This has puzzled me for years.. Men are sooo different from women. I have found thru the years and experience that men have different emotions,feelings, ideas etc..
Men please enlighten me on this.
The older I get the more I am viewed as a sexual object with no committment no emotions attached from men. What is this all about?
Will be interesting to see what the responses will be.
Gentle

i would have viewed you as a sexual object, even when you were much younger....

Your so funny and cute too
I dont know if I should take that as a Smart ass comment or your being nice

I`m not a man,.so maybe I should not respond,.but I find your commment interesting,..

I`ve always found I attract what I need to learn,..

RUDE

smart ass....yes

nice....please refer to one of the many "nice guy" threads..

The differences between men and women are vast. I think if you actually went and looked at some studies you'd find some very interesting results. I've watched some studies done just because I find these differences interesting. One study held by a university had 2 tests which I remember specifically.

One was the Myth that men are better with directions. They took (and this isn't exact.... just a guess from memory) 50 men and 50 women. Individually they blindfolded them and led them through the halls of campus and into a waiting room. Once they got into the room they asked each person to walk back the way they came. Only 7 women were able to make it back and almost 35 of the guys could.

Next, they placed each of these people into a waiting room. no one was told any instructions, but they were there for about 5 minutes. This room had hundreds of items on the table like little cars, staples, anything you could imagine. When they were asked afterwards what was in the room, pretty much every guy could list back about 5 items, while the women were able to list off nearly 50 !

This is just a small morsel of how different we are... and there are exceptions to every rule.

Personally I am not like most guys as far as relationships go, but my roommate is the "dog" type of guy I would warn you about. He'll say anything to anyone for a first time, then Meh, never talk to you again.

If I could be viewed as a sexual object more often.....

Sigh.

Well, other than lilith, I don't view women as sexual objects.


Okay to answer your question, as a man, I have no IDEA what you are talking about. The viewing of women as sexual objects will remain exactly the same from male to male. The truth is, we pretty much so view all women as someone with "sexual potential." I know, it's horrible, but it's part of our wiring.

Now that being said, women of dating or courtship potential are viewed in an entirely different way. Actually that's not true, sexually they are viewed the same way. See, a man's mind really doesn't know how to tackle such concepts. Just know this, you're a woman, that means that 99% of all straight men want to have sex with you. The other one percent, is lying.

I think this goes both ways. One of the first things I do when meeting a potential date or a date is think about them sexually. Is there chemistry? Are there pheremones going? Do they have nice lips, good teeth? Do I want to kiss them?

Really. I'd hope they'd do the same with me.




Thanks, RO. I needed that.

If you EVER need someone to think of you in a lustful way, give me a call, I can handle that. Heck, I'm doing it right now!!!

i think men look at things in a more broader view point whereas women see the details of things.

Agreed, I believe that's generally true.

Just a guess, but maybe the older you get, men are looking for less of a compatible mate to have children with than they are looking for a fun person for right now? Not that younger men are seriously thinking about children during sex, but once that isn't part of the equation . . .

Hi Faith,

Let's see, to paraphrase your question: as you get older, you've found that men treat you like a sexual object with no feelings?

Well, speaking for myself, yes, (when in a relationship) with a woman, I am very sexual. BUT key word is relationship.

I'm looking for a woman who is emotionally available to share our lives together. This includes romantic evenings, walks in the parks, and the mundane like grocery shopping and chores. I don't think that should be so difficult, but its been 8 years and I'm still looking.

Faith, I seem to be encountering from women, the opposite from your experience with men.

Ralph

Well, I Beleive That All Men & Women Think of The Other Sex With Open Views, Not That They Will Be Truthful About If Asked... Its Animal Instinct If Your Attracted To The Other Sex Your Going To Fantisize About That Person If Your A Man Or Woman. I Have been Accused Of Staring At Other Women & I Was Doing Just That... Some I Was Attracted To Others The Closer They Came The More I Was Scarred , & I Have Caught My Other Half(at The Time) Doing The Same Thing, Its Natural... Just As Long As You Do Not Take It Too Far If You Have A Wife Or Girlfriend... Then The Jealosy Takes Over The Green Eyed Monster!

Thats Just My Opinion,

i dont know why,but i feel like bangin u

What a great question to ask, a friend of mine asked about the same question, it was "why do men look at boobs first and then the face", my reply was because they protrude away from your body and bounce.

Step back and think about it, most people are affraid of eye contact even for a moment, even though it might get a sweet smile from the other person.. But men mostly, are simple minded,like a cat and a ball of yarn, play toys etc.

As for your question do you feel that men are staring more at you now then ten years ago, and or why do you think that, do you catch then at it, do you feel more sexy now then in the past, what life changes have happened, need more insight to this myself.

RoamingOrator said: "The viewing of women as sexual objects will remain exactly the same from male to male. The truth is, we pretty much so view all women as someone with "sexual potential." I know, it's horrible, but it's part of our wiring.

Now that being said, women of dating or courtship potential are viewed in an entirely different way. Actually that's not true, sexually they are viewed the same way. See, a man's mind really doesn't know how to tackle such concepts. Just know this, you're a woman, that means that 99% of all straight men want to have sex with you. The other one percent, is lying."


my humble 2 cents..

where i agree with the roaming gentleman that sexuality is innate in all men - so too as men we have an opportunity to transmute that 'first thought' - and have experienced, with practice, amazing self-transformational results.

i disagree entirely about this 1% thing - or was that supposed to be funny?