Topic: Repentance
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Mon 10/13/08 04:32 PM





Patronization can be a MAJOR trigger, blinding one of any commonalities with another (I react very strongly when I feel patronized). It's harder to prove to someone that they're being patronizing than to try to meet them in the middle.

Most of the time, people aren't the slightest bit aware that they're seeming patronizing.


It drives me nutzgrumble

What ever I can say or do, these people will call me rude because it is not what they WANT to see or hearfrustrated


People call you rude because they interpret your intention as you wishing to prove them wrong...

We all hate feeling "wrong"...

It shakes the foundations...

Makes one feel like a failure (only initially). No one is going to be forced into admitting any error. One has to come to that on their own (its personal).

How can you prove them right?

Find their fragment of truth...

Meet them there.


Maybe I shouldn't have an opinion of my own,

just say what everybody wants to hearnoway

What a confusing world:laughing:


Your opinion is a fragment crucial to the whole truth.

:heart:

If people didn't share contrasting opinions, humanity certainly would be down the ****ter...

Don't you think?



No, I'm not thinking anymoreembarassed


It's 12.30am here and my brains are asleep alreadyyawn

Good nightflowerforyou

Quikstepper's photo
Mon 10/13/08 04:33 PM



The Christian solution to this phenomenon is to hand it over to God and recognize that Jesus Christ who died, absolves us for all our sins.

To actually really believe this to be true must be a very liberating feeling, indeed.

For those who have not accepted Christianity, the internal struggle to move through this natural learning process seems far more daunting.

This depends on if you see God Almighty & Jesus as your friend...on your side.



Of course it would seem silly to a Christian to not accept the Christ concept. This whole process would appear to a Christian as a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.

What if, to navigate the mind's maze, one's heart could provide all guidance? Here, its called "heart", elsewhere, it could be called "Higher Power" or "God".

Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selves the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?




To answer your question...

Why would I want to entertain something that is contrary to what works for me?


Dear Quick,

The actual question was about accepting those who don't choose the path of your religion and having willingness to communicate about your experiences, relating them to those with "contrary" beliefs.

Never suggested you entertain anyone else's beliefs. What works for you still stands as your good. Never wished to take anything away from that.

Peace
:heart:


Well I just state what I believe. That's how I communicate with others. They share their belief & I share mine. Hopefully people would be open minded enough to try the Christian faith that way. :smile:

KerryO's photo
Mon 10/13/08 05:02 PM


Christians have no tolerance for other people's beliefs at all.


Perhaps this will seem ridiculously naive...

Perhaps if they didn't feel that their beliefs were being challenged, they'd wish more to relate.


Trouble is, telling a militant Christian that you're an agnostic or an atheist is like claiming you're just a little pregnant. If they know nothing about you, it's like flipping a light switch when you out yourself to them. They feel challanged by your mere honest expression of your unbelief.

And it shows.


-Kerry O.

splendidlife's photo
Mon 10/13/08 05:27 PM
Edited by splendidlife on Mon 10/13/08 05:30 PM



Christians have no tolerance for other people's beliefs at all.


Perhaps this will seem ridiculously naive...

Perhaps if they didn't feel that their beliefs were being challenged, they'd wish more to relate.


Trouble is, telling a militant Christian that you're an agnostic or an atheist is like claiming you're just a little pregnant. If they know nothing about you, it's like flipping a light switch when you out yourself to them. They feel challanged by your mere honest expression of your unbelief.

And it shows.


-Kerry O.


Yup...

There sure seems to be a lot of **** swingin' round these parts.

It's SO easy to interpret anything as a challenge.

So much competition.

When other beliefs can only be seen as UN-believing, its like deciding that all <insert religious belief here> have tails.

laugh

splendidlife's photo
Mon 10/13/08 05:41 PM
Edited by splendidlife on Mon 10/13/08 05:44 PM




The Christian solution to this phenomenon is to hand it over to God and recognize that Jesus Christ who died, absolves us for all our sins.

To actually really believe this to be true must be a very liberating feeling, indeed.

For those who have not accepted Christianity, the internal struggle to move through this natural learning process seems far more daunting.

This depends on if you see God Almighty & Jesus as your friend...on your side.



