I came in here cause I am bored, and I'd like to say a few things. A friend of mine met her boyfriend of 3 years on the net, and they are living together. I know another couple that met on the net, and it seems to be working. You see success stories on dating sites, so yes it does happen.... A person has every right to be selective and know what they want;however, your not going to find Ms America, Donald Trump clone on here... You have the right to be selective and want the certain qualities that you yearn for in a mate, and try to screen them the best you can, that's what I do. However, your not going to find the perfect man that is Mr. universe, or Ms.America ;unless, they're airbrushed.. Your also not going to get every single quality you want, and your going to have to decide what things your willing to live without. However, I too have my standards, what I want, it's not a long list, but I want what I want, and I'll just wait till the right man comes along. I agree with Hollymlb, that it is possible to find that special someone on here, but no guaranteee how long it will take to find the person. The problem isn't finding a man or woman that may interest you, it's if it's a match, if you click, and if you can live with the persons inperfections.

Those grocery folks might chew and scratch and nose pick, too!! Just HOPEFULLY not while in the grocery store. But, dang, I sure see a lot of nose-picking guys driving around!!! Do they not get it that people can see in???

My brother found his wife on a dating site...and she is so sweet. They have been happily married for 2 years now...we wont let him trade her in even if he wanted too...lol we adore her.

True, even my icky ex-husband found his 4th unwitting victim, I MEAN wife, on a dating site.

Well I had my laugh for today. I am going to the grocery store to spill some tomato sauce. I think it will get real messy today

Have fun folks and don't worry be happy. Life is too short to worry.

hell i am picky , must be a woman between 35 and 60 , less then 350 # and like being outdoor, as well as not afrade of horses ! oh i for got she should at lest tolerate me !

Well from what I hear there could be quite a few on here that meet that description....I think you might get lucky...

Sure, there are people on my friends list who found "the one" right here on this very site -- !! So there is proof that it can work.

Of course, it's not going to work for everybody -- because people's lives and wants and experiences and needs and circumstances, etc., will vary so much....



I'm not looking for perfection, just a situation that's workable -- and I realize that my standards may get in the way, but the bottom line is I'd still rather be alone than be with another "wrong person" -- which is pretty muich all I've ever been able to find.



Well, I have rarely been able to find anyone who DOES interest me, so there's been little opportunity to try taking it to the next level....!

Lexy, as soon as you face up to my being your ideal mate things will seem so much simpler!

And then I worry about being with someone whose intelligence just dwarfs mine....!

At least I know I could use words like "peripatetic" without having to spell and define them....!

Uh huh....

Actually just broke up with "Naked Guy".... ughhh. It was awful.

Whether online or off.. you'd still have the same preferences.

welll most are short lived talk and not much else ,, hhmmmm must be me lol

And you go through them like a knife through butter -- wait, maybe I can come up with a better analogy....

I gave this one loads of chances. I posted a thread.

Just admit it -- you're way too good to be with anybody so far beneath you!

I don't think it's the venue.

I think a person with THAT much criteria (I've read enough of your posts and, in fact, your entire profile - even though it was over the course of a few days haha - to be aware that you are very selective, maybe overly-selective, and will possibly never find anyone who meets all of it, either on an online-dating site or elsewise.) I certainly don't say that to be mean, I admire your posts and think you are an intelligent and interesting person.

However if you (in a general sense) are on the site, could there not be another similar to you, either in disposition, intellect, character, etc.? I don't think there is only one 'type' of person who turns to online sites as a dating option. I've talked to men who ranged from newspaper editors to ones who lived off the land.

Sexy Lexy..... this guy was a piece of work. Sigh.... I swear. I think I've decided most men just don't like women. And the ones that do only think they do, 'cus they don't hear anything that doesn't come out of their lips.

There is that thought, in the back of my mind, sometimes -- why COULDN'T there be someone here, similar to me, in the ways that really matter?

And I don't think there's anything preventing it, specifically -- it's just that very few people, in my experience, think the way I do; very few can imagine themselves living in a way other than that which has been "established" or set up for them, or instilled in them since childhood.

I don't know if I'll be able to explain this the right way, but re: the idea of there being one "type" of person that uses dating sites -- I guess "type" is probably not the word I should be using. It isn't really a "type," per se -- insofar as I, too, have seen people from all walks of lives, all kinds of jobs, all parts of the world, etc. -- it isn't those differences that matter to me. It's the homogeneity of the "expectations," of the "goal." Not that everyone is the same type, but that they all seem to be trying to find the same thing....

Dammit, it's ME!!!!!