No need to be Dude...cheating is cheating no matter what word you try to cover it up with....and excuses is what he has....simple as that...he just wants everyone to jump in to support him....he didn't have a clue that we were all very simply, loving people that respect love and what it stands for

Very well put issac I agree. My x attempted this with me and it caused a great deal of trouble in the marriage. I know now that it was one of the reasons for the divorce biggest I would say. This is a situation that must be well thought out and the trust level has to be one that I have never acheived but I am sure it is possible and I beleive each person or couple should live their lives as they choose.

So here's my question... How old is your daughter? What happens later on down the road when either you or your wife meet someone and develop strong feelings for them, and want to take it to the next level? If you aren't satisfied with your marriage, take the proper steps to fix it. If you postpone it longer, it's only going to get harder on your child. OR are you satisfied just being with someone out of convenience? Sounds like a sad, lonely life to me. Trust me, my husband and I tried it, and it lasted for about a month. Whether you think so or not now, it's better for your child if you're honest with her. Even if she's upset now, she'll be happier later on knowing the truth, and knowing that her parents are happy.

A friend of mine grew up with two parents in an open relationship. It worked out great for them and she grew up to be a perfectly normal person.

If anything it would make your daughter more open minded and tolerant of other's lifestyles.

If you are getting along better now, then why go somewhere else. Go to counseling, work out the problems you are having. Don't get into someone else's bed. I don't understand the need to go somewhere else if there isn't any arguing and fighting.

In my opinion there is no marriage if there is an open marriage.

A marriage is supposed to be between 2 adults.....

not 3 or 4 or 27892

Sooooooooooo.........tell me....some guy you married pulled this on you???

If someone wants an open marriage then why get married??? why not just date????

Sounds like he wants his CAKE and EAT it too!!!!!!

Hey Moe, tell my wife I'm going over my girlfriends house...

Open marriage? really? I like open dating relationships but I see them as interviews for a future closed marriage.

Why would you need advice didnt you know what you were getting into before you entered into the marriage?

Good luck and have fun.

Thats my view of dating as well.

i used to wor with a chic that had a very open marriage. she had been married for at least ten years. I never met her husband, but she told me a bunch of her sexual exploits with other men. Her and her husband have 3 kids together. She was a church going cubscout leading nurse who devoted much of her time to good family activites.

Still after all the things she did behind her husbands back (and some right in front of his face) and then she would come to work whining about how her husband was depressed and thank God the doc finally put him on some prozac and then in the next minute shes flirting with any attractive man that comes along her path. carrying on like a hoochie mama.

I cant imagine any part of that kind of lifestlye is satisfying. for either parties. I would suggest counseling if available.

but hey whatever floats your boat...I would personally be happier alone than to have to live with such drama day in and day out. good luck to you.

I don't understand why you want to get married to begin with?

open marriage is nothing more than friendship with a contract

Yep... kids aren't stupid and the old "stay together for the kids" ideal is usually worse on them - if not now, eventually. Decide what you want to role-model then do that.

Open marriages lead directly to very open divorces.My advice is close the marriage or open the door and one of you get out..

Cheating begins with lies


Someone mentioned that the child isn't stupid...what is the diff if daddy and mommy are in the same house dating others or living apart dating others? Everyone is different and different things work for them... the poster was asking for advice on open marriages not for people to criticize the choice.

KNOCK KNOCK hi im here for the gang bang.!!!!

I think there is nothing wrong with ADULTS having an open marriage why not............people set themselves in these boxes with unhappy relationships............what people need to do is realize there are other options out there.............and it sucks that people are so judgemental..........

i also think that the woman is going to be happier in this situation...because heck perhaps its very easy for a woman (regardless if shes married or not)to get laid.

as for the dude, i mean come on your choices are going to be more limited.

I......ummmm...

No...this is just too stupid to comment on.