got burned one time too many

Can't say that i've given up on commitment. Maybe it's just the men you know?

Frustration

is usually the problem

I don't think all men have given up on anything, just as I don't believe that all women are after marriage (or at the very least, the man's wallet)

If you don't believe me, narrow your search as an experiment, and only include the men seeking marriage. There are quite a few that are looking for "the one" to settle down with.

Not all men have given up on commitment.. there are many that embrace it and cherish it. Just hang in there..

I don't think all men have given up on commitment, but have been through a lot of the same things women have.. We tend to share our feeling with our friends which help to push us forward, but some men keep their wounds buried which takes some time to move forward JMO

I am commited to contentment.

Are you married, or happy?

Commitment?

Maybe its not commitment we are afraid of....just the girl that we are commiting to is so dead set on chaning us that its makes us run for the hills.

I don't see that men have a problem with commitment anymore then women do. Each have felt the pain of being in a relationship and loving one too much and in return getting nothing back.

Relationships are a two way street and I assure you not all the problems are due to one sex or the other. It is high time we all step up to the plate and see that we are not perfect and finally see we may need to all work on our own problems and quit blaming the other for what happens all the time!!

Never will understand that (and there are men who are guilty of it, too)

A person only changes if he/she desires to. You cannot change someone else, especially not their "core" personality.

Very true...I agree with you 100%

Ever thought about, that the current economic situation might be also a culprit?

I know, someone is gonna come and say flat out that I'm wrong, because in poor countries they still marry and have family. But that's not how it works.

I don't think that men are the only ones afraid of commitment, we shouldn't just assume that because one, some, or most are afraid. I know I'm terrified of commitment, but only because I have been hurt time and time again. I truly believe that if the right person entered my life, I'd be willing to chance that fear, but until then I am okay with being afraid of commitment. It's protecting my heart. I'm sure that's how a lot of men and women both are.

"Sometimes it is better to forget how we feel and remember what we deserve."

I'm afraid of anyone who makes a blanket statement.

i was with someone for 11 years faithful, and i was a caregiver. i gave her everything i had. from faithful love, and she was also very sick, i stuck with her through everything, and took care of her autistic son. when she got better, she wanted someone not tired and older, and moved on. this makes no difference in love, but she did go through about $400,000.00 on top of that, before she left. what's money, when you love someone? but i don't think she loved me, so who's faithful nowadays? who's really honest? i know i was. everything was on her terms..... never again, i want my freedom, and i want someone to enhance my life, by being a friend, but nobody will own me, ever again.

As the saying goes, Amen!

bring something to the table that is commitable,

it's not rocket science

Does being worthy of commitment to a psych ward count?

It isn't that I personally have given up on commitment, I gave up being herded into one.

I have had GFs in the past get complacent and begin to act like I was a pet or property that they owned. Just because a girl is in a relationship with me does not mean I am ready to let her act like that. Come to think of it even if I had a commitment that behavior drives me insane. That is not a proper partnership.

Also is the heartbreak when a GF leaves for someone "better" than me. Had a past GF leave me for a guy who was 'rich' and I was told that in so many words during what was a bad break up. He dumped her and she thought I was going to take her back after the mean hearted sh*t she told me when we broke up. Suddenly I was back to being a worthless construction worker when I told her I do not go back on failed relationships. She was not the only one who pulled that on me.

Another reason is how fat some women become when they think they landed a man. I have seen that happen and I had it happen to me. How can a woman suddenly gain 20 pounds in under a year? I heard, "if you love me you will love me as I am," from her a lot. I wasn't buying that because my final response when I told her it was over was "if you can't take care of yourself I cannot expect you to take care of MY children." Then I was suddenly a F**ken bastard and a worthless piece of sh*t according to her.

I want a partner in life, not a woman living in jaded past beliefs and old traditions used against us like weapons. It takes time to forge a partnership. They do not just happen. I am in no rush and will not be rushed into a commitment. I never dated more than one woman at a time but I had women dating multiple men behind my back. So allow me to ask if that is fair to men at all when women do that? Where is this supposed sense of commitment? Sold to the highest bidder?

Just my opinion...