you all for listening when I really needed it. Thank you everyone, Allen*

John1932 Joined Sat 07/25/09 Posts: 761	Tue 08/04/09 08:03 PM
Now that shes back, to hell with your friends on Mingle? C'mon Man!!!! Thats ok, You'll come running back when she hurts ya again..Just you wait and see just kidding, Good luck and keep us posted. Naa man, Its not to hell with the mingle people. You guys are cool and alot nicer than most people online... I kno taking her back is a mistake. I'm changing the situation. It was my idea and she agreed it would be best. We're moving out of town to a city where no one knows us. We're going to start our lives together and only concentrate on eachother. Start fresh. If this doesn't work. I'll be ok with letting her go. Because then I'll know its REALLY not going to work. Please don't critisize me for my decision. I'm pretty sure most of you guys given a similar situation would end up doing the same thing. Love is a very powerful thing and its VERY hard to overcome what it tells you to do. I'm sorry for not following advise from you that really knew what I was going through but thank you all for listening when I really needed it. Thank you everyone, Allen* Oh yea, been there and done it. I took mine back cause I thought she really wanted to work on it, bit then she admitted that i was just a guaranteed lay for the weekend and this time it was I that sent her back home and she never did get that "Lay". I wont be doing that again, that's we give you advice cause we have been there and experienced it, and no , half of us would not do do it again. Sorry

cottonelle Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 3594	Tue 08/04/09 08:38 PM
Ok, How about i start with this. Me and my girl have been dating since Feb of 08... So about a year and a half... We've had our ups and downs like every couple but i loved her with all of my heart... Well almost 2 weeks ago now this is wut happened... Me and her where hanging around the house (my sisters house bc she was letting us stay with her for a little while) tryin to get **** together... Well my sister wanted us out by the weekend so we had to find a place to stay. Neither one of us had a job at the time bc there was really no jobs to get. So we didnt really have anywhere to go but we usually figure something out. Well it was around Noonish and she said she's gonna go put in a couple applications... she also said she would be back around 3-4pm. Well she left and didnt come back till 10am the next day with 2 small hickies on her neck... She said she went to her aunts house and her Aunt wanted her to move in with her for a while. Well i told her that if she moved in with her aunt that we couldnt be together bc i would most likely be moving out of town bc i have nowhere to stay in the town i live in. Well we where talking about it all day. (I let the hickies on her neck go for the time being) Finally i said "Lets just go to sleep and we'll talk about it in the morning." she said ok and we went to sleep... When i woke up the next morning... She was gone with all of her stuff... My Brother in-law said she was being really quiet and packing her stuff while i was sleeping so not to wake me... then she snuck out when he left the room... Its been almost 2 weeks and i haven't seen or talked to her since... I cant stop thinking about if she's ok, where she is, or if she even cares. If you took the time to read all of this... can u please give me some advise? I really need it. sounds like she got the hickies while out looking for a sugar daddy...and found one...lol

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 08/04/09 08:54 PM
Now that shes back, to hell with your friends on Mingle? C'mon Man!!!! Thats ok, You'll come running back when she hurts ya again..Just you wait and see just kidding, Good luck and keep us posted. Naa man, Its not to hell with the mingle people. You guys are cool and alot nicer than most people online... I kno taking her back is a mistake. I'm changing the situation. It was my idea and she agreed it would be best. We're moving out of town to a city where no one knows us. We're going to start our lives together and only concentrate on eachother. Start fresh. If this doesn't work. I'll be ok with letting her go. Because then I'll know its REALLY not going to work. Please don't critisize me for my decision. I'm pretty sure most of you guys given a similar situation would end up doing the same thing. Love is a very powerful thing and its VERY hard to overcome what it tells you to do. I'm sorry for not following advise from you that really knew what I was going through but thank you all for listening when I really needed it. Thank you everyone, Allen* I won't critize you for taking her back... just don't get your hopes to high. Keep a lil bit of distance if you can. Love is a powerful thing. I know. I hope it all works out for the best. Just be careful.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 08/04/09 08:55 PM
We will listen again if you need us to.

StAiRcAsE Joined Tue 07/21/09 Posts: 31	Tue 08/04/09 09:14 PM
We will listen again if you need us to. Thank u jill ur a very sweet person =]

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 08/04/09 09:18 PM
We will listen again if you need us to. Thank u jill ur a very sweet person =] ssshhhhhshshsshhhhhh you'll ruin my mean reputation.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Tue 08/04/09 10:18 PM
No offense, OP, but if love makes you discount yourself for another person, I hope to god I never experience it.

