Aw I love using "methinks" but methinks people think I am crazy when I use it : D

can't take that credit

Me thinks that the think that cuz there's nothing better

They can do with their time , me thinks once again

Me thinks i might be crazy too ... oh well

Hmm.. mayhap I should take a little more risk in my life..but NOT roller coasters..

At least we can be crazy together, right? : D

I would say that you hit it right out the gate as far as looking for men not boys, only I would ad "gentle" before to define it more completely. I dont think your asking too much thats called boundries which are healthy and need to be respected. The flip side of that coin is are any of us keeping those boundries in place when they are violated no matter how minor that violation seems. And lastly I would say your a young beautiful woman who clearly knows what she would like to have in a partner and like I was told many years ago when I decided to become a man,"Dont look without, look within". When I started working on myself I started attracting more of what I wanted. Relationships are about sacrifice, being other centered, negotiating, but never about sacrificing you dignity or self respect. Hope your journey is an amazing one.
Sam

Yeah definitely

Aw thank you =)

What a rad first post.

And I like that quote =) I've been working on myself for a little bit now. I'm less shy and have more confidence but I still need work on myself.

Good for you. Personal accountability has led me to a better quality of life although at times more challenging. But then again doing the right thing and whats good for me arent always pink cloud type of feelings, but always seems like long term the results are always good. Take care.
Sam

What goes through my mind? You have been warned...

I find I'm constantly thinking of how I will cook up my next "subject", whether I will fry them into some nice steaks or possibly boil the brain and have it as a snack later. Tell you what, nothing beats a good movie and snacking on Bob's brain! Or even boiling the eyeballs and throwing them in the air kind of like popcorn...

Remember, you were warned.

That's hot
Do you do that with your dates too? If they go bad? Kill 'em and eat 'em? yum : D

Your list of grievances with your dating stock/situation is fair, but I thought I'd add a guy's perspective/spin to your list. Disclaimer: No, harm meant - written with levity.


Just as your outlook states, maybe I should be looking for women - not girls.

Women who don't call incessantly.
Women who don't say they love you after the first week.
Women who don't expect you to pay for every date (or the 1st 'meet').
Women who don't meet you, like you; meet your friends, and haul ass.
Women who don't cheat on you.
Women who don't try to incite jealousy.
Women who don't keep an itinerary for you.
Women who don't use you (or your bank account).
Women who have gainful jobs.
Women who don't waste their money on booze, or smokes, as well.

Addendum:

Women who don't take three-quarter-angle, "myspacey", photos that only show their face - and are then surprised that you're upset, when they outweigh you by fifty pounds.

Women who don't claim to be open-minded, when they aren't.

Women who don't get pissed when someone shares an opinion outside their own.

Women who are woman enough to tell you there isn't any chemistry, etc after a date/meet not just ignore your phone calls.

Women who are women!

Thank you very much for a man's point of view : D
I will take that into consideration and I am woman enough to do all of those things except for the guy paying for the date thing. If he asks for the date then I believe he should pay for it =P But that is just my opinion

I'm not saying that ~you~ should pay. However, I do believe that if it is a first-time thing you should probably just pick up your own tabs, checks, what have you.

Now, if the date were to go well enough to warrant a second one, and he asks/insists then, by all means, I could see your point. But then again, comparatively, how often does the woman ask the man out?

True..I've asked a few guys out before but none that really caught my fancy. We're still friends and all but usually they do all the asking to hang out and such.

When it feels right I will ask the guy out but if not then meh.. =/ that goes along the same lines as the women asking the guy to marry them, or asking to date, but with that also I just fear that the other person isn't ready so I would rather they ask me and I can formulate an opinion for them when they ask.. it's so difficult to read men sometimes though!

So, it's just all about you, huh?

Uh.. ouch.
No.. it isn't all about me, what part of waiting for the guy to be ready makes you think it's all about me?

I care deeply about how the other person feels, especially when in a relationship with them so don't assume I'm self-centered

I just LOVE blanket statements and generalizations!

You're 19 years old, you haven't got a frickin' CLUE about any MEN yet!

I never said I knew everything about men either .. I was just stating my experiences thus far..
And while I may not have a clue about men I have some sort of clue about boys and how some work..

And don't make assumptions of me based on my threads.. you don't know me and you certainly don't know my life.

Well, let's see....just from your one prior post, you wrote:





And that's only from that one post.