there are many ways to be attractive for example you could be the most beautifle girl in the world but!!!! If you are a possessive and controlling type the to me it is a complete turn off. on the other side of that coin your sweet personality and the willingness to try new things and never try to change a man then you could be the most beautiful girl in the world

So well said, I agree that we are sentient beings. But I want the cuddling,the holding, and the affection side more than men. How do you feel about this?

I view everthing as a sexual object.

This just develops later in life for lots of women... those old "good girls/bad girls" stereotypes get put to rest with a little life experience...

I think it's the "M.I.L.F." factor. Even though I'm 38, I still fantasize about "older" women. The part of the brain in men that still thinks like a teenager says "her kids are out of the house and she will teach me something naughty that I don't know yet". I don't feel it's anything personal, just our twisted sexuality. Some women at this age have had their tube tied etc. which makes some men think that it's "open season". I might be way off base here, just my 2 cents.

especially the cucumbers.

*hands Alzeimer a bottle of BBQ sauce and then runs out of the thread giggling*

QUESTION:

Is it possible sexually dominant sexually centered men are the type of man Faith is attracted to and therefore continually encounters???

Does this conversely imply that Faith is physically/emotionally/sexually submissive?

The predator inherently always seeks out the weakest(easiest) meal in the herd...

Lilith, You are, more than you know...

After reading these responses, I believe I will never have to ask "why me?" again! You guys have been quite sweet in answering this for us!

My question is now, how do we, as women, get you, as men, beyond the sexual plain? I mean, I want to have a non-sexual conversation every now and then, or take in a movie, go hiking, heck I'd even enjoy a football game. How do we get you to be an non-sexual activity partner as well?

Honestly, I have never been able to have a sexual relationship with a woman that I do not have feelings for. I like to believe that the person I am with would have the same feelings for me that I had for her, but maybe that isn't the case...i don't know. I'm a sort of "do unto others as I would want done to me". I don't like the feeling that I am unappreciated or being used. If I have that feeling I will disappear quick.

Oh, I know I am going to get some negative feedback for this...

I feel very bad for the women out in the world. I listen to the things guys talk about, and I don't know how to help these guys.

I listen, I mean I listen to people, old, young, able, stupid, smart, scarred, religious, selfish.....etc.
You are in love when you can see her in your tomorrows. Does that make sense? It helps the guys if they don't have to put any emotion with their thoughts, we aren't wired that way.

Emoticons are a good thing cause ya'll talk funny!



(an emoticon abuser)

men cannot see dirt unless it accumulates to large clods roughly the size and weight of a cabbage. this is a biological fact. women however detect microscopic dirt molecules due primarily to eyes that work on a principle much like electron microscopy. the resulting difference in perspective between the sexes accounts for 99.2% of male-female confusion with the remaining 0.8% just "lizard brain"

yer too smart for that lil


if thats what ta want ya have to act dumber

and yes i said act (cause i know yer very intelligent)

I know I always have feelings for the women I view as sexual objects. I just would tell you that outloud...

alot of good opinions I myself have a theory as well I enjoy history and reading alot about the past of human kind and from that you can kinda figure out answers maybe not the right ones but answers just the same. Whne you involve religion politics and society it kinda becomes a scrabled mess for instance catholic preist are not alowwed to marry that was made up 100s of years ago by a certain bishop(his name eludes me at the moment)but none the less something that a leader of the church said and decided on and the people followed.
Humans are one of the few speices on earht that have intimate contact for pleasure not just reproduction along the way it became taboo to be open about that but if you read the quaterly reports adult entertainment is a multi billion dollar industry so who is buying this stuff.
Men are raised from childhood to be tuff no emotional and strong we can't talk about feelings or use that as a strength otherwise we would be considere less manly so to speak and women are raised to be proper submissive yet reserved if they are out spoken sexual aggresive then they are wrong kinda a catch 22.
So we arent perfect but hey we dont have to give up just be who you are and those that matter will respect you.

I think it's partly because we're all basically animals with instincts to breed..and in the earlier stages of life what "society" (at least American society) deems as "starting a family", etc is in contrast with what our instincts tell us. Men and women are hard wired to want sex, but it's the male instinct to spread his seed. It sounds bad, but that's what nature originally intended in order to keep the human race from dying out. So men and women both play games when they're young because that's what they've learned, but it suppresses their instincts.
So years go by, men get in relationships that suppress their sexual instincts. When they get out of these relationships, they're ready to sow their oats (some men already have at this point, and we all know where that goes). And, well, it's been said that a woman's sex drive is at her peak in her 40s. So, naturally these men go after women in that age group to sow those oats.
I could be wrong, this is just my opinion.