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I am finding easier to ask for help and to give help. Both can be hard because of acceptance. So I am working on my bargaining skills.
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Seems it's somewhat difficult for MOST of us to ask, but easy to give. Then why is it difficult to ask? Are we afraid of being looked at as weak, or as another poster implied (or I perceived that as so) that rejection is in there somewhere and that is what makes it difficult?
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Can you lend me $50 tallguy???  ONLY if you spend it on margaritas   ARRRIIIIBBBBA
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hard to ask, never hard to give
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No, it's not hard to ask for help or offer. I wish more people would be better at asking for help when they really need it, rather than guessing how to do something and screwing it up.. especially at work.
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Seems it's somewhat difficult for MOST of us to ask, but easy to give. Then why is it difficult to ask? Are we afraid of being looked at as weak, or as another poster implied (or I perceived that as so) that rejection is in there somewhere and that is what makes it difficult? I see it happen at work all the time. People are afraid to ask because they think it will make them look stupid for not knowing how to do something. So, instead, they will guess on how to do something and end up doing it incorrectly. In the end, I think that looks much worse than asking for help in the beginning. |
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Edited by
No1sLove
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Wed 10/15/08 01:27 PM
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I would have to say it depends on what kind of help.
Always appreciative of an open door when my hands are full, but would only accept financial assistance if it were life and death. As far as helping others, I always try to lend a hand when possible, but not to the extent of enabling others bad habits or being used as a pushover. |
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Always willing to help. if I can...........
Hate more than anything, having to ask.. 
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Always willing to help. if I can........... Hate more than anything, having to ask.. I always tell my friends that it's OK to ask -- because I've never met anybody who can handle 100% of everything, completely by themselves. I mean, isn't that one of the reasons we're (ostensibly) civilized? -- to serve as a sort of mutual support system for each other in times of need? But it's SO hard for me to ask anyone for help with anything -- I'm "supposed" to be on the "helper" side of the desk, not the "helpee" side.... |
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for help (of any knd) difficult for you? And on the flip side, is it difficult for you to offer, if someone doesn't ask? Hey G/F!  Good to see ya again! Asking for help????Very difficult! However, if it is for my kids I will. I've always been the one taking care of everyone else. I'm the "fixer" in my family. |
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I am very independent so it is hard for me to ask for help but doing so more now as I get older.. I give sooooo much. Always there for family, friends and strangers when they need it.. I had a mental breakdown when I was 23 and pregnant so I used to give back by counceling kids in high school, letting them know someone else has been there, done that.. Most of the time all they needed was someone to listen, which they were not getting at home..
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  Hi Carole... ms silver fox
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Hey Nessa, I have been trying to call you...email me please
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Hey Nessa, I have been trying to call you...email me please Okay... My Wonderful Friend
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for help (of any knd) difficult for you? And on the flip side, is it difficult for you to offer, if someone doesn't ask?  Je peux penser à quelques choses vous pouvez m'aider avec la jolie dame.
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Always willing to help. if I can........... Hate more than anything, having to ask.. I always tell my friends that it's OK to ask -- because I've never met anybody who can handle 100% of everything, completely by themselves. I mean, isn't that one of the reasons we're (ostensibly) civilized? -- to serve as a sort of mutual support system for each other in times of need? But it's SO hard for me to ask anyone for help with anything -- I'm "supposed" to be on the "helper" side of the desk, not the "helpee" side.... Same here Lex.....I mean my friend at work was running short on money for lunch, so I gave her a few dollars, and when I went to order lunch, I only got a hot dog.....the cheapest thing on the menu. I could have asked for money from someone instead, I made do with what I had but helped her out.......and I would do it again in a heartbeat. 
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i cannot find the right site i need to decipher your French <<< Lee >>>...  and it is driving me crazy
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for help (of any knd) difficult for you? And on the flip side, is it difficult for you to offer, if someone doesn't ask? Je peux penser à quelques choses vous pouvez m'aider avec la jolie dame. are you just TRYING to make me as you for help in deciphering that? I'm southern, I speak TWO languages...English and "suthen"! |
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for help (of any knd) difficult for you? And on the flip side, is it difficult for you to offer, if someone doesn't ask? Hey G/F! Good to see ya again! Asking for help????Very difficult! However, if it is for my kids I will. I've always been the one taking care of everyone else. I'm the "fixer" in my family. Sent you an email today!! I kinda knew which one you were!
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for help (of any knd) difficult for you? And on the flip side, is it difficult for you to offer, if someone doesn't ask? Je peux penser à quelques choses vous pouvez m'aider avec la jolie dame. "I can think of few things you can help me with the nice lady" I am sure you can Mister!!!! 
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