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Haven't you ever heard of the phrase, " men don't know what they want?" It's true, we don't. I'm not actually talking about myself, but men in general. Every man wants that one night stand, that challenge, so don't let them fool you. We can be one of the nicest guys in the world and still 80 percent of the time we're thinking about sex. The problem with some women is that they think the longer they hold out on sex, the more the man is going to love them in the long run. Trust me when I say that it doesn't matter, because the outcome is going to be the same. Either we like it or we don't. More importantly, I think it comes down to how sex was, what did she look like with out makeup, does she have a nice personality, and is she going to hound me once it's over. My advice is to just be your self and don't come off like you like him to much. This way if he doesn't like you for you, then he's not worth your time. btw, of course men are going to write that in thier profiles, " serious relationships", b/c we don't want to attract the wrong type of girls. Thanks for being honest guess better to just give up and stay a single mom !! |
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I am learning that I think I rather go back to just not looking and being happy then trying find a real man in the messed up world!! Im thinking that is the best plan of action. |
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Edited by
gatkinson
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Tue 03/31/09 12:23 PM
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I mean if every man you've met has done this to you as you claim then maybe you're part of the problem. Maybe you just make bad choices in men to trust and if you choose differently you might get different results. Oh silly, silly man - you're asking WAY too much. Admit error AND accept responsibility? You can't possibly be serious, can you?  Then you will be waiting a very long time... Because as far as a sob story that would be none of you business. I chalk it up to we didn't click and move on. Just wanted some insight on why men are putting they are looking for long term but seem to be wanting sex. They are putting they are single and looking for long term. But three of them I have met... I found out they were married and four of them where living with a women already. That is all I meant by the orginal statement |
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I've been known to put out....
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Edited by
gatkinson
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Tue 03/31/09 12:25 PM
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I've been known to put out.... That is your choice.... everyone is different! I want more so I wait to see what they are truly like! |
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Ive put out........
the washing, the dinner ..and the cat..
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Edited by
gatkinson
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Tue 03/31/09 12:36 PM
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Ive put out........ the washing, the dinner ..and the cat.. LOL.... Thats 100% Right!! |
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Hold off on the sex for a while & get to know the the guy
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I think some men use the excuse of wanting a long term relationship to attract a women. Many men will say that most women are looking for a relationship, thats not necessarily true. All men as well are not looking for a one night stand. Its almost like bait, use and if it works then use it again. I also believe in honesty because the truth comes out one way or another and leaves someone hurt or betrayed.
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Haven't you ever heard of the phrase, " men don't know what they want?" It's true, we don't. I'm not actually talking about myself, but men in general. Every man wants that one night stand, that challenge, so don't let them fool you. We can be one of the nicest guys in the world and still 80 percent of the time we're thinking about sex. The problem with some women is that they think the longer they hold out on sex, the more the man is going to love them in the long run. Trust me when I say that it doesn't matter, because the outcome is going to be the same. Either we like it or we don't. More importantly, I think it comes down to how sex was, what did she look like with out makeup, does she have a nice personality, and is she going to hound me once it's over. My advice is to just be your self and don't come off like you like him to much. This way if he doesn't like you for you, then he's not worth your time. btw, of course men are going to write that in thier profiles, " serious relationships", b/c we don't want to attract the wrong type of girls. Thanks for being honest guess better to just give up and stay a single mom !! pffft, you have absolutely no reason to give up, and this guy doesn't speak for every single other guy (or girl) out there, there are a lot of people (women and men alike) out there that know exactly what they want, sometimes that means they only are out for sex, sometimes that means they've passed puberty/adolescence and understand there is more to life than getting laid, just be careful, be patient, be positive, but above all, there's no reason for you to be a quitter. |
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i know what i want from a woman.i want a woman thats cool down to earth and enjoys kickin back watch a good movie or just hangin at the park talkin.or kick back watchin a goof football game that like rock music.and hate the bar scene.thats what i'm lookin 4 but it seem lately i find the party girl or they have baby daddy drama which i don't need to deal with.and i'm for sure not lookin 4 a one nite stand.