Of course it would seem silly to a Christian to not accept the Christ concept. This whole process would appear to a Christian as a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.

What if, to navigate the mind's maze, one's heart could provide all guidance? Here, its called "heart", elsewhere, it could be called "Higher Power" or "God".

Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selves the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?




To answer your question...

Why would I want to entertain something that is contrary to what works for me?


Dear Quick,

The actual question was about accepting those who don't choose the path of your religion and having willingness to communicate about your experiences, relating them to those with "contrary" beliefs.

Never suggested you entertain anyone else's beliefs. What works for you still stands as your good. Never wished to take anything away from that.

Peace
:heart:


Well I just state what I believe. That's how I communicate with others. They share their belief & I share mine. Hopefully people would be open minded enough to try the Christian faith that way. :smile:


Yeah...

I like to correlate beliefs.
bigsmile

splendidlife's photo
Tue 10/14/08 01:45 PM
Edited by splendidlife on Tue 10/14/08 01:46 PM






Patronization can be a MAJOR trigger, blinding one of any commonalities with another (I react very strongly when I feel patronized). It's harder to prove to someone that they're being patronizing than to try to meet them in the middle.

Most of the time, people aren't the slightest bit aware that they're seeming patronizing.


It drives me nutzgrumble

What ever I can say or do, these people will call me rude because it is not what they WANT to see or hearfrustrated


People call you rude because they interpret your intention as you wishing to prove them wrong...

We all hate feeling "wrong"...

It shakes the foundations...

Makes one feel like a failure (only initially). No one is going to be forced into admitting any error. One has to come to that on their own (its personal).

How can you prove them right?

Find their fragment of truth...

Meet them there.


Maybe I shouldn't have an opinion of my own,

just say what everybody wants to hearnoway

What a confusing world:laughing:


Your opinion is a fragment crucial to the whole truth.

:heart:

If people didn't share contrasting opinions, humanity certainly would be down the ****ter...

Don't you think?



No, I'm not thinking anymoreembarassed


It's 12.30am here and my brains are asleep alreadyyawn

Good nightflowerforyou


Had a good sleep?
yawn

The prospect of communicating across these barriers doesn't seem to hold a lot of attention 'round these parts these days.
ohwell


TheLonelyWalker's photo
Tue 10/14/08 07:01 PM

Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selve's the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?



well, that is what I always say. I believe what I believe, and I'm convinced that is the truth in my life. I guide my life through it.
Other people can believe in flying pigs if they want to or if they are happy with that.
Fundamentalistic approach in christianity is the one that asserts that everybody else is evil and is going to hell.
I'm a catholic. Even myself, being a catholic, am condemned to hell as far fundamentalism preaches.

tribo's photo
Tue 10/14/08 08:04 PM

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repentance

Repentance is a change of thought and action to correct a wrong and gain forgiveness from the one wronged.

The religious contexts are derived from two translations... one from Hebrew and one from Greek.

Old Testament Repentance, translated from Hebrew, contains two verbs to suggest the meaning:

a.) to return

b.) to feel sorrow

New Testament Repentance, translated from Greek, the word Metanoia suggests the meaning:

To perceive, to think, the result of perceiving or observing. "To think differently after".

An after-thought, different from the former thought; a change of mind accompanied by regret and change of conduct, "change of mind and heart", or, "change of consciousness".
_________________________________________________


Repentance occurs in every-day thought processes, whether one is religious or not.

This internal dialogue reveals self-evaluation of our own actions (after the fact). Those learning through feelings of guilt reach that point in thought process where they look at their own action(s) and feel regret. It is more difficult for guilt-ridden to reach the point of "change of mind and heart" or "change of consciousness" because they tend to linger and even wallow in regret, leading to self-condemnation, rather than resolution.

The Christian solution to this phenomenon is to hand it over to God and recognize that Jesus Christ who died, absolves us for all our sins.

To actually really believe this to be true must be a very liberating feeling, indeed.

For those who have not accepted Christianity, the internal struggle to move through this natural learning process seems far more daunting.

Of course it would seem silly to a Christian to not accept the Christ concept. This whole process would appear to a Christian as a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.

What if, to navigate the mind's maze, one's heart could provide all guidance? Here, its called "heart", elsewhere, it could be called "Higher Power" or "God".

Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selve's the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?




well my brains pretty numb right onw my lady so i hope you will make more sense in the morning as to what you've written, if possible and i understand what your asking tomorrow i will participate.

Milesoftheusa's photo
Tue 10/14/08 09:43 PM
Where did this notion come from that if Yahshua would not of died and been ressurrected that we can not have forgiveness of sins. By that then no one in the OT ever got forgiven. King David committed adultry then found out she was pregnant so he had her husband sent to the front line in a battle knowing he would be killed to cover up what he had done. And he is going to be by the throne. It says that in the OT. I do not believe you all really know what all Yahshua did when he died and afterwards..Shalom...Miles

Dragoness's photo
Tue 10/14/08 09:53 PM


Christians have no tolerance for other people's beliefs at all.


Perhaps this will seem ridiculously naive...

Perhaps if they didn't feel that their beliefs were being challenged, they'd wish more to relate.


I agree except when I state my opinion or belief about the bible or Christianity, the religious get highly offended and feel personally attacked.

My beliefs are my own and belong to me. I do not ask for acceptance nor approval. I just state my belief and opinion.

When I am "threatened" by their hell or some other "threat" it is of no consequence to me but it makes me frustrated because I do not "threaten" them with my version of hell if they continue to believe their way.

I don't take it personally when someone disagrees with me so maybe that is the difference.

RainbowTrout's photo
Tue 10/14/08 10:08 PM
I get a chance to think differently everyday. I have noticed it especially with people that are over me since sometimes I don't think they see my point of view or care less if I have a point of view differently than theirs. It allows me to be more forgiving of others which helps me to get along with others. Sometimes it makes me wonder if having a point of view or even an opinion is like something evil. It seems like some days I have a better day if I just run on remote and just act brain dead. I think too much anyways.:smile:

tribo's photo
Wed 10/15/08 10:36 AM

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repentance

Repentance is a change of thought and action to correct a wrong and gain forgiveness from the one wronged.

The religious contexts are derived from two translations... one from Hebrew and one from Greek.

Old Testament Repentance, translated from Hebrew, contains two verbs to suggest the meaning:

a.) to return

b.) to feel sorrow

New Testament Repentance, translated from Greek, the word Metanoia suggests the meaning:

To perceive, to think, the result of perceiving or observing. "To think differently after".

An after-thought, different from the former thought; a change of mind accompanied by regret and change of conduct, "change of mind and heart", or, "change of consciousness".
_________________________________________________


Repentance occurs in every-day thought processes, whether one is religious or not.

This internal dialogue reveals self-evaluation of our own actions (after the fact). Those learning through feelings of guilt reach that point in thought process where they look at their own action(s) and feel regret. It is more difficult for guilt-ridden to reach the point of "change of mind and heart" or "change of consciousness" because they tend to linger and even wallow in regret, leading to self-condemnation, rather than resolution.

The Christian solution to this phenomenon is to hand it over to God and recognize that Jesus Christ who died, absolves us for all our sins.

To actually really believe this to be true must be a very liberating feeling, indeed.

For those who have not accepted Christianity, the internal struggle to move through this natural learning process seems far more daunting.

Of course it would seem silly to a Christian to not accept the Christ concept. This whole process would appear to a Christian as a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.

What if, to navigate the mind's maze, one's heart could provide all guidance? Here, its called "heart", elsewhere, it could be called "Higher Power" or "God".

Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selves the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?




good afternoon SL, well now that I've had some rest i would respond yes to this, with a disclaimer - as long as there is a religion that says there is only one way it wont happen. the proponents of these beliefs will not allow it to, because they are led by gods very words to preach and evangelize and persuade others to what they believe to be the only "meaningful" truth that exist. Now - if you can convince them differently my little female Antichrist, then you will have done more than i believe a mortal person is capable of. good luck with that - flowerforyou

splendidlife's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:52 AM


Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selve's the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?



well, that is what I always say. I believe what I believe, and I'm convinced that is the truth in my life. I guide my life through it.
Other people can believe in flying pigs if they want to or if they are happy with that.
Fundamentalistic approach in christianity is the one that asserts that everybody else is evil and is going to hell.
I'm a catholic. Even myself, being a catholic, am condemned to hell as far fundamentalism preaches.


