so i took a girl out to lunch one time , then walked around the coventry mall for about 4 hours (lame).


people told me i was an idiot becuase i should have just taking her out to the park or something "FREE". now i though that souded dumb but then again opinions are different.

I work nights, so breakfast and lunch dates are pretty common for me. Low budget dates are good, helps keep a lot of pressure off the both of us.

The lunch part sounded just fine, didn't need to do the conventry mall part.

I think it should be something that you would both enjoy doing. If it was me and the weather was nicer I would want it to be a walk in a park or something like that. This way the two of you could talk and get to know each other better....that's always nice.

well, if she walked for 4 hours, maybe she didn't mind...?
i would have been done after an hour..lol

yeah she seemed like she wanted to do something else and what sucked was that the arcade they use to have closed so thts all we could do. and of course it was middle of the autum too so that didnt help.

i totally agree with the lunch part. the walking around the mall part is kinda lame (sorry). but if you wanted to spend more time with her, suggest to go somewhere for dessert and bring it to a nearby park that way you both enjoy the company and get to know each other a little better :)

Well a lite lunch is not a big investment; especially if you are eating also.

Walking around a mall would seem to be a good way to get and idea of someone's tastes in many things; especially personal interests in music, books, clothes, maybe sports, style of furnishings, or electronics. What are they knowledgeable about?

Also to find out how the person reacts to various situations. Are they patient when someone cuts in front of you, nice to clerks, do they respond to children? Do they interact with you or trail along? If they see someone they know do they introduce you? Do they oogle every appealing person they see? What about physical contact and eye contact?

Usually Malls are fairly quiet so conversation is easy. Lots of triggers for conversation.

I don't know how other women act but I do not expect a date to pay for anything I buy at a Mall. If he has been generous enough to buy lunch is a good possibility I might later buy a soda or other treat.

That doesn't rule out a park for many of the same reasons but I am not going to be eager to be in a public park where there is rarely anyone I would know near buy for a first or second date.

Dating is hilarious. Had a boss once who thought it was her life's mission to find me a mate. I had managed her business for over a year and had not had the time to really date. Suzi was one of those people who think being single is the worst thing in life. I was the opposite...lol.

Well, Suzi set me up one day and had a gentleman enter the salon with the intent of asking me out. It was our busiest time of the year and the place was packed. So, when he asked me out (loudly) everything came to a complete halt. I looked like the proverbial 'deer caught in the headlights'...lol.

I didn't know what to do as I looked anxiously from one customer to the next, praying someone would give me some sort of support. I was not prepared for anything like this and was panicking. So, out of fear and pressure, I said, "Uh...um...ok."

Suzi refused to let me work the rest of the day and insisted I drive to the city to purchase a new outfit (sigh). I did. She also insisted on taking my daughter for the night which removed a potential excuse to end the date should things go badly.

Well, a few hours later, I am at home and preparing for the date when my phone rings. Apparently Suzi has given Joe my home number. Joe says, "Hey, why don't you drive to my place and we will leave from here." This shocked me a bit because I've always been picked up at my door when going on a date but, times are changing. So, I agreed but was a bit confused.

Once I arrived at his home, he insisted on taking my truck (sigh). "This is not going well," I had thought as we left in my rig.

Since he had refused to tell me where we were going or what we were doing (had said it was a surprise), I had not been given the option to dress appropriately. I was dressed to the nines (heels, mini-skirt, etc.) and he was wearing ratty jeans with a torn up flannel shirt (sigh).

The date consisted of going to a movie that was a sequel to a movie I had never even heard of, let alone seen (sigh). After the movie, he wanted to take me to dinner. He chose the restaurant...Burger King (sigh). In an attempt to end the date early, I chose to order onion rings and that was all. The date cost him a total of seven dollars for the movie and 89 cents plus tax for dinner.

Now, I don't expect any man to "take care of me" because as an adult, I'm quite capable of supporting myself. But, if you want to ask me out...at least respect me enough to find out my interests. You know, the foods I like, things I like to do, etc. That way the date is at least enjoyable to a certain extent even if we don't hit it off.

Well, upon leaving the city to return to the rural area we resided in, I was hoping to use my daughter as an excuse to end the "Date From Hell." So, I said, "Well, I have to pick my daughter up so I really need to go." Now is when I would find out just how much Suzi had set me up...lol. Joe said, "Well, Suzi told me she had your daughter all night. She told me that when she volunteered to keep my kids overnight." My jaw hit the floor...lol.

