The zombies in question are kinda scraggly looking.

Some are missing limbs. They wear tattered clothing and have a slight " shuffle " type of walk.

hmmmmmmmm sounds like some of the bums running the streets here

I may regret this...but here goes. My bf of 4yrs seems to want to a lot more social lately. Which has been my biggest complaint- I have always wanted us to get out more. Just 1 prob now. It's always just the guys / co-worker thing! Nice!! I've done my homework. So far it all seems harmless- mostly. However, he knows he's throwing salt into an old sore here. Like tonight: it's a guy night again. I'm pissed! I'm sooo trying to get some girls togeher for tonight also- but of course we all have to work in the morning!!

Hey Jas? I'm absolutely not an expert, but from a woman's point of view...the guy being a "horndog" isn't necessarily a bad thing if he's not pushing himself beyond the bounds of what's okay with you. That might not be the case in this situation, but if a guy's expressing serious physical attraction and ALSO will respect your boundaries, you can take that as a great compliment & just let things develop - or not, depending on if you can both operate within the parameters that you establish together.

Just something to consider...

Sorry the date didn't work out the way you'd hoped, but don't beat yourself up either!
Hugs, babe!


thanks galendgirl

we actually hadn't gone on that date yet, as its only today that my exams end ( ) i guess we're not gonna go on it anymore now though, he hasn't spoken to me since. ah well. c'est la vie

Now why would you think that asking me a question would be something you would wind up regretting??? I'm not that bad.....lol

I have to ask. He knows that you had this complaint before, but have you recently told him that this is still a sore spot for you?

If you have, then you probably won't like what I have to say about this.

If you have mentioned to him recently that you are having a problem with this, then he is

1) Ignoring your concerns
2) Taking for granted that you are going to be there when he gets home regardless of whether or not you like what is going on

Neither of these things bode well for the relationship as a whole.

You absolutely MUST bring this issue out in the open and find out why he feels that this is ok despite your problems with it.

Chances are, he's probably going to say something like " I just need some personal time " or something to that effect.

From what you say, and without his input I have nothing else to base my opinion on, you seem to feel that he is doing this in a mean or vindictive way. You also say that you have been with him for 4 years.

It could be that he really does need a little breathing room. It could also be that, if you live together, he needs a little personal time away from you so that he can just relax and have a good time.

Then again, he very well could be doing it because he knows it gets under your skin.

All I can really say with 100% certainty is that, if you and he don't get this issue out in the open and communicate with each other about it, then 4 years probably won't be continuing much more than that.

well I am off, finally, trying to figure out what I want to do first......sleep, hot bath, laundry, clean house.......which one?

Hey Justaguy!

Cool thread! I've never posted in here before but I do have a question for you now & would appreciate your opinion.


I met a gal on Myspace that's actually on the same planet as me; just a ten minute drive actually, and we seem to be hitting it off well. We share many of the same interests & enjoy talking to each other. We're at the point where we're ready to meet & start dating.

Here's the deal: she's five years older and I'm a young looking 26. I'm a bit worried about the age gap, but then again; I am mature for my age & we seem quite compatible. Not that big a deal for me & doesn't seem to bother her.

...and another thing, she has three young daughters. I have one six year old son already too, full time. I know it's harmless to go out and spend time getting to know each other, but if things do start getting serious, am I biting off more than I can chew?

I think that I'm a good father to my son and I always seem to be shouldering much responsibility, seems to be what these shoulders were made for. I know it's way early to be worrying about this since we haven't yet met in person to see if the chemistry is there. I'm just wondering whether I should pursue or not. My gut tells me yes but my brain is already filled with worry. Hard to step out into the unknown, yanno?!?

These are just some thoughts rolling around in my head. Would be nice to get an outsider's opinion.

Thanks in advance.

Hot Bath. Sleep. Laundry. Clean house.

In that order.

JustAGuy; why do people hate so much?

Howdy!



That's what I am here for. ;-)




OK. So if it's not a big deal to you that she is five years older ( that's only 31 ffs ), then it's not really a " Here's the deal..." type thing.



Honestly, only you can make that determination. Do YOU think you would be biting off more than you can chew?



I totally understand how hard it is to step out of your comfort zone.

But the thing is, how much more difficult is it to find someone that you think might have potential, but never know if that potential would materialize if you DON'T step outside of that comfort zone?



From my ( an outsider ) point of view...

I have only one question for you.

What's the worst that could happen? You find out that she really isn't for you?

What's the best thing that could happen? You realize that she really IS for you, and you wind up with a larger family and a tad bit more stress?

I guess what it boils down to is this. What level of responsibility are you ready for?

If things work out, you'll have more responsibility.

Because they fear.

Why do people like thrill rides like roller coasters?

Why does different water in different towns make your hair behave differently after shampooing?

Do you get any paid holiday time off work next week, JAG?

Do you have a methodology for choosing between multiple good options for job/relocation or not/life path?

Looks like I may end up with multiple things coming to fruition at the same time and then I've got to figure out WHICH thing to do...<sigh> Not complaining about options (many people have none) but want to make my best decision.

Is the price of gas creeping back up a few cents in your area?

Is it really better to have a bottle in front of me rather than a frontal labotomy?

If baby oranges are green, should they still be called oranges?

I know they are in my area too. I'm one of the people at the station who has to change the signs. Not one of my favorite things to do.