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Topic: Is there a magic get your ex back pill?
KAW's photo
Mon 01/19/09 07:41 PM



Yea, I'm there now. Except for apologizing for things I didn't do and sending gifts. I did nothing wrong, but it doesn't make it hurt any less.



I'm happy for you, makes me think there is light at the end of the tunnel. Even if it's dim. . .


you're happy for me? I'm friggin miserable. But I just refuse to go beg and apologize for something I didn't do.


I'm sorry I didn't mean becuase your miserable. Just that you found a way to get past it in some way. It looks like anyway.

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Mon 01/19/09 07:42 PM




Yea, I'm there now. Except for apologizing for things I didn't do and sending gifts. I did nothing wrong, but it doesn't make it hurt any less.



I'm happy for you, makes me think there is light at the end of the tunnel. Even if it's dim. . .


you're happy for me? I'm friggin miserable. But I just refuse to go beg and apologize for something I didn't do.


I'm sorry I didn't mean becuase your miserable. Just that you found a way to get past it in some way. It looks like anyway.
I'm not past it. I'm just to damn stubborn to let it kill me.

KAW's photo
Mon 01/19/09 07:42 PM


Because flowers, dinner, admiting it was all my fault ( even when it wasn't ) and just plain asking sure doesn't work. I even asked my 2 year old Son, he just said " cookie ".



you are in a singles side so ,,, don't really think you want her back that badly


Maybe your right. I think it just hurts not to be loved back. . .

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Mon 01/19/09 07:42 PM

Because flowers, dinner, admiting it was all my fault ( even when it wasn't ) and just plain asking sure doesn't work. I even asked my 2 year old Son, he just said " cookie ".


it's a bitter pill but just because you love someone doesn't mean you get to have em

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Mon 01/19/09 07:43 PM
I remembered that he was not the only thing in my life that brought me happiness. I just focused on the other things in my life that make me happy. And I'm just moving on. Life is to short to spend it in misery. Yea I'm hurt, I'm sad, and I'm pissed. But I'm still moving on and I will get thru it.

KAW's photo
Mon 01/19/09 07:45 PM


Because flowers, dinner, admiting it was all my fault ( even when it wasn't ) and just plain asking sure doesn't work. I even asked my 2 year old Son, he just said " cookie ".


it's a bitter pill but just because you love someone doesn't mean you get to have em


Maybe it's just a different pill I have to swallow.

Jill298's photo
Mon 01/19/09 07:45 PM



Because flowers, dinner, admiting it was all my fault ( even when it wasn't ) and just plain asking sure doesn't work. I even asked my 2 year old Son, he just said " cookie ".


it's a bitter pill but just because you love someone doesn't mean you get to have em


Maybe it's just a different pill I have to swallow.
it burns going down tho

hopenhopewell's photo
Mon 01/19/09 07:46 PM
national average is 97 % failure rate...sure you wanna go there..??

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Mon 01/19/09 07:46 PM
http://www.squidoo.com/magic_of_making_up_now

KAW's photo
Mon 01/19/09 07:47 PM

national average is 97 % failure rate...sure you wanna go there..??


Ouch.

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Mon 01/19/09 07:48 PM
There was for me. I remarried her. Then we got divorced again. Lucky for me I found the promises in the big book of AA. "We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it." I find comfort in keeping the past in the past. I am cognizant of it but for me insanity is still making the same mistakes over and over and expecting different results.:smile:

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Mon 01/19/09 07:50 PM


boy i would get back with mine today, except one thing she likes to fool around. so i cant go back, she wants me back and tries all the time so it depends on what you did.


Well, that's a bit different. I feel like if she did that then it wouldn't really be an issue. We have a Son together and used to live together. I just isolated myself from here while she was here and didn't even see it happening. That's the short version anyway.


well if that is the case go get her man. a good woman is hard to find chase her ass down and get her. if she loves you she will take you back, do something real stupid and embarassing in front of everyone and see what she does you will get her back if she loves you.

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Mon 01/19/09 07:51 PM

I agree its a tearing, hurtful, bag of emotions Kaw. I dont envy you,, been there before. Chin up and keep trying


been through the same thing stay focused on your own happiness ,you should not have to apologize for something you did not do.the pain will fade in time ,but if you broke up once the chances of her doing it again to you are greater for the second time and then you will be going through it all over again.. just hang in there ..

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Mon 01/19/09 07:57 PM
I hope they dont make that pill, dont want her back. But if you had asked me that after she left I would have wanted to buy some. It takes time to move on. The pain and lonlyness get to you sometimes, but it does get better. Do I still have love for her? You bet I do, but I know that I am a better person now with out her and I could never go back to the way it was. So keep your head up and move forward. If it was ment to be than she will come back, If she dont than it was never ment to be.

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Mon 01/19/09 08:01 PM
i find that when i go on a date and it does not go to well i just wont call them for a while then when they call me its game on buddy.. just act like shes not there women HATE that (most anyways)

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Mon 01/19/09 08:17 PM
There is a way of thinking, some information I've gleaned over the years from watching people around the AA tables, of seeing it in the patients I've taken care of on an inpatient psychiatric unit. It's simple. In every relationship, at any one point in time, there is The Runner and The Chaser. It is not really game playing. The Chaser has an opportunity to just plain stop chasing. Call it a focus change. Become interested, absorbed, even passionate about something else. If the woman has any feelings at all for you, she will take note of the behavior and may choose to become the chaser, she may not. The cliche, "Time heals all wounds!" hurts like hell during the healing process. God be with you!

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Mon 01/19/09 08:49 PM
Is there a magic pill to get your ex back?

Yep. It's called cyanide. You can get her back (at least her body) that way guaranteed. shades

Since we don't know the whole story about your situation, it is hard to give you advice on what to do. What caused the break up? Has this happened before? Etc.

Based on what you have told us, I agree with the others on leaving her alone. Let her play her games and just go on with your life.

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Mon 01/19/09 08:55 PM

There was for me. I remarried her. Then we got divorced again. Lucky for me I found the promises in the big book of AA. "We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it." I find comfort in keeping the past in the past. I am cognizant of it but for me insanity is still making the same mistakes over and over and expecting different results.:smile:


Actually, that is one of the definitions of insanity. People do it all the time in their lives. shades

Based on this, you are in an endless cycle. It's up to you to either break that cycle or continue doing the same old thing.

Ask yourself if you want her back because you don't think anyone in the whole wide world could be better for you than her or because you simply need companionship.




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Mon 01/19/09 10:11 PM

Because flowers, dinner, admiting it was all my fault ( even when it wasn't ) and just plain asking sure doesn't work. I even asked my 2 year old Son, he just said " cookie ".


Acceptance is a good word to learn.

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