"Dammit," I had thought. "I am so having a chat with that woman at work in the a.m." Then, much to my surprise, he asked me if I would like to come in for a nightcap as we pulled into his driveway. Since I didn't haev a legitimate excuse for ending the date, I said, "Um, for a minute but, I really need to sleep soon because I have to work in the a.m."

As I entered his home and sat on the edge of the couch..as close to the front door as possible, he disappeared down the hallway. He returned a few moments later smoking. He then pointed at me and said, "I'm smoking a left-handed cigarette and I don't wanna' hear any *****in' outta' you."

I had laughed and said, "What is a left-handed cigarette?" He explained it was a joint with an incredulous look on his face that said, "Are you really that naive??" And, yes, I was that naive...lol. As he exhaled into my face, I stood from the couch and didn't give a damn about hurting his feelings anymore as I ended the date that very moment.

I continued to run Suzi's salon but refused to date for another year. I was in no hurry to have the sequel to "Date From Hell Prat 1." When I did have another date, the new gentleman would take me to Tacobell (sigh).

By the time date three came around with a different man, it was a running joke amongst my male friends that, "They would take me out to a nice steakhouse but were afraid that I wouldn't know what to do without a spork!"

I stopped dating after that...lol. I've been single for a decade now and am just starting to get back into meeting potential dates. Like I eluded to earlier, you don't have to spend a lot of money on me when it comes to a date. BUT, ask me what I like to do. The company is the goal...to see if we are compatible. If I can't stand fast food, don't take me to a fast food restaurant!

There is nothing wrong with you walking around for four hours as long as you were both enjoying yourselves. Shoot, I think the best date I ever had involved a tailgate, sunset, wildflowers, and a six-pack.

Good luck!

If the plan was to go play in an arcade it is too bad that it was closed. Sounds like you recovered and evidently she liked you since she spent a long time with you.

I have found it is usually a good plan on at least first dates to plan a start and stop time or things can drag on when things don't go smoothly. You can always change your plan but it is a graceful ending if you have said you have something after and hour or so.

Sort of what happen to you is the reason exactly for checking out a date site closely prior to the date. It always helps to be prepared for dates. Go to the place, check out the menu prices, see what kind of service, is it accessible if necessary, where are the bathrooms, is their construction on your route, do you have money if the car won't start or you need a cab. Carry a charged cell phone and some emergency money. This can save you from a really embarrassing situation. ALWAYS tell someone where you are going, with who, and expected back even if it is to leave it in a note in your house. This goes for guys too. Do not kid yourself there are men who are the victims in "date" crimes.

Oh good lord.

I may take a woman to a Mexican restarant....but it sure as hell isn't gonna be a damn Taco bell...lmaol

Low budget is ok, especially in these times, but you would have done just as well walking in a nice park or something so you could talk and get to know each other. You didn't have to walk in the mall for 4 hours! But you might have made a few points with her!

Enough "inexpensive" things around you don't have to go free to save money. Just cater it to her interests. Interative indoors.. bowling or a pool hall, Interative outdoors.. zoo or a park, movie buff.. a given and if all else fails dinner.

If you are going to take the movie or the dinner route spice it up alittle... find an ice cream place nearby- usually tons of fun and a chance to get to know them better.

One of the best dates i ever had started off at a coffee shop, moved to a book store and finished in an ice cream parlor... ended up with her for 10 years lol.

I really want all of you to think about this,as long as you talk befor the date!! you will both know what will be nice,,for the both of you ,,and the date will just go fine.....duh .......the lady from the woods!!!

When the weather is nice I love a late picnic outside in an open field or park followed by laying on our backs stargazing and talking, preferably about the stars and what not.

ummmmm????? whats a coventry mall????
is that a place for nuns to shop????

you insisted on TGiF ... i told you i would have been fine with mickey d's



it made me laugh how i'm the date you're talking about.

Well the lunch thing sounded fine but dinners are generally more conducive to getting to know one another and allowing for intimate discussion. Walking around a mall for 4 hours is LAME. Was that her idea or yours? For one thing, if the guy asked if I wanted to do that, I would start to have doubts as it related to our overall compatibility. I’m more of an intellectual/naturalist type.

I'm lost here. Is a 'lunch' supposed to be a big deal? for any date?

well we ended up walking around not really by choice more like just messing around in the department stores laughing at eachother. but yeah it was kinda a cold day so thats why i chose the mall and i know how most girls like going to the mall because they like checking stuff out which is cool with me i like to window shop as much as any one else.