I'm not saying that ~you~ should pay. However, I do believe that if it is a first-time thing you should probably just pick up your own tabs, checks, what have you.

Now, if the date were to go well enough to warrant a second one, and he asks/insists then, by all means, I could see your point. But then again, comparatively, how often does the woman ask the man out?

Your list of grievances with your dating stock/situation is fair, but I thought I'd add a guy's perspective/spin to your list. Disclaimer: No, harm meant - written with levity.


Just as your outlook states, maybe I should be looking for women - not girls.

Women who don't call incessantly.
Women who don't say they love you after the first week.
Women who don't expect you to pay for every date (or the 1st 'meet').
Women who don't meet you, like you; meet your friends, and haul ass.
Women who don't cheat on you.
Women who don't try to incite jealousy.
Women who don't keep an itinerary for you.
Women who don't use you (or your bank account).
Women who have gainful jobs.
Women who don't waste their money on booze, or smokes, as well.

Addendum:

Women who don't take three-quarter-angle, "myspacey", photos that only show their face - and are then surprised that you're upset, when they outweigh you by fifty pounds.

Women who don't claim to be open-minded, when they aren't.

Women who don't get pissed when someone shares an opinion outside their own.

Women who are woman enough to tell you there isn't any chemistry, etc after a date/meet not just ignore your phone calls.

Women who are women!

Money.

Or.

"Until priest's laps are slapped with parental advisory warnings - I'll be auditioning gods in my office on Monday morning."