See...

This is the kind of dialogue I would wish to share.

You, TLW, are convinced in the truth in your OWN life. I completely honor that. Your approach leaves a door open for sharing instead of arguing.

I'm clear that someone with a fundmentalistic approach WOULD see a creature with ideas such as mine as evil.

That's not an issue for me. I don't feel the need to prove I'm any less evil than any other human being.

My desire for equality doesn't insist on proving any one belief as faulty. This desire does, however, take the focus off of the good/evil see-saw. Guess that looks evil to those highly invested in the war against evil.

Just as the "War Against Terror" creates MORE terror, so does the war against evil create more "evil".

Fine, if everyone chalks my ramblings off as some loopy hippy chick's fanciful notions of humanity living in peace. Don't care... This is what I see as within the realm of possibily. Not everyone in the world is fundamentalist. They just seem to bark the loudest.



splendidlife's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:57 AM


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repentance

Repentance is a change of thought and action to correct a wrong and gain forgiveness from the one wronged.

The religious contexts are derived from two translations... one from Hebrew and one from Greek.

Old Testament Repentance, translated from Hebrew, contains two verbs to suggest the meaning:

a.) to return

b.) to feel sorrow

New Testament Repentance, translated from Greek, the word Metanoia suggests the meaning:

To perceive, to think, the result of perceiving or observing. "To think differently after".

An after-thought, different from the former thought; a change of mind accompanied by regret and change of conduct, "change of mind and heart", or, "change of consciousness".
_________________________________________________


Repentance occurs in every-day thought processes, whether one is religious or not.

This internal dialogue reveals self-evaluation of our own actions (after the fact). Those learning through feelings of guilt reach that point in thought process where they look at their own action(s) and feel regret. It is more difficult for guilt-ridden to reach the point of "change of mind and heart" or "change of consciousness" because they tend to linger and even wallow in regret, leading to self-condemnation, rather than resolution.

The Christian solution to this phenomenon is to hand it over to God and recognize that Jesus Christ who died, absolves us for all our sins.

To actually really believe this to be true must be a very liberating feeling, indeed.

For those who have not accepted Christianity, the internal struggle to move through this natural learning process seems far more daunting.

Of course it would seem silly to a Christian to not accept the Christ concept. This whole process would appear to a Christian as a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.

What if, to navigate the mind's maze, one's heart could provide all guidance? Here, its called "heart", elsewhere, it could be called "Higher Power" or "God".

Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selves the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?




good afternoon SL, well now that I've had some rest i would respond yes to this, with a disclaimer - as long as there is a religion that says there is only one way it wont happen. the proponents of these beliefs will not allow it to, because they are led by gods very words to preach and evangelize and persuade others to what they believe to be the only "meaningful" truth that exist. Now - if you can convince them differently my little female Antichrist, then you will have done more than i believe a mortal person is capable of. good luck with that - flowerforyou


I certainly don't have it within me to convince anyone of anything. As I stated to TLW, the fundamentalists are not the majority... They just bark louder.

splendidlife's photo
Wed 10/15/08 12:01 PM

Where did this notion come from that if Yahshua would not of died and been ressurrected that we can not have forgiveness of sins. By that then no one in the OT ever got forgiven. King David committed adultry then found out she was pregnant so he had her husband sent to the front line in a battle knowing he would be killed to cover up what he had done. And he is going to be by the throne. It says that in the OT. I do not believe you all really know what all Yahshua did when he died and afterwards..Shalom...Miles


Man-made notion, Miles.
:wink:

SkyHook5652's photo
Wed 10/15/08 12:30 PM
I'm coming in late here but, "better late than never" :smile:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repentance

Repentance is a change of thought and action to correct a wrong and gain forgiveness from the one wronged.

The religious contexts are derived from two translations... one from Hebrew and one from Greek.

Old Testament Repentance, translated from Hebrew, contains two verbs to suggest the meaning:

a.) to return

b.) to feel sorrow

New Testament Repentance, translated from Greek, the word Metanoia suggests the meaning:

To perceive, to think, the result of perceiving or observing. "To think differently after".

