Oh Hello there <<< Mitch >>> ...

yes, that photo is cute....

see

there's nothing wrong

with being honest about who you are

<<< Exactly >>>....

please explain how the posting of a picture ensures safety or deters scammers?

yes...there should be something else...

i'd be willing to go back through registration...

some stricter initial process to clear me....

knowing that everyone else

will have to jump through those same hoops

OP while what you are suggesting/asking makes sense, keep in mind that will not fight off any scammers at all. May make it harder for some to get thru for a while, but in the end, once a scammer has their mindset on doing something nothing will hinder it. Not even a registration process nor fees.

People have a tendency of picking on the meek, that will not change, with making picture posting mandatory, registration process or fees. jmo

coming from a guy that only has a pic of a dog that isnt you is it?

I'm gonna be blunt. I took my picture offline because I got an email from a guy saying he was masterbating to it. The idea of anyone haveing access to my image & me not having control over what they are using it for is upsetting.

I have seen that many of the rudest, most hateful & biggotted people here have photos up that may or may not be them , who knows for sure?

I never try to mislead people about my appearance or identity. I keep saying I am an old, fat, ugly cat lady. I have a lot of fun with the "hen" & if anyone asks me for naked pictures now, I love it!

this site is for adults 18 plus.... as adults you are supposed to know what to do yourself to keep yourself safe.... gimme a break you want jsh to do background searches on everyone? why should they pay for that? do your own background searches...jsh is not here to babysit you. people even falsify information too so what good would that do when they run someone elses name? or social security from someone who did identy theft? if they are a creep they and want to be on here that is all they would do anyway....

can you tell I am so against posting pics
and why should not matter? it's a personal choice, like those that do post pics chose to do so.

If what I look like dictates whether we can be friends, then the way I see it, pass me right on by please, not my loss

Exactly!!!use your good old common sense

I didn't address that in my post, but I agree with Fran.

but i have a memory of when u did have a pic....

yes. i understand the points you are making here...
and they are all valid...

I'm just trying to find detourants...
.so the scammers don't just flood the front gates....


i don't know,
maybe this isn't exactly the same thing,

but kind of an analogy....


I ride a bike in the city....
a lot of bikes get stolen here ...

Mine isn't the most expensive,
but it isn't the cheapest either...

now, i know that if someone
wants something bad enough
he'll do what he can to get that thing...

i also know
that if you put up more of an opposition...

the perpetrator will go elsewhere
and try for an easier situation...

so, if a person wants to steal a bike...

he will more than likely
pass up on mine...

with three Kryptonite locks
and Master Locks on it

and with the seat gone...


it makes it less comfortable,
less desireable
and much more of a challenge

and all those locks and the lack of a seat
will bring more attention on the person
trying to steal it ...

of course , we have to practice common sense

but if we put up a greater wall of defense

maybe they will give up

and go elsewhere

& there won't be such an influx

of predators here ...

the mind is the first that goes

I can understand the reasons that some want everyone to have pictures of themselves. But...I can also see the reasons for some that choose not to post pictures.

In reality I can grab pictures off any dating site I want to and several of the same person and pass it off as myself.

So I don't see how posting pictures will point out who is fake and who is not.

As far as scammers they pretty much have a certain way of doing things and if one keeps their eyes open they will finally catch these people.

But regardless if you talk to someone a year or 3 months even then at times you will never know for sure who they are unless you actually become very close to them. And then all you will know is what they choose to tell you and no more.

Yeah it is nice to see whom your talking to and all. But in reality you could get on a paid site and still get the run around believe me I do know that for a fact yep happened but I got him back so all was fair game in the end.

One just always be on the look out and report anyone that is using a picture that is a guarantee it is not them and report the scammers.

It is always up to the you to keep yourself safe. Do everything that you know in order not to be a victim. Even then there is no guarantee you will not be sucked into someone elses game.

maybe we can all chip in and get you a seat nessa,

i agree...

i do practice lots of common sense...

but i also try to cut people slack too...

OP scroll up I researched Eharmony there they charge you a membership fee yet you never truly know whether you will be accepted. over 8 million rejected after their fees were paid

Here's a deterrent for you (kryptonite/master locks)
if you get a bad feeling/vibe; follow your gutt.

if you feel someone is being untrue, chances are they did

if you feel unsafe, leave, stay clear

Be responsible for your choices, dont rely on the owners of any site to be responsible for you.

jmo

thanks very much , Kristi


We all need to be careful

and it doesn't hurt
to reinforce these precautions
with one another
to keep them fresh in our minds