Why is it men post they are looking for long term relationships, but only want a one nighter? I just want someone who is honest about what they are looking for why is that so difficult to find? I am looking for someone who is real, no games, no drama just pure hoensty... but is not cruel! Theres is a difference in being honest and just being rude.... rudeness is not necessary to be honest!

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This way of thinking is just wrong, I think men know what they want, they say what they want, they get what they get, and women still complain.


Doesn't pay to be a nice guy

Um.....

If you find they are looking for a one nighter, then sure, they are with you. Maybe not with someone else. I'm sorry you've had a bad experience or ten, but so have I. And that can't be held towards men you might meet in the future. I've found men seriously looking for a long term relationship want a woman who says no to sex on the first date. I'm not saying you give it, it's just how men tend to be. JMO

Well, not ALL men are looking for nothing more than a one nighter. Maybe it's just the ones that you're talking to?

Maybe you are just so hot, they can't control themselves.

Haven't you ever heard of the phrase, " men don't know what they want?" It's true, we don't. I'm not actually talking about myself, but men in general. Every man wants that one night stand, that challenge, so don't let them fool you. We can be one of the nicest guys in the world and still 80 percent of the time we're thinking about sex. The problem with some women is that they think the longer they hold out on sex, the more the man is going to love them in the long run. Trust me when I say that it doesn't matter, because the outcome is going to be the same. Either we like it or we don't. More importantly, I think it comes down to how sex was, what did she look like with out makeup, does she have a nice personality, and is she going to hound me once it's over. My advice is to just be your self and don't come off like you like him to much. This way if he doesn't like you for you, then he's not worth your time. btw, of course men are going to write that in thier profiles, " serious relationships", b/c we don't want to attract the wrong type of girls.

Every man wants a one night stand huh, speak for yourself!!!!!

damn it, you've figured us ALLL out, crap, I better go and run and tell the king and tell him our master plan has been discovered, man, I knew this would happen some day, holy crap, what am I going to do know? the BIG secret is out!!!!!


really, you'd do yourself a HUGE service by not assuming EVERY GUY IS THE SAME, good Lord I see this every day, I'm beginning to wonder why I even bother posting any more since a large amount of people on here assume everyone is the same after a bad experience from 1 person.

edit: in respsone to the response above, I know EXACTLY what I want, speak for yourself dude.

I would have to disagree they don't put it out there they just want a peice then say that not that you are looking for more. I rather know that is all they want so I am not wasting my time on a dead end!

I never give it on the first date... I was raised to repsect my self and if I am not comfortable it ain't happening. Men try and think because we are on a site we are desparate and that is not it .... I just live in a small area and not into the bar scene!

Maybe make 'em wait a while? Might help separate the men from the wolves?

Thanks for your input.... but once you start talking and I ask you what you are wanting and you tell me someone spend the rest of my life, but just wanted sex that is fake. Say I want to see what happens ...that leaves it open!

I never said you were all the same just the ones that I have actually met so far have been the same.... still waiting got the one to show me different!

I do make them wait....

If I ever utter the words "some to spend the rest of my life with" to someone then chances are it's a general statement. If I say to someone "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" than you can be damn sure I mean it.

Actually, you said "men", not "all the men I met so far"

Not all men are this way...I know there are a few of us out there yet that know how to treat a women.
I come from the old school, treat her well and the rewards will be great.

Well then I amend that sentence to... men that I met on here or talk to... or somewhere else say they want more from me... and then play games! I just one to show me that they all aren't out for a piece!

And I hope you find him. Maybe you need to change your criteria for picking men to get what you seek?