romee Joined Tue 08/15/06 Posts: 14265	Tue 08/04/09 10:27 PM
: At least she didn't break up with you via email (see 'Dear Joan'Thread). be seeing you I've had that happen before too. with the only other girl i ever really loved. after 2 years. ****in myspace myspace is the worst place to try to find love...believe me...so many liars for no reason... thats why im trying out mingle no lol i didnt meet her on myspace... i was with her for 2 years... living together and everything... she just broke up with me over a myspace msg... weel at least you got a message bro! how about being taken off a woman's friend's list for no reason without saying a word. Not to be insensitive to your plight, but are you really comparing being taken off someone's friends list to what happened to him- being dumped in real life by someone he loved and lived with? Seriously??? that's i'm saying Calleigh12 i was with this girl in real life also i really loved her! but the reason i said mine was worse is because she dumped me in real life and she didn't even tell me how about that i hurt everyday s l

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Tue 08/04/09 10:36 PM
: At least she didn't break up with you via email (see 'Dear Joan'Thread). be seeing you I've had that happen before too. with the only other girl i ever really loved. after 2 years. ****in myspace myspace is the worst place to try to find love...believe me...so many liars for no reason... thats why im trying out mingle no lol i didnt meet her on myspace... i was with her for 2 years... living together and everything... she just broke up with me over a myspace msg... weel at least you got a message bro! how about being taken off a woman's friend's list for no reason without saying a word. Not to be insensitive to your plight, but are you really comparing being taken off someone's friends list to what happened to him- being dumped in real life by someone he loved and lived with? Seriously??? that's i'm saying Calleigh12 i was with this girl in real life also i really loved her! but the reason i said mine was worse is because she dumped me in real life and she didn't even tell me how about that i hurt everyday s l Oh sorry, I thought it was one of those internet romances that seems to be all the rage now. Sorry you got hurt. Hope you let yourself get over it.

romee Joined Tue 08/15/06 Posts: 14265	Tue 08/04/09 10:39 PM
: At least she didn't break up with you via email (see 'Dear Joan'Thread). be seeing you I've had that happen before too. with the only other girl i ever really loved. after 2 years. ****in myspace myspace is the worst place to try to find love...believe me...so many liars for no reason... thats why im trying out mingle it's ok i will alaways ne unhappy no lol i didnt meet her on myspace... i was with her for 2 years... living together and everything... she just broke up with me over a myspace msg... weel at least you got a message bro! how about being taken off a woman's friend's list for no reason without saying a word. Not to be insensitive to your plight, but are you really comparing being taken off someone's friends list to what happened to him- being dumped in real life by someone he loved and lived with? Seriously??? that's i'm saying Calleigh12 i was with this girl in real life also i really loved her! but the reason i said mine was worse is because she dumped me in real life and she didn't even tell me how about that i hurt everyday s l Oh sorry, I thought it was one of those internet romances that seems to be all the rage now. Sorry you got hurt. Hope you let yourself get over it.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Wed 08/05/09 06:46 AM
No offense, OP, but if love makes you discount yourself for another person, I hope to god I never experience it. I may never understand what it is you all call love. I've loved, and lost, and hope to never go through it again...I walked away, the easy part was the steps, the hardest part will always be the memories. That is all they are anymore...memories...

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Wed 08/05/09 09:31 PM
No offense, OP, but if love makes you discount yourself for another person, I hope to god I never experience it. I may never understand what it is you all call love. I've loved, and lost, and hope to never go through it again...I walked away, the easy part was the steps, the hardest part will always be the memories. That is all they are anymore...memories...

FarmBoyWithStyle Joined Wed 02/04/09 Posts: 3842	Wed 08/05/09 09:33 PM
i gotta say it sucks. i dont really have much advice that hasnt already been said, but one thing for sure. that was far from the worst way that the girl could of left ya. or any girl for that matter. that was shady, but in terms of whats obviously going on or was, she could of done many many many things differently that would of been totally worse. im sure itll happen eventually it almost always seems to. not trying to wish ya bad luck im just mearly stating the odd's.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Wed 08/05/09 10:25 PM
I think if you take this woman back and then split from a job and a place to live you need your head examined. The only reason she came back to you is because you have a better squat than where she landed when she thought your sister was kicking the both of you to the curb. There is a reason who ever put her out but I guarantee you she didn't come back because she cares about you. You keep hitting it with this chick she will get knocked up sooner or later, if not already, and you won't know if it is yours; but you are highly likely to be booted out of whatever you manage to have scrabbled together when she and you get into it and the cops get involved on a domestic. Going to a new place is going to accomplish absolutely nothing but make it easier for her to get over on you without your friends or family around to maybe catch her screwing who ever. With shelters and states tired of being flooded with migrants that float to new territory when they have used up the local resources are getting tougher about documenting your previous residences. If you are not local you could very well be sleeping under a bridge. This is a female version of fly paper from the sounds of it and she will sooner or later get you stuck in a mess with or without other victims. Maybe it will be drugs, B&E, prostitution, or pornography but it is pretty clear she has no boundries and neither do you. I feel real sorry for you youngin because I see jail and probably HIV status in your very near future with the choices you are making.