I am a single dad of two great teen girls. In the last few years I have yet to date a woman that is worthy of a second date! They are all to self indulged, and incapable of anything more than a superficial relationship. Like you they are only interested in what I can do for them. How I can fit into their lifestyle. They are so wrapped up in looking for the faults in others, that they have escalated themselves (at least in their own minds) to the status of “Perfect Woman”. You do not lump people into one big category! If I have learned anything from my girls, it is that you deal with people one at a time (as individuals) and if that person isn’t someone you care to continue seeing, you move on until you find exactly what you are looking for. If you don’t find that perfect person, you where never meant to. I personally have never had sex with a woman that I didn’t have a deep emotional attachment to. If you are finding nothing but one night standers, maybe you are hanging with the wrong crowd.

ok, here goes...brutally honest...and don't let any guy fool you...here's how it works: hmmmmm, wow, she's really sexy, I'd definitely like to hit that for sure...sexy hips, lovely eye's, nice tight arse, firm breast, love those legs and those big beautiful eye's staring back at me...yes, I want to get into that...I lust to get into that...I've got that warm fuzzy feeling again right between my legs....at this point, we confuse lust with a false sense of emotional attachment. Our heart skips a beat, we feel "love"...but we really don't know you for you....this is the danger zone! We're only lusting after you...and that lust covers and hides your true personality. We confuse physical attraction with "love".

-and that was step 1.

-Step two (we got a date): All we can think about is getting into your pants...at this point we really don't care about your personality. We are still lusting...we will tell you anything you want to hear...

-step three: We play the game with the focus of getting into into your pants as fast as we can. Thinking about a long term relationship is in the distance...maybe we want it, maybe we don't....maybe we want to keep you around for as long as we can without much of a commitment....

All we can think about is sex, sex, sex!

-step four (critical step-we bail out or stay=flight or fight) : ok, she's a nice person...nice personality...she's funny....gosh, I like her...I really want to spend more time with her...lust has changed to more infatuation as we begin to learn about you...this is the point when we stop looking only at your arse...and start looking at your soul....we begin to feel connected to you in the true sense of the word....some guys get scared at this point and immediately bail...some guys know what they want...and seek out a long-term relationship....especially once they realize you are much more than a lust thing. And this is the point we fall in love...real committed love...love for you as a person...

-but the problem with all this..is that it can break down any moment...it takes two to tango....if all works out, then the next thing you know...you are getting married...then, maybe after six years of marriage, you hate each other and talk divorce...love is a house of cards for sure....

See my step one: The truth comes out here: "I personally have never had sex with a woman that I didn’t have a deep emotional attachment to."

The rest is all about telling the female what she wants to hear into order to get in her pants....

Let's stop playing games with women...give them honesty!

That's the line we hate...but you can tell if we lose interest right away, then maybe that is all we had in mind to begin with...

But this is touchy (risky) as well....we may think that you are only interested in us a friend...so we get gun shy about showing you any lust (passion). If we are truly interested then we will try to keep in contact with you in the hopes that one day we might get lucky....but, the longer we get to know you only as a friend, then we may or may not like what we see ....if we are still interested after that, then we can go into step one mode right away... but you still take the chance, because even though we might know you better and like you, we may lose that lusting feeling after we've had sex a few times.....so still it's a risk either way....the bottom line: no easy way to tell....at some point you have to take a chance and see where the cards fall....

I'll be real and honest here. I am truly only seeking a one-nighter. But I want that one night to last forever!

tell em michael

Double AMEN on that

I am finding them saying they are single period.. then finding they are married or living with a women. I want to find where in my ad that is says I am looking for that... so that I can change it!

i am up front and tell the truth i am marrid and need attition

That's actually something that other guys laugh about when I tell them. I can't sleep with somebody unless I care for them.

Darn my morals and character! Oh well, hopefully that is one would be flaw of mine that will work out in the end.

I believe that comment works both ways. No one is completely honest because no one wants to get hurt. No one wants to settle either. I have many friends that are females that more concerned on what the guy looks like than how he treats her. But it works the same way with men. We all need to find a happy medium. An say it like it is.

That's Good

I defiently agree with you!

I am one of those who falls for personality 100% of the time!!! You can be the hottest guy in the world, but still be the uglest because of your personailty!

THIS SOUNDS LIKE COSMO , JUST BE YOUR SELF . JUST REMEMBER WHEN YOU STOP BEING YOU THAT WHEN U KICK HIM THE CURB JACK , NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS > ALL OF US WOMEN DESERVE THE VERY BEST !!

oh yeah i agree with ya , i used to like this guy who i work with but he was not manly my view of what a man should be he act like prissy like one my friends who are girls he has ocd he was a neat freak a man should be rough n tough image but have a sweet side n definely personalty goes along way u don;t want to be with some uptight . that why were all in this dating pool ha . but i think best way to meet people is not on the internet i don;t take serously on here cause their no emotion just personalty and a lot people seem to be stuck in the past it best to join a sport team or something u like doing cause right their u have something in common . good luck

Hi Gat not all of the male populous are disrespectful , liars. I'm a single male, late 40's looking for serious relationship. If possible i would like to chat to you find out more about you what your likes/dislikes are .

Best wishes and respect Dave

Just stop.