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Why is it men post they are looking for long term relationships, but only want a one nighter? I just want someone who is honest about what they are looking for why is that so difficult to find? I am looking for someone who is real, no games, no drama just pure hoensty... but is not cruel! Theres is a difference in being honest and just being rude.... rudeness is not necessary to be honest! My profile says what I want plain and simple. Many people are used to having things candy coated for them so when somebody is honest without kissing their arse, they freak out. When somebody lies, do you blame them more for lying than you blame yourself for believing them? Maybe sometimes we have to trust our hearts and have faith in that person. Keep trying and don't become jaded. How else do we become experts on what we want instead of what we dislike. |
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Haven't you ever heard of the phrase, " men don't know what they want?" It's true, we don't. I'm not actually talking about myself, but men in general. Every man wants that one night stand, that challenge, so don't let them fool you. We can be one of the nicest guys in the world and still 80 percent of the time we're thinking about sex. The problem with some women is that they think the longer they hold out on sex, the more the man is going to love them in the long run. Trust me when I say that it doesn't matter, because the outcome is going to be the same. Either we like it or we don't. More importantly, I think it comes down to how sex was, what did she look like with out makeup, does she have a nice personality, and is she going to hound me once it's over. My advice is to just be your self and don't come off like you like him to much. This way if he doesn't like you for you, then he's not worth your time. btw, of course men are going to write that in thier profiles, " serious relationships", b/c we don't want to attract the wrong type of girls. I can be an ass sometimes. Does that mean that I don't want sex? |
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Why is it men post they are looking for long term relationships, but only want a one nighter? I just want someone who is honest about what they are looking for why is that so difficult to find? I am looking for someone who is real, no games, no drama just pure hoensty... but is not cruel! Theres is a difference in being honest and just being rude.... rudeness is not necessary to be honest! Don't 'put out' on a first date.... it isn't rocket science.  Since you can't seem to read, I thought I should point out that several times during this blog I states I DO NOT PUT OUT!!!! I have real valvues and belive in waiting! I am saying men put I am looking for long term relationships and when they don't get sex that night they play the game. Yes I know not all men are this way!!! I am learning that I think I rather go back to just not looking and being happy then trying find a real man in the messed up world!! Oh I can read... both the lines and between them. You wouldn't attract men wanting sex on a first date, if you weren't putting out.... a vibe, an inference, a suggestion, a flirtation. If you are so upfront about NOT having sex straight up on a first date, you wouldn't have started this thread....because you wouldn't have men hitting on you. It still ain't rocket science. But it sure is a great mirror to reflect back to you, what you are doing. |
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MAyBe you havent found that right "MAN"....
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Why is it men post they are looking for long term relationships, but only want a one nighter? I just want someone who is honest about what they are looking for why is that so difficult to find? I am looking for someone who is real, no games, no drama just pure hoensty... but is not cruel! Theres is a difference in being honest and just being rude.... rudeness is not necessary to be honest! Don't 'put out' on a first date.... it isn't rocket science. Since you can't seem to read, I thought I should point out that several times during this blog I states I DO NOT PUT OUT!!!! I have real valvues and belive in waiting! I am saying men put I am looking for long term relationships and when they don't get sex that night they play the game. Yes I know not all men are this way!!! I am learning that I think I rather go back to just not looking and being happy then trying find a real man in the messed up world!! Oh I can read... both the lines and between them. You wouldn't attract men wanting sex on a first date, if you weren't putting out.... a vibe, an inference, a suggestion, a flirtation. If you are so upfront about NOT having sex straight up on a first date, you wouldn't have started this thread....because you wouldn't have men hitting on you. It still ain't rocket science. But it sure is a great mirror to reflect back to you, what you are doing. |
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Are women any different on here? I expect I'd have to shoot down 99 exchanges out of 100 to make any friends on any type of meat market like this. Just the nature of the medium.
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Since "men" was stated in the OP, this infers to me that you were clearly meaning the entire gender, regardless of how hard you tried to backpedal afterward. You should've thought about what you were writing and should've chosen your words more carefully before hitting the Post button.
With that said, I'm curious as to how long it took you to survey all the men in the world to reach this conclusion. Incidentally, I don't remember being surveyed about it. |
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some men have hidden agendas and dont want a girlfriend at all... some will use anything just to get you there to take any kind of advantage of you even if you were not the one they origanally wanted. If you know what to watch out for and what you want and stick to your guns and the expectations of another person dont match who you are, run fast... it is not about what a man wants it is what you want and what you dont want that matters most and be prepaired to take off running if you sense he is a jerk because more than likely he is and out to get ANYTHING from you and if he can not get anything in the end you lose anyways...
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Since "men" was stated in the OP, this infers to me that you were clearly meaning the entire gender, regardless of how hard you tried to backpedal afterward. You should've thought about what you were writing and should've chosen your words more carefully before hitting the Post button. With that said, I'm curious as to how long it took you to survey all the men in the world to reach this conclusion. Incidentally, I don't remember being surveyed about it. No need to survey, you're all the same, right?
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