An after-thought, different from the former thought; a change of mind accompanied by regret and change of conduct, "change of mind and heart", or, "change of consciousness".
_________________________________________________


Repentance occurs in every-day thought processes, whether one is religious or not.

This internal dialogue reveals self-evaluation of our own actions (after the fact). Those learning through feelings of guilt reach that point in thought process where they look at their own action(s) and feel regret. It is more difficult for guilt-ridden to reach the point of "change of mind and heart" or "change of consciousness" because they tend to linger and even wallow in regret, leading to self-condemnation, rather than resolution.

The Christian solution to this phenomenon is to hand it over to God and recognize that Jesus Christ who died, absolves us for all our sins.

To actually really believe this to be true must be a very liberating feeling, indeed.

For those who have not accepted Christianity, the internal struggle to move through this natural learning process seems far more daunting.

Of course it would seem silly to a Christian to not accept the Christ concept. This whole process would appear to a Christian as a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.

What if, to navigate the mind's maze, one's heart could provide all guidance? Here, its called "heart", elsewhere, it could be called "Higher Power" or "God".

Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selve's the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?
I don’t think it is necessary to obtain forgiveness in order to “move into peace”.

I think it is important to differentiate between the two separate issues involved in “repentance”:
1) a change of thought and action to correct a wrong
2) gain forgiveness from the one wronged

The change of thought and action to correct a wrong falls into the realm of personal ethics. It is the essential factor in attaining inner peace. As “wrong” is an entirely subjective evaluation, so “correcting a wrong” brings about an entirely subjective state of “rightness” which is personal peace. This really has nothing to do with anyone else’s (i.e. “the wronged person’s”) evaluation of right and/or wrong. In this sense, it is absolutely true that “we ALL have within our selve's the ability to pass through this process with or without religion”. But the simple fact that the rightness is completely subjective makes the forgiveness of another important only if that forgiveness is the only means of verifying that the wrong has actually be corrected. In other words, the inner peace comes from the personal knowledge that the wrong has been corrected, not from the forgiveness of another. In fact, the act of forgiving intrinsically brings inner peace to the “forgiver”, not the “forgivee”.

For that reason, I see the requirement for “repentance” as being a subversion of one’s personal integrity. Requiring repentance serves no purpose other than to allow one person to impose their personal code of ethics on another.

splendidlife's photo
Wed 10/15/08 12:48 PM
Edited by splendidlife on Wed 10/15/08 01:20 PM

I'm coming in late here but, "better late than never" :smile:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repentance

Repentance is a change of thought and action to correct a wrong and gain forgiveness from the one wronged.

The religious contexts are derived from two translations... one from Hebrew and one from Greek.

Old Testament Repentance, translated from Hebrew, contains two verbs to suggest the meaning:

a.) to return

b.) to feel sorrow

New Testament Repentance, translated from Greek, the word Metanoia suggests the meaning:

To perceive, to think, the result of perceiving or observing. "To think differently after".

An after-thought, different from the former thought; a change of mind accompanied by regret and change of conduct, "change of mind and heart", or, "change of consciousness".
_________________________________________________


Repentance occurs in every-day thought processes, whether one is religious or not.

This internal dialogue reveals self-evaluation of our own actions (after the fact). Those learning through feelings of guilt reach that point in thought process where they look at their own action(s) and feel regret. It is more difficult for guilt-ridden to reach the point of "change of mind and heart" or "change of consciousness" because they tend to linger and even wallow in regret, leading to self-condemnation, rather than resolution.

The Christian solution to this phenomenon is to hand it over to God and recognize that Jesus Christ who died, absolves us for all our sins.

To actually really believe this to be true must be a very liberating feeling, indeed.

For those who have not accepted Christianity, the internal struggle to move through this natural learning process seems far more daunting.

Of course it would seem silly to a Christian to not accept the Christ concept. This whole process would appear to a Christian as a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.

What if, to navigate the mind's maze, one's heart could provide all guidance? Here, its called "heart", elsewhere, it could be called "Higher Power" or "God".

Don't we all experience the same journey, regardless of beliefs?

If we ALL have within our selve's the ability to pass through this process with or without religion, wouldn't accepting those who don't choose the path of religion allow for ALL to move into peace?
I don’t think it is necessary to obtain forgiveness in order to “move into peace”.

