Thank you guys

I guess it could if you let it.

I could never go that long with that much distance between us and not being able to see each other that often. It would drive me insane.

I have been with my man for the past year and he now resides in another state.........I am moving there to be with him in a couple of months but since he has been gone (1month) I cant take it.......im always asking when he can come and visit or when I can go there and we both have busy lives and obligation......I dont know how to handle it so if you have been with this guy for almost five years like this I dont know how you do it you are strong girl..........im selfish I need my man close......but good luck to you it isnt easy having an ldr...

I hate long distance. Its difficult. So we didnt even last. I hope you two make it.

in olden times (my time) people would be seperated by wars, cold wars, duties, and such for years at a time, and be faithful. i don't see much if any of that today. i guess i don't see snail mail either. we had to wait months to hear from each other as well. internet is new.

Weather it works or not depends on the persons involved and the circumstances.

roco

It can hurt emotions and in time love can fade, but true love you can't kill.

4 or 5 years? My longest business trip ever took me to 2 states and 2 countries, with a total time apart for 2 1/2 months. That was way too long and even now, I schedule my trips to have some time to gel. The only kind of LDR I would ever consider is the kind that stays friends or moves closer because the commute is a b!tch.

I concur, which is why I'm packing and selling.

I hope not...I'm just trying to figure out if love can develop DESPITE distance!

Yeah. Distance can and often does hurt relationships. You're limited to seeing each other on a fixed basis, which can lead to an eventual break-up.

It can, I was married to a girl for 7 years after a year of net talk back in 1998. We were together for 8. Now I have been with a girl in Georgia for a year and getting ready to move there. We have met in person though. She's friggin awesome!

Distance definitely kills love! People are made to live together, to share happiness and sadness in their lives. relationships cannot go on by phone or in some chat rooms, that's not normal! There's nothing human in that!

That is so awesome!! Congrats to both of you!! Wishing all the love and happiness life has to offer!!

We don't know where we might within the next year.

My advice would be to make the most of every moment you have together, keep contact as often as you can and plan to spend the rest of your life together, because one or both of you will eventually have to move.

Even though i hate to admit it, i'm saying yes. I couldn't be in that relationship, if they weren't there to wake up to each morning. It's one thing having a cyber relationship, but i'd find it hard having no lover to come home to. It would make me feel miserable.

Well, if Nietzsche could kill God... what's killing love to distance. It's done in a sinch.

I agree. But only partially. The faithfulness in older times were not all due to innate morals, but also due to social morals, social expectations, no pennicillin, chastity belts, and men's ability to lie about their (lack of) faithfulness during wars and such.

Would yuo say it was painful, dear? Having to see him eye-to-eye, despite the long distance?

Time to revisit the original question.

OP, when you said "long distance", did you mean 24 inches instead of the regulation-sized 4 inches one, or did you mean living on different ocean coasts, as a manner of speaking?

I guess it depends on the people.

I hate long distance relationships, but am in one, not by choice just because it happened.
However, my daughter and a lot of the people who I know are either in the Army, or navy and have their partners go overseas or they have to leave and they can be gone for up to 12 months at a time, it is a decision to stay faithful and to keep your love alive, any relationship can die if you let it.

I guess any relationship is easier if the person is there with you, to share your life, but you can still do it apart if you areboth willing to give it your all.