...and there goes good ol Doris in my head again *que sera sera*

You got it!

Well we all like what we like

We all want what we want

I like to look all over for it. Online, offline, under the bed etc

It has to be there somewhere right!

I'm not sure why you would think you can't meet someone online who meets your standards/preferences/ideals. Unless one of those is that the person doesn't use the internet at all.

A lot of the same people you'd meet out in the real world do use the internet and dating sites. A lot of "normal" people use them.

I don't think there's anything wrong in using a website like this, or like Match or Yahoo Personals or something. I just personally wouldn't suggest relying *only* on dating websites to find that special someone.

I try to be very open minded for the most part. But I can't help that I have my preferences and that's what I like. I make no apologies for it.

Samesies.

Though I don't look under the bed... I prefer my men *not* wearing dust bunnies. Instead, I like to look in the bushes outside. Ya never know who might be lurking ;)

Wow I need to read more profiles...I didn't know that people specified their preferences to the extent of adding where people worked or didn't work and if they had a tattoe...lol...maybe I should beef my profile up and add some....might get lucky...lol

LOL I'm headed for the yard now!

One trick to meet a nice person is to go to a grocery store like Publix.

Have a bunch of boxes of crackers, cans, etc. in your hand. Then when you see a beautiful woman who looks fairly what you expect trip over your own feet and fall into her.

Then say, "I am sorry! I am sorry! My gosh so sorry. I am having such a bad day."

The woman usually helps you pick up the goods.

Make sure you are wearing a nice cologne also so she can smell you while getting up. That helps add to the charm from the goofiness you just paraded on her.

Hopefully no tomato sauce went inbetween her braws. That would ruin the day.

but otherwise you continue and say, " What can I do to make this good? Perhaps I can offer you a coffee or something."

Make sure you linger with the last sentence and nod your head up and down.

People usually follow directions with that. Try it! Nod you head up and down while you talk and you will see in most cases the other person nodding his or her head up and down also.

So there you go. First date is achieved and maybe the last one if things go out good.

Would she be capable of distinguishing between someone that was 26 or 30? Thats pretty good.

GUYS!!!! GALS!!!
By all means set your standards and stick with them. Why settle for someone who dosen't meet what your looking for? I didn't and this sight found her for me. We've been together now since january and going strong. We're both on here now just looking for freinds...nothing more.
I wouldn't trade my lady here for nobody or nothing in the world.
Thank you mingles for bringing us together.

If we didn't have standards at all we'd all be in trouble

I do think it is possible to find that someone special online, but just like in real life its no guarentee that you will or how long it will take. I find it funnythe sites that guarenteeyou'll find someone in 6 months because its just not that simple. Even for those who basically have very wide basic standards. I'll admit I want a nonsmoker, nondrinker but I might be willing to for go that depending on what else he was to offer. I tend to like older guys but I still am looking at the possiblity that that guy might be younger.

Honestly though a lot of my little requirements can't really be put down on to my wants. Some I don't even have words for. And yes some are even into the picky catagory. But seriously something its best to be picky about like I honestly can't stand people who have a very negative outlook on everything, if your going to put down basically everything that isn't in your opinion perfect and go on and on about it for over 5 minutes I can't date you because if I did sooner or later I'd punch you. For some reason I find I don't like that enough said.

Just imagine the person that you find highly attractive on Mingle2 is biting his or her nails and itching her ass at the same time.

Now why would you want to date that?

Like I said go to the local grocery store and do my act. You will probably get alot more perspective of the person then the one behind a computer screen putting little buggies under their table. ewwww

As long as you are not singing

I'm to sexy for my head and to sexy for clothes

to sexy for my smile

to sexxxyyy

then I would say you have a good chance of meeting someone.

Just have some fun and don't worry about it Lex.

One will pop in eventually that will keep you interested, happy, and laughing.

If not they always have those Russian Brides. I heard they are beautiful and keep houses clean

This is like the old hankie trick women used on gentlemen to get their attention, letting it fall, and the gentleman retrieves it, then their eyes meet, their hands touch, etc. Unfortunately, these days most men would stomp on it, kick it away, ignore it, steal it....

Lex, I have to believe it is the "venue"
selectiveness is a good thing but with the never ending sea of "attention" in this venue, noone stays focused long enough to really get to know anyone else.
People do not always present themselves as "they are" which leads to frustration and wasted time.
We have become a rather lazy society, sit, search and hope......

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....


I'm gettin up and gettin out!!!!!!!!!!!

JMO

I guess it's because I've only met one person who really DID fit the standards. I've met some who PRETENDED to, until I got to know them better, and then they would come out with something along the lines of "I know I said I wasn't interested in this stuff, but don't you think we should settle down and get married and have a family....?" That sort of thing.

Basically, it goes from her saying "I love everything about you" to saying "Now I have to CHANGE everything about you," in 90 days or less. Guaranteed.



Well, I have no issues with people using dating sites -- I guess my issue is more with the "normal" concept. I really really really really DON'T want someone "normal." "Normal" doesn't work for me. "Normal" is all about being "domesticated," being turned into a farm animal wearing a collar and a bell and having to give up anything resembling independent thought or individual or "non-normal" thought processes or attitudes or beliefs....



I don't either; I just think I'm going to have a hard time finding anyone of the intellectual/creative/outside-the-box persuasion on one.



Agreed. My problem is that I'm currently in a position where there don't seem to be any viable alternatives.