I think it is important to differentiate between the two separate issues involved in “repentance”:
1) a change of thought and action to correct a wrong
2) gain forgiveness from the one wronged

The change of thought and action to correct a wrong falls into the realm of personal ethics. It is the essential factor in attaining inner peace. As “wrong” is an entirely subjective evaluation, so “correcting a wrong” brings about an entirely subjective state of “rightness” which is personal peace. This really has nothing to do with anyone else’s (i.e. “the wronged person’s”) evaluation of right and/or wrong. In this sense, it is absolutely true that “we ALL have within our selve's the ability to pass through this process with or without religion”. But the simple fact that the rightness is completely subjective makes the forgiveness of another important only if that forgiveness is the only means of verifying that the wrong has actually be corrected. In other words, the inner peace comes from the personal knowledge that the wrong has been corrected, not from the forgiveness of another. In fact, the act of forgiving intrinsically brings inner peace to the “forgiver”, not the “forgivee”.

For that reason, I see the requirement for “repentance” as being a subversion of one’s personal integrity. Requiring repentance serves no purpose other than to allow one person to impose their personal code of ethics on another.



I SO completely agree, Sky!

The actual definition/translation of the NT Greek word Metanoia that I found didn't include the "forgiveness" component as did the two OT Hebrew words representing repentance:

NT (Greek) Translation:
To perceive, to think, the result of perceiving or observing. "To think differently after".

An after-thought, different from the former thought; a change of mind accompanied by regret and change of conduct, "change of mind and heart", or, "change of consciousness".


SkyHook wrote:

I don’t think it is necessary to obtain forgiveness in order to “move into peace”.


Again... I concur.

Although, there is the self-forgiveness component to perhaps consider.

Actually, self-forgiveness isn't really the word or description I'm getting at... Perhaps Acknowledgment, Understanding and Acceptance would better fit for me.



splendidlife's photo
Wed 10/15/08 01:15 PM



Christians have no tolerance for other people's beliefs at all.


Perhaps this will seem ridiculously naive...

Perhaps if they didn't feel that their beliefs were being challenged, they'd wish more to relate.


I agree except when I state my opinion or belief about the bible or Christianity, the religious get highly offended and feel personally attacked.

My beliefs are my own and belong to me. I do not ask for acceptance nor approval. I just state my belief and opinion.

When I am "threatened" by their hell or some other "threat" it is of no consequence to me but it makes me frustrated because I do not "threaten" them with my version of hell if they continue to believe their way.

I don't take it personally when someone disagrees with me so maybe that is the difference.


Perhaps there is a distinction to be made between the religious and those Fundamentalist Christians who are so hugely invested in proving they're absolutely and completely correct.

splendidlife's photo
Wed 10/15/08 01:17 PM

I get a chance to think differently everyday. I have noticed it especially with people that are over me since sometimes I don't think they see my point of view or care less if I have a point of view differently than theirs. It allows me to be more forgiving of others which helps me to get along with others. Sometimes it makes me wonder if having a point of view or even an opinion is like something evil. It seems like some days I have a better day if I just run on remote and just act brain dead. I think too much anyways.:smile:


Where we not given the capacity to think and question the world around us for good purpose?

SkyHook5652's photo
Wed 10/15/08 02:09 PM
SkyHook wrote:

I don’t think it is necessary to obtain forgiveness in order to “move into peace”.


Again... I concur.

Although, there is the self-forgiveness component to perhaps consider.

Actually, self-forgiveness isn't really the word or description I'm getting at... Perhaps Acknowledgment, Understanding and Acceptance would better fit for me.
I see where you're going. Aside from the ethical component, there is an emotional component.

There is righting of the wrong.

But there is also the mitigation of guilt.

Rather than an apathetic, reactive thing as in "I'm resigned to it because there's nothing I can do about it." It's a self-determined, pro-active thing, as in "Why dwell on the wrongness in the past when there is the rightness in the present."

Of course, that's assuming that it can be done self-determinedly. If one cannot attain the inner peace without the forgiveness of another, then you enter into the land of “co-dependency”, which is an entirely different problem. :smile: