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Topic: FWB Question
lilith401's photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:52 AM
Can you all tell me what your understanding of this term is, and what its rules are? (Not saying you do this, just we all understand there are rules).

I have a few questions, but first would like to hear your definitions.

no photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:54 AM
rules


You call me and I come on over...

After breakfast I leave

Then after some unspecified time.....

You call me for more...

jtip1977's photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:56 AM
Isn't that when we have magic sex?

PATSFAN's photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:56 AM
Just some one to bone when you are not with your friends.

lilith401's photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:56 AM
Yeah, I know what FWB is, I want to know the RULES.... there are rules!

Help me here people?

Riding_Dubz's photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:57 AM
i don't really think there are any rules are there ?what

balls in your court,



Danimal58's photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:58 AM
noway Lack of respect for the woman. Call me old fashioned but the guy aint worth it.

franshade's photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:58 AM
rule #1 - do as I say
rule #2 - refer to rule #1
rule #3 - repeat rules
rule #4 - if unsure, refer to rule #1

I'll see you when I see you
I'll call you when I call you

Thank you very much
Have a great day

:laughing:

Etrain's photo
Mon 02/09/09 07:59 AM
Rules:

1. Don't fall in love
2. No anal...unless shes into that
smokin smokin smokin

oldsage's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:00 AM
Friends With Benefits.. for me means.

2 people that are very close, have NO intent of marriage, want limited ties/boundrys, what happens behind closed doors, is nobody else's business. I see/hear of it more with the 45 & above age group. Life set's some major complications for relationships, within that group. Marriage can not be poss. for many legitimate reasons. FWB, allows for life to continue, just on a different level.

Edit after reading some of the other's remarks

TOTAL & ABSOLUTE respect for eachother is necc. for it to work. It is NOT a Booty call situation.
Really your "personal integrity" comesinto the situation. TRUE FWB or just using someone.

BIG DIFFERENCE

no photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:00 AM
well not sure I know them all BUT , my take on it after tryin it once was its pretty much, hangin out, some pretty severe love making , and returning to your OWN home, typically the next morning.
Maybe the odd phone call in between to make "arrangements" for the next meeting BUT basically living independant lives til the urge overcomes BOTH of you again flowerforyou

ReddBeans's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:00 AM
The rules are established by the couple engaged in the FWB. There aren't any real 'set' rules. It all depends on what they want out of it.

I'll be the first to admit I was involved in a FWB. We sat down like growned up adults and established rules before hand. We both stuck to those rules. We're still friends but now without the benefits. I consider him one of my best friends. smokin

jtip1977's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:00 AM
1. Do not get emotional about it. See it for what it truly is. Sex
2. Do not get into one if you're just planning on biding your time expecting there to be something more.
3. Do NOT let him use you. Always maintain your sense of self worth. Make sure that he treats you with respect. (Even if you are a "friend with benefits.")
4. Do not get upset if/when he starts seeing other people. If you're FWB's he may not even feel obligated to tell you that he's started seeing someone else. He may just stop calling.
5. Understand that there will most likely be no going out to dinner, no hanging out, no holding hands, no acknowledging each other as partners.
6. Do not hold out for him. Cast your net and keep dating around.
7. It needs to be on your terms too. Don't just let him declare it and go along with it. If that's not what you want right now, kick him to the curb.
8. This arrangement works best if the two people have never been in a relationship. Less chance for emotions to come into play. Fewer expectations.

no photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:01 AM
The first rule should be...don't do that...crossing the line as far as I'm concerned. You would simply need to keep your feelings in tact or endure horrible heart break when the affair ended...after all...wouldn't you want to keep your friend? My friends and I have very strong, deep relationships and I could not imagine losing one of them because we became too involved.

Riding_Dubz's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:02 AM

1. Do not get emotional about it. See it for what it truly is. Sex
2. Do not get into one if you're just planning on biding your time expecting there to be something more.
3. Do NOT let him use you. Always maintain your sense of self worth. Make sure that he treats you with respect. (Even if you are a "friend with benefits.")
4. Do not get upset if/when he starts seeing other people. If you're FWB's he may not even feel obligated to tell you that he's started seeing someone else. He may just stop calling.
5. Understand that there will most likely be no going out to dinner, no hanging out, no holding hands, no acknowledging each other as partners.
6. Do not hold out for him. Cast your net and keep dating around.
7. It needs to be on your terms too. Don't just let him declare it and go along with it. If that's not what you want right now, kick him to the curb.
8. This arrangement works best if the two people have never been in a relationship. Less chance for emotions to come into play. Fewer expectations.




where did you copy and paste that from jtip
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misstina2's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:02 AM
I'm thinking its when 2 friends agree to have sex without getting love involved

Krimsa's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:03 AM
According to "Seinfeld" the rules are, but not limited to:

"no phone calls the day after"

"spending the night is optional"

"and no kissing"

happy


willing2's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:07 AM
Rules.
If you aren't in the mood then, it's ok to get it somewhere else.
You won't get upset if I suggest we do a threesome. Two women and me.
If I don't call for a while, it's no big deal. We are friends, right?
I invite you to do things with because I know you are pretty much a sure lay. Like having that tail handy just in case.
If I find someone I want to have a real relationship with, you will be happy I'm happy.

jtip1977's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:08 AM


1. Do not get emotional about it. See it for what it truly is. Sex
2. Do not get into one if you're just planning on biding your time expecting there to be something more.
3. Do NOT let him use you. Always maintain your sense of self worth. Make sure that he treats you with respect. (Even if you are a "friend with benefits.")
4. Do not get upset if/when he starts seeing other people. If you're FWB's he may not even feel obligated to tell you that he's started seeing someone else. He may just stop calling.
5. Understand that there will most likely be no going out to dinner, no hanging out, no holding hands, no acknowledging each other as partners.
6. Do not hold out for him. Cast your net and keep dating around.
7. It needs to be on your terms too. Don't just let him declare it and go along with it. If that's not what you want right now, kick him to the curb.
8. This arrangement works best if the two people have never been in a relationship. Less chance for emotions to come into play. Fewer expectations.




where did you copy and paste that from jtip
laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh


Hey - I'm an expert at copy and paste.....haha

oldsage's photo
Mon 02/09/09 08:12 AM
Think a major factor of people's definition is age. Younger age group, has a much different definition, seems to me.

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